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In Sex With Dr. Jess, Dr. Jessica O'Reilly, Toronto-based sexologist, author, and media personality, shares tips on how to enhance your sexual life to improve the quality of your relationships. She interviews guests with questions ranging from how to deal with jealousy to getting down in the bedroom, as well as hosting thought-provoking episodes centered around compatibility and strengthening relationships.

Sex With Dr. Jess Dr. Jess O'Reilly

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In Sex With Dr. Jess, Dr. Jessica O'Reilly, Toronto-based sexologist, author, and media personality, shares tips on how to enhance your sexual life to improve the quality of your relationships. She interviews guests with questions ranging from how to deal with jealousy to getting down in the bedroom, as well as hosting thought-provoking episodes centered around compatibility and strengthening relationships.

    Hooking Up Safely

    Hooking Up Safely

    How can you prepare for a hookup if you'll be partying with drugs & alcohol?

    What protection should you use for different types of sex?

    How do I talk to my teens about hookups?



    Jess discuss hookups -- in college and beyond.







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    If you have questions for the podcast, submit them here. And please be sure to subscribe so you don’t miss an episode! You can find the podcast on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Podbean, Google Podcasts, Amazon Music & Stitcher!



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    This is a computer-generated rough transcript, so please excuse any typos. This podcast is an informational conversation and is not a substitute for medical, health, or other professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the services of an appropriate professional should you have individual questions or concerns.



    Hooking Up Safely



    Participant #1:

    You're listening to the Sex with Dr. Jess podcast sex and relationship advice you can use tonight. Hey, Jess here all on my lonesome to talk about hooking up safely, specifically in the context of college. But I think it applies across the board because I received a question, a lovely question from a lovely listener who I've heard from you before, actually, and she says, my twin daughters are going into senior year, so that's grade twelve for Canadians, so they're not far off from college. I've always talked to them about sex, everything and anything, but now I realize that I haven't talked to them about sex, culture and hooking up and what specifically they can do to be safe and make sure it feels good for them. Can you share some language to help me talk about drugs and drinking and what protection to use for different sex acts? I'm sharing some specific questions below if that helps you to understand what I'm looking for. All right. This is perfect because we were recently talking about the culture of sex on college campuses in the United States and across North America. And I think we need to talk about the specifics of like, how do we plan for this and make sex pleasurable and consensual and amazing and positive. We're just neutral because not every experience is going to be amazing. And I think that talking about drinking and doing drugs is a really important piece. And the first part of this person's question asks, if you're going to be drinking or doing drugs, how do you make sure hookups are safe? And of course, once we introduce substances that impair our judgment and affect our emotional functioning, our cognitive functioning or physical functioning, it can change sex. So I think one of the most important pieces and when I do work with young people, I ask them to consider what do you want to do before you start drinking or using drugs? Because if you plan on doing either or both of these things, of course you can always have the option to stay sober. But if you do plan to do these things, your desires can kind of change over the course of an evening. And you may find seems as though your boundary shift as you get to know a new partner. And so identifying your desires in advance while your mind is clear, while you're sober, can help you to make decisions that feel good in the heat of the moment, right, that you're going to feel good about the next day. So you might find that chatting with a friend helps you to kind of identify your desires and delineate your boundaries. And the conversation, it can be broad, it can be casual, it doesn't have to be explicit or intense. It can even just be about telling yourself, hey, I really want to hook up tonight, or I don't want to hook up tonight, or I want to do this thing but not the other thing. And if you can clearly identify your boundaries and desires, then you can,

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    When the clitoris doesn’t work

    When the clitoris doesn’t work

    Not everyone loves having their clitoris touched. In this episode, we hear from a listener who has a specific list of dos & don'ts - when it comes to sexual pleasure. We explore different types of orgasms and pathways to pleasure beyond the clit.



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    When the clitoris doesn't work



    Participant #1:

    You're listening to the Sex with Dr. Jess podcast, sex and relationship advice you can use tonight. Welcome to the sex with Dr. Jess Podcast. I'm your cohost, brad Brandon. We're here with my lovely other half of Dr. Jess. Hello. Today we are answering one of your questions about the clitoris and orgasm, and I'm going to dive right into it. It's a bit of a long question, but hopefully we'll have a fairly succinct answer for you. All right. This person writes in to say, I am a female in my early thirty s and finally settling into a safe, long term relationship. He is an amazing partner, but currently our intimacy is on some sort of a pause. He has a pretty active sexual history, past partners, but in terms of variety, he's pretty limited. This has posed a problem for us as it's difficult for him to understand my list of sex do's and don'ts. I know that sounds horrible that I even have a list. No, it doesn't. But I find that this is the only way I can enjoy the moment. Number one, no direct clip play. Number two limit nipple play. These two are without a doubt the most confusing. They both feel great to me at first, but I find myself literally going into sort of a system overload within minutes. From there, I'm no longer interested in the rest of the romp. No more touching, nothing. I'm just learning this about myself. So I'm finding it hard to communicate to him without him feeling like he isn't doing it right, particularly because this is what he's used to. We do have open discussions about our sexual preferences, but this one is a mystery. I'm even at the point where if this is an orgasm, I can firmly say that I hate it. This has created serious bedroom anxiety for both of us. And then she asks, is this common? Is this a thing? How can I strike a balance where he isn't under so much pressure? And I'm calling out instructions. How can I experience another type of orgasm? I am so grateful that you wrote in to share your story because the short answer is that you're totally normal.



    So many people aboard having their clitoral, head and nipples directly stimulated, especially as arousal builds, because these highly sensitive, highly innovated erectile zones just become too sensitive. And in our conversations around not jamming things in the box and doing more than jack hammering, there has become so much focus on hey, stimulate the clit. But what we need to emphasize is that the external head of the clitoris is only the tip of the iceberg. When you vibe, when you lick, when you touch, when you suck, flick, rub against it, it can actually feel like too much, just as it would if you did those things over and over again to the very tip of the penis because they're homologous. So overstimulating the head, so the external part the little round part that sticks out at the top can actually be an...

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    Sex playlists!

    Sex playlists!

    What do sex and music have in common, and what's the best music to enhance your sexual experience? Jess and Brandon explore the erotic-musical connection and share their ideal sex playlists. Check out Brandon's playlist here (remember to sign into your Spotify account to access the playlist) and enjoy Tchaikovsky's 1812 Overture here.



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    If you have questions for the podcast, submit them here. And please be sure to subscribe so you don’t miss an episode! You can find the podcast on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Podbean, Google Podcasts, Amazon Music & Stitcher!



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    This is a computer-generated rough transcript, so please excuse any typos. This podcast is an informational conversation and is not a substitute for medical, health, or other professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the services of an appropriate professional should you have individual questions or concerns.



    Sex playlists!



    Participant #1:

    You're listening to the Sex with Dr. Jess podcast, sex and relationship advice you can use tonight. Welcome to the Sex with Doctor Jess Podcast. I'm your co host, Brandon. I'm here with my lovely other half, Doctor Jess. Hey, how are you? I'm good. I'm ready to talk music and sex. This is going to be a quickie episode. You're going to be getting many more quickies over the course of the summer. YouTube. Brandon well, thank you for that. I thought I was doing the intro today. But before we jump into things, let's give a shout out to Adam and Eve and their discount code for anyone shopping online for sex toys, lingerie, things that tickle, things that vibrate, things. What else tickle? Your pickle, rub your nub. These are all my one liners. Adam and Eve.com use code doctor Jess for a 50% off discount. Yes, that's right. 50% off almost any single item, plus free shipping. And they're throwing in some free goodies for you as well, Adam andeve.com all right, let's get into it because like I said, this is a quickie episode and it's all about music and sex. So I'm trying to get to some of your questions, and they're piling up, so I'm getting to them. Now, this person says, I heard you say that we should play music to get in the mood and drown out the sounds. In our house. We have three little ones under six. Man, they've been busy. Yeah, they've been busy. A lot of kids. All right. And he goes on to say, but we can't agree on what music to play. So do you have a playlist you recommend? All right, so we don't listen to music as much as I would like to in the bedroom. We listen to music in the house all the time. There's usually always music playing on the main floor. But what's going on in the bedroom? Why aren't we playing our music? Don't have time to get to it. Can't hit play on the playlist, man. We're done. By the time the music starts, it's over. Would that be your playlist? I'd be like, yeah, I can't get a heart on do you know who that is? That's from your era? No. Is it like Corey Hart? I have no clue. Is Corey Hart the one who wears his sunglasses at night? He does wear his sunglasses at night. I got some pop culture references. I'm excited to talk music and sex because they have so much in common. So we know that music just moves you. It moves you physically, it moves you emotionally. And sex, of course, does the same thing. And one thing I notice as someone who loves music is that you naturally find yourself kind of swaying to the beat for me, at least moving my hips for you. And maybe it's your shoulders. Does my whiteness come out? I'm swaying to the base. Hey, man, I actually hear the base, but my people hear the trouble. You can boogie. But you know how you find yourself naturally swaying to the beat of, like, a song that really moves?

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    How to get your libido back

    How to get your libido back

    Why does sexual desire plummet and how can you get it back? This week - Jess shares specific tools, tips, and strategies to reignite sexual desire. She also explores the concept of responsive vs. spontaneous desire, the Fire & Ice list, and more!



    Here's a special offer for our listeners: save 25% off on Happier Couples Inc with code PODCAST. Check out the Mindful Sex course or learn a few techniques with Mind Blowing Oral.



    If you have questions for the podcast, submit them here. And please be sure to subscribe so you don’t miss an episode! You can find the podcast on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Podbean, Google Podcasts, Amazon Music & Stitcher!



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    This is a computer-generated rough transcript, so please excuse any typos. This podcast is an informational conversation and is not a substitute for medical, health, or other professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the services of an appropriate professional should you have individual questions or concerns.



    How to get your libido back



    Participant #1:

    You're listening to the Sex with Dr. Jess podcast, sex and relationship advice you can use tonight. Hey. Hey. It's Jess here. And today we are talking about how to get your libido back because I receive many questions around this topic. But the latest is from a mother of two kids who's been married for five years. And she says. I've always liked sex. But after two kids and five years of marriage. I'm just not into it anymore and it's causing problems in my relationship. I'm totally attracted to my husband, but I'm just never in the mood and I want to get my libido back. Help. I think this is a pretty common experience. I think so many of us will see ourselves in this person whether we have kids or not, whether we're married or not, regardless of gender or relationship arrangement. And I want to begin by talking about the reasons we lose our libido. Because each of the reasons that we lose libido or interest in sex is probably more appropriate. Language can hold a potential pathway to getting it back. And that's a piece that I think maybe I should begin with, that libido can be a bit of a misnomer when we consider it a sex drive, because a drive, you know, the drive to eat, the drive to sleep, the drive to drink water, those drives are essential to survival of the individual, but sex drive is not essential to the survival of the individual. Yes, theoretically, we need to have sex to reproduce, but now we've got all these new technologies so we don't have to. And many of us are having types of sex that aren't going to lead to reproduction anyway. So I'd like to use the word sexual desire as opposed to libido or sex drive. And there are so many factors that affect sexual desire. So first I'm going to say that it's okay to not be in the mood for sex. Some people actually never desire sex, and this can be a really perfectly healthy baseline for those folks. Just as some people don't crave sugar or salt, some people don't want to have sex, and that is okay. I realize that this is not the case for this listener because they say they always like having sex, but if you don't desire sex and you don't want to have sex, that is perfectly fine. If that is your baseline, it doesn't mean that you're broken. I know that we love to pathologize and say that if you're not in the mood for sex, it's your diet or it's your exercise or it's your attitude or you have to relinquish shame. But for some people, they're just not into it, and that's okay. And then the second piece before we get into the factors that affect desire for sex is that many people, most of us, do not find ourselves in the mood for sex spontaneously. Right. We experience responsive as opposed to spontaneous sexual desire. And I'll be talking about that in just a moment. But first, let's talk about some of the reasons the factors that affect desire for sex...

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    How to stop sexual harassment

    How to stop sexual harassment

    How can you recognize sexual harassment & what can you do to stop it?

    What language can you use to interrupt a harasser?

    How can you approach a stranger in a way that is respectful and fruitful?



    We share strategies for being an ally, speaking up, and stopping harassment at the gym and beyond.



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    If you’ve got podcast questions, submit them here. And please be sure to subscribe so you don’t miss an episode! You can find the podcast on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Podbean, Google Podcasts, Amazon Music & Stitcher!



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    This is a computer-generated rough transcript, so please excuse any typos. This podcast is an informational conversation and is not a substitute for medical, health, or other professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the services of an appropriate professional should you have individual questions or concerns.



    How to stop sexual harassment



    Participant #1:

    You're listening to the Sex with Dr. Jess podcast, sex and relationship advice you can use tonight. Welcome to the sex with Dr. Jess Podcast. I'm your cohost Brandon Ware, here with my lovely other half, Dr. Jess. Hey, today we've got a serious topic. We are talking sexual harassment. Let me ask you, what do you know about sexual harassment? I know that it happens all the time, every day, to every woman out there, everywhere we go, everywhere. So you can never let your guard down. So growing up, did you learn about sexual harassment? Was there anyone who taught you how to not sexually harass people? The basics where you're not I mean, my parents telling me to be respectful, but there was no kind of context. There was no examples, no role model behavior, no suggestions on what to do, what to say, how to stop it, anything like that. And I'm sure over the course of your lifetime, you've said and done things that were harassing. Yes, I have. So was it just when you think about being a kid or a teenager, was it normalized? And that's not to make an excuse. You're still responsible for your behavior, was it normalized? Yes, it was. In the environments that I'm reflecting back on, it was okay to speak about women in a misogynistic way.



    Misogynist way? Yeah. I mean, these environments, it was encouraged, and no one stepped up. And I'm thinking a lot about group sports, hockey, some of my workplaces where it was primarily men, and just the way that it was constantly discussed and how no one really stepped up to say, this isn't okay. When you think about some of those male dominated workplaces, there were women there. Yes, there were. And so do you remember seeing incidents of harassment, or was it more just like a vibe you remember? Not the specifics. It's more a vibe. And the women worked at the so I'm talking about when I worked in warehouses when I was in high school and in university, and the women where I work tend to work at the front facing administrative coordinator roles. And the men worked in the warehouse, moving boxes and shipping trucks and doing things like that. So there was a separation of space, but in those maledominated spaces in the back, it was common to speak about women in a demeaning manner. When I reflect back on it, for sure, here's what I'm going to suggest. I'm going to suggest that the women who are in the front heard you. Yes, of course they did. And I should also kind of go on and just add to that. It's not just when I worked in warehouses and when I played hockey and when I played sports. It was most definitely in more corporate environments as well. Absolutely. Behind closed doors when women were out of earshot, or at least that's what they assumed. And in some cases, I'm sure, if I really think back.

    • 23分
    Fighting on vacation? How to have a happy (& hotter) trip

    Fighting on vacation? How to have a happy (& hotter) trip

    Want to have hotter sex on your summer vacation? It starts with a harmonious relationship. This week, we share tips and strategies to help you enjoy a smooth ride -- whether you're travelling by plane, train or automobile. From the 80/20 rule to love letters at 30,000 feet, we've got you covered.



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    If you’ve got podcast questions, submit them here. And please be sure to subscribe so you don’t miss an episode! You can find the podcast on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Podbean, Google Podcasts, Amazon Music & Stitcher!



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    This is a computer-generated rough transcript, so please excuse any typos. This podcast is an informational conversation and is not a substitute for medical, health, or other professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the services of an appropriate professional should you have individual questions or concerns.



    Fighting on vacation? How to have a happy (& hotter) trip



    Participant #1:

    You're listening to the Sex with Dr. Jess podcast, sex and relationship advice you can use tonight. Welcome to the Sex with Dr. Jess podcast. I'm your co host, Brandon Ware, here with my lovely other half, Dr. Jess. Hello. Hey, how are you? Excellent. I'm excellent. It's the start of summer. It's warm. There are hibiscus growing on my back deck. They're blooming. I am so happy about this. My plan for the summer was to take a break from the podcast, which is why we are not I thought you were going to say why you're doing quickie episodes. We'll be doing quickie episodes throughout the summer, so hopefully there's still going to be some really good content here for you. But it will be a little bit shorter. Not as short as I would like it to be. Probably not as short as you would like it to be. Hey, listen, I can do quick. Yeah, I can do quick. Whatever you need. I have this idea for seven minutes of sex, but I talk too much. Danny, think done in seven minutes. But lots of people going on holiday these days, and today we're going to be talking about just that, because I received a question on Instagram that I love from a listener who writes in, we are going on holiday for the first time in two and a half years. Every time we travel together, we have blowouts. I love to travel. My wife doesn't mind it, but she's not as comfortable in hotels and planes and foreign countries. Once we almost got kicked out of our hotel resort, but that's a story for another day. I like those kind of blowouts, that's passion. You two are always traveling together, and you look so happy. But maybe not just Instagram question mark. We do look happy. I mean, I feel pretty happy. Doesn't mean we don't have the occasional debate. I'm happy if I'm fed. Yes, you are. I don't post pictures until I've eaten, and most of my pictures are food.



    Okay, so back to the question. Any advice for traveling together and keeping things calm? We leave for Europe for the very first time in July. Well, that's awesome. I'm super excited that you're going to visit Europe for the first time. Yeah. That's exciting. I want to ask, where are you going? But there's no one to answer. I don't know. I'm sure we talked about our first trip to Europe together and the fight that we had on the sidewalk in Barcelona. I remember level headed. Yeah. It was pre smartphones, or we probably had smartphones, but we didn't have the money to activate the data plan. $100 a day, so we didn't have maps. And we were fighting I'm sorry for the repeat, for folks who have heard the story already, but I'm pretty sure we were fighting about who got to hold the map. What year would this have been? Maybe twelve years ago. Yeah, maybe longer now. 1213 years ago, 14 years ago. Anyhow we got in this fight,

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