Sex Ed with DB

Danielle Bezalel, MPH: Sex Educator | Pleasure Expert | Rom-Com Critic
Sex Ed with DB

NEW SERIES! Welcome to Rom-Com Vom: where in every episode we go under the covers with a beloved rom-com, strip away its hidden toxic messages, and rewrite the script on love + sex. ABOUT ROM-COM VOM: Did our favorite rom-coms we adored growing up totally warp our ideas about love, relationships, dating, and sex? Spoiler alert: they sure did, and we’re here to talk about it! Join DB (Sex Educator & Pleasure Expert) and her renowned guests like Franchesca Ramsey (Comedian), Logan Ury (Dating Coach), Justine Kay and Natasha Scott-Reichel (Hosts of 2 Black Girls, 1 Rose), Reed Amber and Florence Bark (Hosts of Come Curious), and more as we dissect popular rom-coms like You’ve Got Mail, Never Been Kissed, 10 Things I Hate About You, Twilight, Hitch, How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days, and more. We’ll dive into the swoon-worthy moments and cringe-worthy toxic lessons, unpacking how these movies shaped (and messed up) our views on healthy relationships and what sex should be like. And don’t worry—we’re rewriting the script with ideas on how these films could’ve done better. This series is perfect for fans of sex-positive podcasts, film nostalgia, feminist cultural critiques, and anyone ready to challenge outdated love tropes. -- Sex Ed with DB is your go-to podcast for smart, science-backed sex education—delivering trusted insights from top experts on sex, sexuality, and pleasure. Empowering, inclusive, and grounded in real science, it’s the sex ed you’ve always wanted. ABOUT SEX ED WITH DB: Take a second and think back to the sex education you had in school. Did it prepare you to have a healthy and happy relationship with sex and identity? If it was anything like DB’s, it was stigmatizing, judgmental, and totally unhelpful. But not to worry, the experts are here to offer the sex ed you wish you had. We cover an array of sex education topics like orgasms, abortion, pornography, fetishes and kinks, pleasure, consent and boundaries, healthy relationships, LGBTQIA+ mental health and sexual health, LGBTQIA+ relationships, coming out, sexual dysfunction and pain during sex, birth control, sex in the media, Queer stories, and so much more. We believe that everyone deserves comprehensive, inclusive, pleasure-centered, feminist, medically-accurate sex education. On the show, DB and sexual health expert guests break down your most curious sex questions like “Am I pregnant?” or “How can I have a stronger orgasm?” or “How do I keep the spark alive in a long-term relationship?” or “How often should I be having sex?” or “What are common sexual fetishes?” or “What are the benefits of masturbation?” Tune in for expert insights and candid conversations redefining sexual health and empowerment! -- ABOUT DB: Danielle Bezalel (she/her), aka DB, has a Master of Public Health from Columbia University with expertise in sexuality, sexual, and reproductive health. DB is a leading voice in inclusive and medically accurate sex education. She tackles taboo topics with humor and expertise because no question is TMI when it comes to learning more about your body and pleasure. With 10 years of sex ed experience and features in Netflix, Mashable, Bustle, SELF, and more, DB empowers listeners to challenge taboos, rethink outdated narratives, and embrace sexual health and pleasure with confidence. Learn more at www.sexedwithdb.com and email DB at sexedwithdb@gmail.com.

  1. 8 HR AGO

    Forbidden Flirtation and Teacher-Student Scandals in "Never Been Kissed" (Rom-Com Vom)

    This week on Rom Com Vom, DB unpacks one of her all-time favorites with Dirty Lola: Never Been Kissed! We dig into Drew Barrymore’s questionable return to high school, the ethics that didn’t make the cut, and the red flags hiding in plain sight. Join us as we dissect the weird age gaps, misguided romance, and all the moments that make this ‘90s classic a little harder to watch now… even though we love it. —— Want to Win a $100 Lion’s Den Gift Card? We want to hear from YOU! Fill out our quick ANONYMOUS survey to help us improve the podcast and you’ll be entered for a chance to win a $100 gift card to Lion’s Den—your go-to for all things pleasure and intimacy. It’s fast, easy, and your feedback helps us keep bringing you the sex ed content you love. Don't miss out—click the link to get started! 🎉 https://bit.ly/4fhr1sC —— SEXUAL HEALTH PROS! Check out DB’s workshop: Building A Profitable Online Sexual Health Brand (https://www.sexedwithdb.com/workshop). Want to get in touch with Sex Ed with DB? Email us at sexedwithdb@gmail.com. —— Follow Sex Ed with DB on: Instagram: @sexedwithdbpodcast TikTok: @sexedwithdb Twitter : @sexedwithdb Threads: @sexedwithdbpodcast YouTube: Sex Ed with DB Rep your favorite sex ed podcast with our brand new merch! Sign up for our newsletter with BTS content and exclusive giveaways here. —— About Sex Ed with DB: Sex Ed with DB is a feminist podcast bringing you all the sex ed you never got through unique and entertaining storytelling, centering LGBTQ+ and BIPOC experts. We discuss topics such as birth control, pleasure, LGBTQ+ health and rights, abortion, consent, BDSM, sex and disability, HIV, sex in the media, and more.  —— Sex Ed with DB, Rom Com Vom Team: Creator, Host, Executive Producer: Danielle Bezalel (DB) Producer: Sadie Lidji Communications Lead: Cathren Cohen Content Creation: Mitch Coburn and Emm-Kirsty Fraser

    34 min
  2. 20 NOV

    Heart, Hustle, and Heartbreak in "Love & Basketball" (Rom-Com Vom)

    DB and Mariah from Sex Ed Files take on Love and Basketball, the romance that made “play me for your heart” a defining relationship move. They dive into Monica and Quincy’s chemistry, debate if love should ever be this competitive, and wonder… could Love and Basketball actually be one of the healthiest rom-coms out there? Thanks to our sponsor for this episode, carafem! Learn more about carafem here: bit.ly/carafem-db. Check out their abortion campaign in Times Square: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexedwithdb/video/7363410853544217898" —— Meet Mariah, a passionate sex educator and digital learning designer committed to promoting inclusivity and equity in sex education. Her social media presence as the Sex Ed Files allows her to bridge the gap between traditional, school-based sex ed and social media. Mariah makes complex topics more accessible and relatable by creating inclusive, medically-accurate and pleasure-centered sex ed videos and infographics. —— Want to Win a $100 Lion’s Den Gift Card? We want to hear from YOU! Fill out our quick ANONYMOUS survey to help us improve the podcast and you’ll be entered for a chance to win a $100 gift card to Lion’s Den—your go-to for all things pleasure and intimacy. It’s fast, easy, and your feedback helps us keep bringing you the sex ed content you love. Don't miss out—click the link to get started! 🎉 https://bit.ly/4fhr1sC —— SEXUAL HEALTH PROS! Check out DB’s workshop: Building A Profitable Online Sexual Health Brand (https://www.sexedwithdb.com/workshop). Want to get in touch with Sex Ed with DB? Email us at sexedwithdb@gmail.com. —— Follow Sex Ed with DB on: Instagram: @sexedwithdbpodcast TikTok: @sexedwithdb Twitter : @sexedwithdb Threads: @sexedwithdbpodcast YouTube: Sex Ed with DB Rep your favorite sex ed podcast with our brand new merch! Sign up for our newsletter with BTS content and exclusive giveaways here. —— About Sex Ed with DB: Sex Ed with DB is a feminist podcast bringing you all the sex ed you never got through unique and entertaining storytelling, centering LGBTQ+ and BIPOC experts. We discuss topics such as birth control, pleasure, LGBTQ+ health and rights, abortion, consent, BDSM, sex and disability, HIV, sex in the media, and more.  —— Sex Ed with DB, Rom Com Vom Team: Creator, Host, Executive Producer: Danielle Bezalel (DB) Producer: Sadie Lidji Communications Lead: Cathren Cohen Content Creation: Mitch Coburn and Emm-Kirsty Fraser

    34 min
  3. 13 NOV · BONUS

    Fatphobia, but Make It Romance in "Shallow Hal" (Rom-Com Vom)

    DB teams up with Jill Lissner, go-to sex ed princess, to break down the veritable, undeniable fat-shaming mess that is Shallow Hal. It’s the vommiest of rom-coms, and we’re not holding back, folks! Join us as we dig into the dated humor, glaring double standards, and take a hard look at why fatness is treated like the ultimate punchline onscreen. It’s a rough watch, and we’re here to roast it all! Podcasts Mentioned https://open.spotify.com/episode/3AZBXG7ySoUtvksem7bc0S - Tony Robins Episode of Sounds like a Cult https://open.spotify.com/episode/40fFERgscLJxWmCCgn9xBf - Gwyneth Paltrow & Goop Episode of Maintenance Phase Ivy Snitzer https://www.latimes.com/entertainment-arts/movies/story/2023-08-24/gwyneth-paltrow-shallow-hal-body-double-body-image - Ivy Snitzer Article Aubrey Gordon https://www.yrfatfriendfilm.com/ - Aubrey Gordon Documentary website https://www.aubreygordon.net/ - More about Aubrey Gordon and her fat activism work on her website Fat Activists, Advocates, Creators, Therapists, & Educators to check out: fatpositivetherapist - Kayla Stansberry (she/her) fatchicanafeminist (she/her) fatfabfeminist - Victoria (she/her) thefatsextherapist - Sonalee (they/he) fatjoy life - Fat Joy Podcast with Sophia Apostol (she/her) fatgirlflow - Corissa Enneking (she/they) ash fatlip - Ash (she/they) fatangryblackgirl - Catherine (she/they) itsmaryfrann - Mary Fran (she/her) —— Jill is a sex educator, speaker, content creator, and doctoral student in human sexuality. She takes a fun and feminine approach to teaching her online community about reproductive health, LGBTQIA+ rights, and all things sex ed! —— Want to Win a $100 Lion’s Den Gift Card? We want to hear from YOU! Fill out our quick ANONYMOUS survey to help us improve the podcast and you’ll be entered for a chance to win a $100 gift card to Lion’s Den—your go-to for all things pleasure and intimacy. It’s fast, easy, and your feedback helps us keep bringing you the sex ed content you love. Don't miss out—click the link to get started! 🎉 https://bit.ly/4fhr1sC —— SEXUAL HEALTH PROS! Check out DB’s workshop: Building A Profitable Online Sexual Health Brand (https://www.sexedwithdb.com/workshop). Want to get in touch with Sex Ed with DB? Email us at sexedwithdb@gmail.com. —— Follow Sex Ed with DB on: Instagram: @sexedwithdbpodcast TikTok: @sexedwithdb Twitter : @sexedwithdb Threads: @sexedwithdbpodcast YouTube: Sex Ed with DB Rep your favorite sex ed podcast with our brand new merch! Sign up for our newsletter with BTS content and exclusive giveaways here. —— About Sex Ed with DB: Sex Ed with DB is a feminist podcast bringing you all the sex ed you never got through unique and entertaining storytelling, centering LGBTQ+ and BIPOC experts. We discuss topics such as birth control, pleasure, LGBTQ+ health and rights, abortion, consent, BDSM, sex and disability, HIV, sex in the media, and more.  —— Sex Ed with DB, Rom Com Vom Team: Creator, Host, Executive Producer: Danielle Bezalel (DB) Producer: Sadie Lidji Communications Lead: Cathren Cohen Content Creation: Mitch Coburn and Emm-Kirsty Fraser

    34 min
  4. 6 NOV · BONUS

    Consent Takes a Vacation in “50 First Dates” (Rom-Com Vom)

    DB and Bre Vergess dive into 50 First Dates, where Adam Sandler’s Henry courts Drew Barrymore’s Lucy… every single day. They break down the film’s take on love, consent, and the tricky territory of dating someone who can’t remember you. Is it sweet, or just deeply unsettling?  —— Bre is a tech professional who has spent the last decade plus in Product development, and currently working to make mental health support more accessible through tech-enabled solutions. Passionate about leveraging technology for social good, Bre has dedicated her career to enhancing the lives of individuals and communities by bringing technology and innovation to public, nonprofit, and health sectors. —— Want to Win a $100 Lion’s Den Gift Card? We want to hear from YOU! Fill out our quick ANONYMOUS survey to help us improve the podcast and you’ll be entered for a chance to win a $100 gift card to Lion’s Den—your go-to for all things pleasure and intimacy. It’s fast, easy, and your feedback helps us keep bringing you the sex ed content you love. Don't miss out—click the link to get started! 🎉 https://bit.ly/4fhr1sC —— SEXUAL HEALTH PROS! Check out DB’s workshop: Building A Profitable Online Sexual Health Brand (https://www.sexedwithdb.com/workshop). Want to get in touch with Sex Ed with DB? Email us at sexedwithdb@gmail.com. —— Follow Sex Ed with DB on: Instagram: @sexedwithdbpodcast TikTok: @sexedwithdb Twitter : @sexedwithdb Threads: @sexedwithdbpodcast YouTube: Sex Ed with DB Rep your favorite sex ed podcast with our brand new merch! Sign up for our newsletter with BTS content and exclusive giveaways here. —— About Sex Ed with DB: Sex Ed with DB is a feminist podcast bringing you all the sex ed you never got through unique and entertaining storytelling, centering LGBTQ+ and BIPOC experts. We discuss topics such as birth control, pleasure, LGBTQ+ health and rights, abortion, consent, BDSM, sex and disability, HIV, sex in the media, and more.  —— Sex Ed with DB, Rom Com Vom Team: Creator, Host, Executive Producer: Danielle Bezalel (DB) Producer: Sadie Lidji Communications Lead: Cathren Cohen Content Creation: Mitch Coburn and Emm-Kirsty Fraser

    32 min
  5. 30 OCT · BONUS

    Love Sucks in “Twilight” (Rom-Com Vom)

    DB and the delightful Florence Bark and Reed Amber from Come Curious dissect Twilight, the film that made eternal love seem… exhausting! They question the appeal of a 100-year-old high schooler, debate whether they’re Team Edward, Team Jacob, or just Team Therapy, and wonder if this series might be to blame for all our worst relationship choices. And despite all the cringe, our brave hosts ask... why does this stupid movie still turn us on?! —— Want to Win a $100 Lion’s Den Gift Card? We want to hear from YOU! Fill out our quick ANONYMOUS survey to help us improve the podcast and you’ll be entered for a chance to win a $100 gift card to Lion’s Den—your go-to for all things pleasure and intimacy. It’s fast, easy, and your feedback helps us keep bringing you the sex ed content you love. Don't miss out—click the link to get started! 🎉 https://bit.ly/4fhr1sC —— SEXUAL HEALTH PROS! Check out DB’s workshop: Building A Profitable Online Sexual Health Brand (https://www.sexedwithdb.com/workshop). Want to get in touch with Sex Ed with DB? Email us at sexedwithdb@gmail.com. —— Follow Sex Ed with DB on: Instagram: @sexedwithdbpodcast TikTok: @sexedwithdb Twitter : @sexedwithdb Threads: @sexedwithdbpodcast YouTube: Sex Ed with DB Rep your favorite sex ed podcast with our brand new merch! Sign up for our newsletter with BTS content and exclusive giveaways here. —— About Sex Ed with DB: Sex Ed with DB is a feminist podcast bringing you all the sex ed you never got through unique and entertaining storytelling, centering LGBTQ+ and BIPOC experts. We discuss topics such as birth control, pleasure, LGBTQ+ health and rights, abortion, consent, BDSM, sex and disability, HIV, sex in the media, and more.  —— Sex Ed with DB, Rom Com Vom Team: Creator, Host, Executive Producer: Danielle Bezalel (DB) Producer: Sadie Lidji Communications Lead: Cathren Cohen Content Creation: Mitch Coburn and Emm-Kirsty Fraser

    32 min
  6. 23 OCT

    Bad Boys, Table Dancing, and 90s Misogyny in "10 Things I Hate About You" (Rom-Com Vom)

    In this episode of Rom Com Vom, DB and the hilarious Melissa Strype, comedian and director, tackle 10 Things I Hate About You, the 90s rom-com that gave us table dancing, horny principals, and a fine AF young Heath Ledger. Is Patrick Verona charming or just manipulative? What moments made DB and Melissa cringe the hardest? And seriously... what do all these boys see in Bianca? —— Melissa Strype is a comedian and director based in Los Angeles. She creates at the intersection of comedy and sexual health education and she’s passionate about making work that skyrockets viewers to extreme levels of empowerment. —— Want to Win a $100 Lion’s Den Gift Card? We want to hear from YOU! Fill out our quick ANONYMOUS survey to help us improve the podcast and you’ll be entered for a chance to win a $100 gift card to Lion’s Den—your go-to for all things pleasure and intimacy. It’s fast, easy, and your feedback helps us keep bringing you the sex ed content you love. Don't miss out—click the link to get started! 🎉 https://bit.ly/4fhr1sC —— SEXUAL HEALTH PROS! Check out DB’s workshop: Building A Profitable Online Sexual Health Brand (https://www.sexedwithdb.com/workshop). Want to get in touch with Sex Ed with DB? Email us at sexedwithdb@gmail.com. —— Follow Sex Ed with DB on: Instagram: @sexedwithdbpodcast TikTok: @sexedwithdb Twitter : @sexedwithdb Threads: @sexedwithdbpodcast YouTube: Sex Ed with DB Rep your favorite sex ed podcast with our brand new merch! Sign up for our newsletter with BTS content and exclusive giveaways here. —— About Sex Ed with DB: Sex Ed with DB is a feminist podcast bringing you all the sex ed you never got through unique and entertaining storytelling, centering LGBTQ+ and BIPOC experts. We discuss topics such as birth control, pleasure, LGBTQ+ health and rights, abortion, consent, BDSM, sex and disability, HIV, sex in the media, and more.  —— Sex Ed with DB, Rom Com Vom Team: Creator, Host, Executive Producer: Danielle Bezalel (DB) Producer: Sadie Lidji Communications Lead: Cathren Cohen Content Creation: Mitch Coburn and Emm-Kirsty Fraser

    33 min
  7. 16 OCT · BONUS

    You've Got Red Flags in "You’ve Got Mail" (Rom-Com Vom)

    In this episode of Rom Com Vom, DB and the incredible Logan Ury, dating coach and author, break down You’ve Got Mail, the 1998 rom-com that taught us all to fall in love through email (or did it?). They dive into the film’s exploration of online romance, corporate takeovers, and questionable meet-cute ethics, discussing what still warms our hearts and what belongs in the trash folder.  —— Logan Ury is a behavioral scientist turned dating coach and the author of the bestselling book How to Not Die Alone: The Surprising Science That Will Help You Find Love. She works as Hinge’s Director of Relationship Science, conducting research on modern dating. She also writes the popular weekly newsletter — Logan's Love Letter. —— Want to Win a $100 Lion’s Den Gift Card? We want to hear from YOU! Fill out our quick ANONYMOUS survey to help us improve the podcast and you’ll be entered for a chance to win a $100 gift card to Lion’s Den—your go-to for all things pleasure and intimacy. It’s fast, easy, and your feedback helps us keep bringing you the sex ed content you love. Don't miss out—click the link to get started! 🎉 https://bit.ly/4fhr1sC —— SEXUAL HEALTH PROS! Check out DB’s workshop: Building A Profitable Online Sexual Health Brand (https://www.sexedwithdb.com/workshop). Want to get in touch with Sex Ed with DB? Email us at sexedwithdb@gmail.com. —— Follow Sex Ed with DB on: Instagram: @sexedwithdbpodcast TikTok: @sexedwithdb Twitter : @sexedwithdb Threads: @sexedwithdbpodcast YouTube: Sex Ed with DB Rep your favorite sex ed podcast with our brand new merch! Sign up for our newsletter with BTS content and exclusive giveaways here. —— About Sex Ed with DB: Sex Ed with DB is a feminist podcast bringing you all the sex ed you never got through unique and entertaining storytelling, centering LGBTQ+ and BIPOC experts. We discuss topics such as birth control, pleasure, LGBTQ+ health and rights, abortion, consent, BDSM, sex and disability, HIV, sex in the media, and more.  —— Sex Ed with DB, Rom Com Vom Team: Creator, Host, Executive Producer: Danielle Bezalel (DB) Producer: Sadie Lidji Communications Lead: Cathren Cohen Content Creation: Mitch Coburn and Emm-Kirsty Fraser

    32 min

About

NEW SERIES! Welcome to Rom-Com Vom: where in every episode we go under the covers with a beloved rom-com, strip away its hidden toxic messages, and rewrite the script on love + sex. ABOUT ROM-COM VOM: Did our favorite rom-coms we adored growing up totally warp our ideas about love, relationships, dating, and sex? Spoiler alert: they sure did, and we’re here to talk about it! Join DB (Sex Educator & Pleasure Expert) and her renowned guests like Franchesca Ramsey (Comedian), Logan Ury (Dating Coach), Justine Kay and Natasha Scott-Reichel (Hosts of 2 Black Girls, 1 Rose), Reed Amber and Florence Bark (Hosts of Come Curious), and more as we dissect popular rom-coms like You’ve Got Mail, Never Been Kissed, 10 Things I Hate About You, Twilight, Hitch, How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days, and more. We’ll dive into the swoon-worthy moments and cringe-worthy toxic lessons, unpacking how these movies shaped (and messed up) our views on healthy relationships and what sex should be like. And don’t worry—we’re rewriting the script with ideas on how these films could’ve done better. This series is perfect for fans of sex-positive podcasts, film nostalgia, feminist cultural critiques, and anyone ready to challenge outdated love tropes. -- Sex Ed with DB is your go-to podcast for smart, science-backed sex education—delivering trusted insights from top experts on sex, sexuality, and pleasure. Empowering, inclusive, and grounded in real science, it’s the sex ed you’ve always wanted. ABOUT SEX ED WITH DB: Take a second and think back to the sex education you had in school. Did it prepare you to have a healthy and happy relationship with sex and identity? If it was anything like DB’s, it was stigmatizing, judgmental, and totally unhelpful. But not to worry, the experts are here to offer the sex ed you wish you had. We cover an array of sex education topics like orgasms, abortion, pornography, fetishes and kinks, pleasure, consent and boundaries, healthy relationships, LGBTQIA+ mental health and sexual health, LGBTQIA+ relationships, coming out, sexual dysfunction and pain during sex, birth control, sex in the media, Queer stories, and so much more. We believe that everyone deserves comprehensive, inclusive, pleasure-centered, feminist, medically-accurate sex education. On the show, DB and sexual health expert guests break down your most curious sex questions like “Am I pregnant?” or “How can I have a stronger orgasm?” or “How do I keep the spark alive in a long-term relationship?” or “How often should I be having sex?” or “What are common sexual fetishes?” or “What are the benefits of masturbation?” Tune in for expert insights and candid conversations redefining sexual health and empowerment! -- ABOUT DB: Danielle Bezalel (she/her), aka DB, has a Master of Public Health from Columbia University with expertise in sexuality, sexual, and reproductive health. DB is a leading voice in inclusive and medically accurate sex education. She tackles taboo topics with humor and expertise because no question is TMI when it comes to learning more about your body and pleasure. With 10 years of sex ed experience and features in Netflix, Mashable, Bustle, SELF, and more, DB empowers listeners to challenge taboos, rethink outdated narratives, and embrace sexual health and pleasure with confidence. Learn more at www.sexedwithdb.com and email DB at sexedwithdb@gmail.com.

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