Love Marriage Again with Dr. Chavonne Dr. Chavonne Perotte: Transformational coach, author, and speaker.

When you experience challenges in your life or marriage it can be easy to become hyper-focused on what's going wrong. Your brain will naturally want to ruminate on how bad things are, how disappointed you are feeling, and how unhappy your situation is making you.However, the more you focus on what's going wrong, the more things go wrong. That's because your thoughts and beliefs direct your actions and responses. In this episode, I'm sharing the power of focusing on what you WANT as the way to create positive shifts. The simple process of The Pivot will help you experience more contentment, happiness and fulfillment. If you'd like to feel better and start having more positive experiences in your marriage and life overall, this podcast episode will give you the perspective and necessary steps to do that.And if you are ready to have me as your coach guiding you through this work week by week, I invite you to schedule a complimentary consultation call with me by visiting my website: DrChavonne.com (DrChavonne.com)

One of the most important skills to develop toward the path of greater fulfillment in life is to be able to honor yourself. Honoring yourself is a beautiful act of self love. It's you standing for you.However, many people have the wrong idea of what this actually looks like.In this episode of the podcast, I break down the 3 mistakes I see happen, that create unnecessary conflict and disconnection in your marriage.I also leave you with 7 specific ways to honor yourself that are effective and come from a place of love and respect, which leads to healthier. happier relationships overall. Also mentioned in this episode: I am accepting new coaching clients. If you're interested in working with me privately or one of my group coaching programs, visit my website at: DrChavonne.com (DrChavonne.com)

As human beings we are wired to judge. The idea of judgment helps us determine what is right and true for ourselves. It helps us discriminate and decide upon values, courses of action, and preferences. Inherently, it's not a bad thing.But in marriage, judgment often shows up as making yourself right and the other person wrong. This leads to communication issues, disconnection and conflict.In this episode, I'm tackling the topic of judgment, why it happens in the first place, as well as 4 specific and tangible benefits of releasing your judgment of each other. I also walk you through 3 steps to take in order to be less judgmental in your marriage towards your spouse.If you are looking to feel better, enjoy the time you spend together, and ultimately create a happy, connected marriage, this episode is for you.Also mentioned: Learn more about the ways to work with me and how my coaching approach can help you address any issues you are currently facing: DrChavonne.com (DrChavonne.com)

Emotions can be a BIG deal in your marriage. Feeling angry, frustrated, sad or disappointed greatly influences the way you show up and interact with your spouse. Many times, my clients experience such intense emotions that it's hard to get out of them and take the loving actions that will created connection and forward progress.In this episode of the podcast, we dive into the experience of being "in your feelings" where you have an emotional block keeping you stuck in a state of conflict and disconnection.I share the most common examples I see, why couples and individuals get stuck, and the 3 most important mindset shifts to help you move forward and actually create the loving, healthy connection you deeply desire.Also mentioned in this episode:Interested in learning more about the ways to work with me directly? Visit: DrChavonne.com (DrChavonne.com)

One of the most common questions I get asked is "what do you do when your spouse doesn't see the problems in your marriage?" Today I'm answering that question in detail with exactly what will help you move forward to have a better experience in your marriage.Inside this episode you will understand WHY your spouse may have a blind spot, and how you can think about it in a way that leads to less frustration and disappointment, and actually helps you to connect with them and understand them better.You'll also receive practical guidance for what you can do to get started creating positive shifts on your own.At the end, you can expect your marriage to be better, or you will have the clarity you need to understand if your spouse is someone you can truly be happy with.Tune in for this very real and honest conversation.Also mentioned in this episode:Communication Styles Masterclass - if you missed this value-packed training that outlined the 4 most common unhealthy communication styles and the 3 most important characeriistics of healthy communication, you can catch the replay here: https://drchavonne.com/communicationstylesreplay/ (https://drchavonne.com/communicationstylesreplay/)And if you want to have my direct help and support, walking you through the process shared in this podcast episode, I invite you to schedule a private consultation call with me where we will discuss options for how we can work together. Book your call here. (https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/)

Do you and your spouse take a long time to recover from certain arguments?In this podcast episode I'm diving into the topic of prolonged arguments - those times where one or both of you stay upset and in a state of conflict longer than you'd like. There are 5 main reasons this happens and it's important you understand exactly WHAT is contributing to this dynamic in your own marriage. I also share with you the three most important approaches that will help you repair quickly and get on to enjoying each other and feeling connected again.Also mentioned in this episode: Communication Styles Masterclass happening May 1st at 9pm EST. Join me live to learn more about how your specific Communication Styles may be in conflict and leading to the arguments you have. Register here: https://drchavonne.com/communication-styles/ (https://drchavonne.com/communication-styles/)