You AF Katerina Barron

So how do we break cycles? like truly. 
When we have experienced trauma and we live in survival  mode it's often really hard to change. Because Change = Danger
So the key to lasting change is slow steady creation of emotional safety that doesn't set off our alarm system. 
In today's episode I nerded the eff out about how trauma affects the brain and nervous system and how understanding this can help us take the necessary steps to changing patterns that are no longer serving us. 
If you love a scientific explaination for why we are the way we are, this episode is for you. 
It will arm you with the knowlege and first steps to making lasting change for yourself, your children and extend to the greater community. 
Enjoy. 
 
This is the article a cited a bit in this episode. https://www.wholewellnesstherapy.com/post/trauma-and-the-brain
 
Here is the link to waitlist for the Repair Focused Approach to Parenting Workshop so you will be the first to know when I set a date. 
 
And here is the link to the How to NOT F*ck Up Your Kids Workbook.

Something you hear a lot in the parenting coach circles is "meet the need behind the behavior." This means that no behavior is bad, rather simply a communication that there is a need.
I take this to the next level and require we "believe" the need behind the behavior is  valid and worthy of being met no matter the way it's communicated.
When we question the needs and insert our thoughts and decide whether our children really need what they are asking for that's where it gets messy. 
Understanding that we all have needs and our needs are valid and inherently worthy of being met is a crucial piece of healing our own wounds and teaching our kids to honor themselves and others. 
In this episode I share the importants of understanding the different layers of human needs from basics like food, water & safety to love & belonging. 
The understanding of these layers, not only helps us learn how to move from surviving to thriving but also leads to viewing the world in a more equitable way. 
This conversation not only feels necessary, but timely in shifting the communal conciously. 
The conversation of the inherent worthiness of needs being met that we have in our homes, helps instill a family value of equity as our children start to relate to the greater community. 
 
Want to learn more about how I tie equity into my parenting framework? Join me May 29th for the "How to NOT F*ck Up Your Kids" Workshop. 
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The secret to emotional security is not having your emotional needs met all the time. It's creating predictability for the nervous system that even when your needs aren't met in the moment or you don't feel connected to another human in the moment, that eventually it will happen. 
 
Kids don't need you to be a perfect parent they just need to know that no matter what that you will be there for them and love them and meet their emotional needs ENOUGH of the time. Not ALL of the time. 
When I started to understand this, my parenting approach shifted because I was able to release shame of feeling like a failure. 
 
Listen to hear more about this concept and personal stories and reflections about how I apply this to my own life. 
 
This episode is the third, in a 6 part series where we explore breaking generational cycles so our kids won’t have to. 

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Have you ever been going about your day just minding your own business, then you get triggered and all of a sudden you become your mother? Or your father? 
 
This episode of the Cycle Breaker series we are talking about Generational Trauma Patterns. How they are passed down and why and the first step to start breaking them.
A deep dive into the science of cycle breaking will happen later in the series, but this week we are setting the foundation.
 
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Article about survival styles is right here.

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You are not a bad parent. 
You just need more resources and support. 
Let’s talk about the fucking overwhelm of parenting and where it actually comes from. Shall we? 
 
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We will be exploring How to Break Generational and Societal Trauma Cycles so our kids won’t have to. 
First Step: Naming that parenting under these circumstances is hard and it’s not only ok, but necessary to say these things out loud. 
 
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I invited my friend Jessica to share her Evolution of Healing Journey. 
Jessica is an astrologer, coach, hypnotherapist and the cutest human ever. 
This conversation was so rich. 
We talked about loss as the catalyst for change, giving yourself permission to have boundaries, leaning on nature as a resource for healing and how Jessica calls on the support of her ancestors. I also loved the way Jessica described caring for herself in hard moments as a wise adult caring for a child and meeting their specific needs.  

Disclaimer: We talked about loss of a family member during the pandemic. We also talk displacement due to war. I also want to acknowledge the nuance and layers of this conversation and being a white bodied person experiencing trauma then ending up in a colonized space. That there is a privilege in finding safety after trauma. And this to me as a trauma informed coach and human is necessary to mention. And I also believe these conversations are necessary to have on our path to healing. Grappling with all the layers that exist within in. Including privilege when you hold it. 
You can find Jessica @northernatlas & northernatlas.co
If you are on a healing journey and are curious to know what it would look like to work with me on your own Evolution of Healing, take advantage of my free 30 minute clarity call. 
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