Hard truths about love | Jillian Turecki

Episode #348. Love isn’t just a feeling – it’s a skill. Relationship coach Jillian Turecki joins me to explore the habits, mindsets, and tools you need to build and sustain meaningful love.

We explore the role of self-esteem, how to navigate conflict, and what makes a relationship worth fighting for. Packed with insights on compatibility, healthy communication, and cultivating love, this episode offers practical advice for every stage of your relationship journey.

Specifically, we discuss:

• Love is a daily practice: How can we build it? (0:00)
• Understanding relationship breakdowns (8:18)
• How self-love shapes relationships (11:06)
• Challenges of loving ourselves (16:18)
• How to navigate conflict effectively (34:51)
• Addressing commitment and anxiety in love (40:00)
• When should you discuss your needs in a relationship? (43:44)
• The difference between connection and relationship (46:54)
• How to master conflict repair (49:48)
• Giving effective feedback in relationships (52:52)
• How to know when it’s time to leave (1:03:25)
• The rewards of a healthy relationship (1:09:45)
• Outro (1:14:50)

Jillian Turecki’s book, It Begins With You, is available here. Connect with her on Instagram, Twitter/X, and TikTok. Learn more about Jillian and discover her courses at https://www.jillianturecki.com/. Listen to Episode #273 with Jillian here.

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