Close Quarter Dad Adam Mitchell

Episode 56: Level up how you communicate with your children about conflict situationsIn this episode, we go deep in an insightful conversation with the experienced Mike Hammond, a retired Chicago homicide detective, to explore the crucial topic of helping children navigate the aftermath of conflicts or traumatic events.

Key highlights from the episode include:


Mike Hammond's emphasis on the importance of articulating reasons for using force in self-defense and teaching kids to articulate their actions to keep them out of trouble and avoid litigation.
Insights on the importance of teaching children safety and survival skills.
Discussions on the impact of acknowledging fear and trusting one's intuition in children, and the importance of teaching them self-defense and survival instincts.
Personal experiences shared by Mike Hammond and the challenges of dealing with violence while striking a balance between protective instincts and allowing children to have a normal childhood

Our conversation centers on the importance of training children on how to communicate after a conflict has occurred, including speaking with school teachers, principals, and law enforcement.

In addition, Mike offers practical advice on helping children effectively communicate their position and navigate fear, all while building self-confidence and resilience.

Check out Mike's Podcast, Detective Story with Mike Hammond

Instagram: @detectivestorymikehammond

Facebook: Detective Story Podcast w/Mike Hammond

 

About Mike Hammond: 

Mike is a retired Homicide Detective with the Chicago Police Department, A member of the Chicago Police Department for 22 years he was promoted to detective in 2000 where he served in Area Four Homicide Unit, Cold Case Homicide Unit and Area North Homicide until his retirement in 2016. He is a recipient of the Chicago Police Department Superintendents Award of Valor. Currently the host of Detective Story with Mike Hammond podcast which has a focus on victims and their families and discussions of actual cases and investigations.

 

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In this episode, "Parenting in a Sexualized World," we're joined by Dr. Tara, a professor at Cal State University specializing in sex behavior and sexual communication. Together with our host, Adam Mitchell, they discuss the complexities of raising children in a society saturated with sexualized content and the importance of open, empowering conversations about sexuality within families.

From redirecting sensation seeking energy to navigating exposure to pornography, they provide valuable insights and guidance on supporting children in understanding healthy relationships and boundaries.

Join us as we explore the vital role of fathers in addressing these difficult yet crucial topics, and the impact open communication can have on children's long-term well-being.

What you're going to learn in the episode with Dr. Tara:


Sensation Seeking Redirected: Redirecting sensation seeking energy to healthy activities. Natural impulses can be channeled positively. Encouraging sports and socialization.
Open Sexual Health Communication: Using correct vocabulary and initiating dialogue with questions. Parents should have open conversations without penalizing children.
Empowering Children's Boundaries: Empower children to communicate feelings and boundaries. Addressing boundary issues and teaching children to assert themselves.
Responsible Talks about Pornography: Addressing intense topics responsibly. Discussing appropriate sources of information and engaging in honest conversations about porn.
Fathers in Sexuality Conversations: Fathers being present in sex and masculinity discussions. Essential role of fathers in sexuality talks. Ancient wisdom and continuous learning.
Resources for Men's Sexuality: Encouraging men to educate themselves about their sexuality. Suggested books and websites for men to learn about their sexual health.
Challenges of Oversexualized World: Fathers facing difficulties in parenting. Concerns about children's exposure to oversexualization and inappropriate content.
The Danger of Pornography: Addressing dangers of children being exposed to pornography. Protecting children from being targeted by predators through porn channels.
Empowering Conversations about Sex: Encouraging open discussions and empowering children. Providing children with the knowledge and confidence to make smart choices.
Family Sex Communication Research: Understanding the impact of family sex communication. Research project on family sex communication and its association with young adults' sexual satisfaction.

 

Dr. Tara is a tenured professor of relational and sexual communication, and quantitative research at California State University Fullerton (recieved her tenure at the age of 33), an award-winning researcher, TV Sexpert on Celebs Go Dating, and the host of Luvbites by Dr. Tara Podcast that focuses on sexual wellness and sexploration. Her work has been featured in ABC News, Cosmopolitan, Women’s Health Magazine, Insider, and other media outlets. She's also on the advisory board for the MŌN app, Couply app, and Superstars app.

https://themonapp.com/

https://www.couply.io/luvbites

https://superstars.co/

 

In today's episode, host Adam Mitchell sits down with Matt McKee, VP at Bark and author of "Parenting in a Tech World," to dive deep into the challenges and opportunities of raising children in the digital age.

With a focus on purpose-driven technology use, child safety, and insightful parenting advice, you'll hear about the evolving landscape of online risks, the role of third-party monitoring services like Bark, and the impact of technology on mental health and relationships.

From practical tips to thought-provoking discussions, this episode is a must-listen for every parent navigating a tech-driven world. Stay tuned as we unpack the essential insights and guidance for fostering a healthy digital environment for our children.

What you will learn in this episode? 


Approaches to Monitoring Online Activities
Different parental attitudes toward monitoring children's online activities
Importance of establishing digital citizenship and an entrance/exit strategy for technology use
Focusing on the purpose of children using technology rather than the amount of time spent on it
Recommendation of services like Youth Digital to help kids learn coding through platforms like Minecraft
Advice for New Fathers
Bark: A Tool for Child Safety
Use of artificial intelligence to monitor children's activities on platforms like YouTube
Role of Bark as a third-party monitoring service and its focus on providing alerts and context around objectionable content to facilitate conversations
Broader range of risks online, such as mental health and cyberbullying, beyond just exposure to pornography
Preparing for Emerging Technological Landscape
Awareness and engagement with the metaverse

The Impact of Technology on Parenting: "The problem with technology today is parents don't know how to curate any type of environment."

 

Matt McKee is just another guy trying to make a difference.

Matt helped found three tech companies over the course of his career and invested in more than a dozen others. He was passionate about the intersection of parenting and technology and considered it one of his specialties, having spoken at places like SXSW, CES, and the National PTA.

Matt was the author of Parent Chat: The Technology Chat for Every Family and Parenting In A Tech World which enabled him to share what he learned about raising kids in the digital age.

Sadly, Matt passed away in 2023. Our community lost one of the good men, truly doing God's work. 

"Don't fight like hell. Win like heaven" 

 

What is the current state of Family Safety and as a man and father, are you prepared? Amber Elle, Director of Family Preparedness and the lead for women’s development at Fieldcraft Survival discusses family safety measures and exactly how to safeguard your loved ones. You'll learn:


The current state of safety and risk factors families are facing today
Immediate changes you can put in place in your home to keep children safe
How to create a family culture of safety through activities and connection
How and why ever father should be expanding their skillset for preparedness and self-reliance
A mother's perspective on what is needed for a home to be safe

As well, this episode covers various safety scenarios, such as home invasion, unlocked firearms, and personal safety in emergency situations. Amber stresses the importance of practical preparation, situational awareness, and communicating with loved ones in times of emergency. The goal of the episode is to help listeners create a lifestyle of preparedness and self-reliance, so they can have peace and feel empowered during times of turmoil.

Fieldcraft Survival

INSTAGRAM: @ms.amber.elle

ABOUT AMBER ELLE

Amber is our Director of Family Preparedness and the lead for women’s development. She is a mother to three adventurous children and leads their home education journey through living and rich experiences. She holds a bachelor of science degree in nursing with active licensure and maintains CPR and first aid certifications. She holds training as a classical education educator and has experience leading young adults in their studies. She has also led gun safety and situational awareness classes with local children’s groups. Amber loves maintaining a home garden, raising animals, hunting, cooking, and using her life to teach other families how to thrive in spite of their unique circumstances.

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ABOUT CLOSE QUARTER DAD

Close Quarter Dad is a project for fathers who are constantly seeking new skills and tactics to help enrich the lives of their children, making them safer, stronger and empowered. The YouTube channel offers tips and insights that Dads can use every day with their kids, teaching them and spending fun time together. We welcome the participation from Dads from all parts of the world, backgrounds and experience, as we re united in our roles as leaders.

This episode will educate you on the current state of abused children, how prevalent it really in and how you must have an immediate strategy for detecting children in danger.  

My guest in this episode is Katie Fetzer from 1018 Strategy who shares about the prevalence of child abuse and neglect and how the community can step up to prevent it.

We discuss the Watchful Eye Training that educates individuals on recognizing and responding to abuse. Katie also shares her personal experience with fostering and fighting for children in court.

Most important, we highlight the impact of cruelty and the need for parents to recognize and address it.   

KEY TOPICS WE EXPLORE WITH KATIE FETZER 


Katie's creation of 1018 Strategy 
How fathers can be aware and engage in preventing child abuse 
Why neglect is the most reported form of abuse 00:24:45 Why child poverty is prevalent but often unrecognized 
How unnoticed is child abuse, really?  
What you can do tp protecting children from abuse 
Why men need to be present, active, and engaged in their roles as fathers and protectors.  
How faith can help guide you to help children in extreme distress 
How men should not leave the role of protecting children to women alone  

The conversation ends on a powerful note about seeking justice and how her strong faith helps guide her to find justice for the children she helps. Tune in for a crucial discussion on protecting our most vulnerable.  

CONNECT WITH KATIE FETZER & 10.18 STRATEGY 

10.18 Strategy : https://1018strategy.org/ 

Watchful Eye Program: https://1018strategy.org/watchful-eye/ 

Contact 10.18 Strategy: info@1018strategy.org  

MORE ABOTU KATIE FETZER 

Katie is a frontline advocate, in the fight for America's children and helping you to develop a strategy for recognizing and helping children in danger and immediate distress. This is a critically important episode. Through a grassroots non-profit organization, 10.18 Strategy, she started with a group of moms.

They knew they had to do something about America's exploited children going unprotected. Their primary goal is "to remove safe spaces for predators and pedophiles within the United States.

By training citizens to recognize the tactics and patterns of exploitative behavior. Thereby safeguarding the children of their families and community!"  

START TRAINING YOUR KIDS NOW 

Here’s a complimentary lesson I made for channel listeners on the 3 Discussions you must have with your kids about safety and survival. It’s only ten minutes long, but could be a life saving 10 minutes of your time spent.  CloseQuarterDad.com/3Discussions  

CONNECT AND LEARN MORE

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On this episode of Close Quarter Dad, we explore the importance of teamwork, nature literacy, disaster preparedness, communication skills, and male empowerment in fatherhood. Listeners will learn the four survival priorities and how to prioritize them in different situations.

Toby also shares his experiences and practical tips on teaching and broadening urban survival skills, risk management and concepts specific for men wanting to elevate the children's knowledge in self reliance.

WHAT YOU WILL LEARN


What are the three things that Dads miss when teaching children wilderness and urban survival skills?
What is more valuable to have as a family in survival crisis: a high skill level or good group dynamics?
How does a Dad approach teaching survival psychology to children?
Why is childhood engagement with nature vital and how can Dads best lead the way?
What should Dads prioritize when teaching children about nature?
What is the unique relationship parents and kids must have between communication skills and survival?
Why is the universal model for survival important to teach young people, and how can it be used to improve their skills?
Why is male empowerment and support important when it comes to leading children into safety and survival knowledge?

The podcast wraps up with a discussion on how to create a supportive community for new fathers and what next steps they can take to better their role as a trainer and guide for their kids..

For more information and resources, listeners are encouraged to connect with Toby Cowern:

Resilience Hub

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CHAPTERS AND INTEREST

[00:04:14] Toby explains the importance of using models to structure information when teaching survival skills.  

[00:12:19] Training in survival psychology can increase individual resilience and survivability, but it needs to be done right.   

[00:19:39] Start engaging kids in nature from a young age, based on their interests. It's easier to follow their lead than trying to force them.   

[00:24:07] Bird language is part of nature literacy, which can help people reconnect with nature post-pandemic. Children already have the skills, but adults need to rekindle those neural connections.   

[00:27:54] Teamwork is crucial for survival in challenging situations, and group dynamics can be more important than individual skills.  [00:38:49] Conversation has a powerful impact, both positively and negatively.   

[00:47:58] Selko Bergovich is Toby's friend and mentor who taught him his urban survival skills.   

[00:53:01] The importance of being prepared for both natural and man-made disasters is often ignored due to discomfort, laziness, or belief that it won't happen here.   

[00:59:59] There's a culture of male empowerment that needs to be strengthened, with more meaningful conversations around threshold moments and mental health.  

[01:03:02] The model is crucial to structure everything off. People can use it as a reference point to determine what parts they need to work on.  

 

MORE ABOUT TOBY COWERN

Toby's unique fusion of teaching background, risk management qualifications, military training and outdoors experience allows him to deliver Wilderness and Urban Survival Skills training of the highest calibre.

Based in Scandinavia, and frequently working deep inside the Arctic Circle, Toby holds expertise in Extreme Cold Weather Wilderness Survival Skills, but also travels extensively to deliver applied Survival Training internationally. When not teaching or studying aspects of survival, Toby also deals with Management and Coaching Consultancy as well as running various highly applied nature immersion camps and seminars, aimed at managing and reducing stress both at individual and organisational level.

Toby is also passionate about using immersive nature engagement to help promote positive reconnection with the natural environment ('Rewilding Yourself') and tapping in to the powerful personal development and growth that ca