Confidence Coaching with Heidi Benjaminsen Heidi Benjaminsen

Humans are like magnets.  Something in our make-up attracts or repels certain people.
I believe OUR VIBE or our energy attracts certain people, certain successes, and certain failures in our life.
And our VIBE repels others.
Our vibe includes our nervous system - how we hold our body, the words we use, our mannerisms, how we dress, act, don't act, how we talk about ourselves and others.
This is the energy we put into the world.
And energy follows energy.
Listen to this replay of one of the most downloaded episodes to hear how to identify and change anything about your VIBE that isn't how you want your life to look.
Goodness and confidence are out there.
Now let's attract more of this into our lives!

Because our brains are "wired" on default to look for the negative, feeling more joy in life isn't an automatic process.
It requires focus and intention and practice. 
First, we have to recognize what is STEALING our joy.  And neutralize these "joy thieves".
Listen to a replay of episode 11 to hear the many human ways we all let joy be stolen from us.
And hear Heidi explain HOW to increase our joy - in small and big ways.
A joyful mother (who also feels the negative) is the greatest gift to her family!

All moms worry if they are "good enough"; we are biologically wired to care about this.
This "worry" becomes a problem when we look to our children or external factors to determine if we are good enough.
It's an even bigger problem if we think we need to be "perfect".
Listen to episode 179 to hear advanced certified life coach Heidi Benjaminsen discuss what makes us a good mom.
When we think we are a good mom, we act in a way that reinforces this belief.
Good moms are everywhere and doing things very differently.
A confident mother is the greatest gift to her family!
 
 

Summary
In this episode, I discuss the tendency common to everying - wishing others were different from who they are. It's something I've noticed in the people I coach, and it's a struggle I've faced in my own relationships with family and friends. Throughout the episode, I explore how these wishes create barriers between us and the people we care about, hindering our ability to truly understand and appreciate them. I challenge the notion that others need to change for us to feel differently, emphasizing the power of changing our own thoughts to shape our emotions. I provide listeners with practical tools to dismantle these barriers and foster deeper connections with others. Examples:
I share examples of common wishes, such as wanting a partner to be more handy around the house or wishing for more frequent communication from a parent. I discuss the challenges of accepting children for who they are, including desires for them to be more outgoing or neurotypical. And more! Lessons Learned:
I encourage listeners to examine their beliefs about why certain traits are perceived as better than others. I emphasize that our emotions are shaped by our thoughts, not by the actions of others. I urge listeners to embrace discomfort and take responsibility for their own emotions rather than expecting others to change. I highlight the importance of recognizing and appreciating both strengths and weaknesses in ourselves and others. I advocate for a focus on personal growth while simultaneously accepting and loving others for who they are.

We all want to be liked.  It's a human survival desire.
It feels good when people like us.
BUT we all encounter people who don't like us.  Our brain thinks this is a problem.  This isn't a problem!  
If someone likes us, this represents their brain and their lane - not us!
Listen to this "best of" episode to learn how to manage what you think, feel and do when someone doesn't like you.
Let other people be wrong about you.
Our job is to focus on what WE think about OURSELVES and build OUR self-esteem.
This focuses our attention on our lane and helps us show up as people we WANT to be.
A confident mother is the greatest gift to her family!
 

Learning how to say no when someone requests something of us is a critical skill.  This skill anchors and steadies us as we stay in our lane and take more control of our life.
Listen to episode 176 (a replay of episode 9) to learn:
Importance of setting boundaries and prioritizing time Reasons why people struggle to say no Awareness of the consequences of saying yes to everything Strategies for politely declining requests Emphasis on taking responsibility for time management Importance of being honest with oneself and others The significance of clear communication and setting expectations Examples of saying no graciously and firmly Discussion on the responsibility of commitments once made Avoiding blaming others for one's own choices Importance of self-care and valuing one's time Respectfully declining requests for money or other favors Prioritizing tasks based on personal values and integrity Admiration for those who effectively manage their time and commitments Importance of self-worth and self-confidence in saying no A confident mother is the greatest gift to her family!
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