The Love Doctor Leah Tidey

Today on the show, I’m talking to the host of the Rethinking Manhood podcast, Destyn Land. Destyn and I discuss men and sex. Sounds simple but when you start to layer in shame, silence, and how by grade 3 you’re already comparing penis size–it gets a lot more complicated. I first saw Destyn’s work when a friend shared one of his posts on Instagram. It was a beautiful piece about men and how society has created this pressure to prove how “straight” you are. This could be by catcalling women or making homophobic comments. Destyn’s posts are always thoughtful, well researched and when I found out he had a podcast, I just had to listen.
Resources from the Show
Destyn Land: @destynforgreatness
Rethinking Manhood Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/3bQw3DWTRuCmlGXFvYrVya?si=c26149d4a7474d36
Instagram: @rethinkingmanhood 
Boys and Sex by Peggy Orenstein: https://www.peggyorenstein.com/boysandsex
Euphoria on Crave
Heartstopper on Netflix and Comics
Bi-erasure definition: https://www.glaad.org/bisexual
The Will to Change: Men, Masculinity, and Love by bell hooks

Today on the show, I have brought back a crowd favourite—my husband, Levi Hildebrand. Levi and I talk about our experience of using Fertility Awareness Method over the past 8 months and the impact not being on birth control has had on our sex life. We also do a bit of a deep dive on masculinity and how just now Levi feels like he is choosing what that means for himself.
Resources from the show! 
Levi Hildebrand Instagram: @levihildebrand 
Levi and Leah YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/LeviHildebrand 
Boys and Sex by Peggy Orenstein: https://www.peggyorenstein.com/boysandsex
Come As You Are by Dr. Emily Nagoski : https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/22609341-come-as-you-are

Today on the show, I am answering your questions about opening up relationships and BDSM. But I’m not answering them alone. I am honoured to share my interview with Registered Clinical Counsellor, Sarah Watson, who helps me navigate your questions surrounding trauma and sexuality.
References from the Show!
Sarah Watson: https://sarahwatsontherapy.com/
Attached by Amir Levine & Rachel S.F. Heller: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/9547888-attached
Polysecure by Jessica Fern: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/52569124-polysecure
Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski: https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Come-as-You-Are/Emily-Nagoski/9781476762111
Allura Website $50 webinars: Sex and Trauma : https://static1.squarespace.com/static/5b162a5675f9ee6cc62c56b5/t/61a68fc8cdbab21c1afb1d71/1638305736878/Sex+%2B+Trauma+Flyer.pdf
Self Harm Resources: https://www.helpguide.org/articles/anxiety/cutting-and-self-harm.htm
Sexual Configurations Theory: https://www.academia.edu/37691857/_SCT_Zine_Mapping_Your_Sexuality_From_Sexual_Orientation_to_Sexual_Configurations_Theory
Sue Johnson: A(ccessible)R(esponsive)E(ngaged) you there for me?
Debunking 5 Common Myths About Kink: https://www.slice.ca/sex-sessions-art-debunking-common-myths-about-kink/
5 Things Science Has Taught Us About BDSM: https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/2021/8/16/5-things-science-has-taught-us-about-bdsm/
B.C.’s Capital City Leads the Country in Trans and Non-binary Representation:
https://www.coastmountainnews.com/news/b-c-s-capital-city-leads-the-country-in-trans-and-non-binary-representation/

Today on the show, I am sharing my interview with Farzana Doctor where we talk about non-monogamy, what sexuality looks like in your 40s, and what it means to be a quote unquote “good woman.” We also discuss her new book that is a collection of poetry, You Still Look the Same. I particularly resonated with her poem Boundaries and I know it’s a topic a lot of folks have asked me about.
Resources from the Show!
Farzana Doctor: https://farzanadoctor.com/
You Still Look The Same Discount Code: use DOCTOR20 at check-out at https://freehand-books.com
Audiobook link: https://libro.fm/audiobooks/9781778520648
Seven Link: https://farzanadoctor.com/seven/
Interview with Farzana in Season 2: https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/the-love-doctor/id1519672109?i=1000536137699
Burnout by Nagoski sisters: https://www.burnoutbook.net/
Internal Family Systems therapy: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapy-types/internal-family-systems-therapy
Polysecure by Jessica Fern: ​​https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/52569124-polysecure
Metamour definition: https://www.polydictionary.org/metamour/

Today on the show, we are talking about what you missed in your high school sex education and how puppets may be the best way to talk about sex. In our first ever group interview on the podcast, I talk to Hannah Mariko Bell, Sophie Underwood, and Kiley Verbowski, about our experience co-creating the play Going All The Way. We talk about our own experiences with sex education and how creating art has helped us navigate our own sexual journeys.
Resources from the Show!
Going All The Way Tickets: skam.ca/going-all-the-way
Theatre SKAM: https://skam.ca/
What is Intersectionality? Kimberlé Crenshaw: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ViDtnfQ9FHc&ab_channel=NationalAssociationofIndependentSchools%28NAIS%29
Schitt's Creek Star Dan Levy on Playing Pansexual: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W4IXXM0A6vg&ab_channel=LarryKing
Schitt's Creek Wine Analogy Scene: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VrHYlJTqud0&ab_channel=RozCoreyClark
Japanese Fertility Festivals: https://allabout-japan.com/en/article/4349/

Today on the show, we are talking all about dicks. Like why is erectile dysfunction so common? Can you become dependent on Viagra? And can you still have sex after you ejaculate? 
To help me answer your questions about dicks, I share my interview with sex therapist and clinical sexual health educator, Paul Nelson. Paul emphasizes that sexual health education should address the entire self and how for many cisgender men, they think it’s only about their dicks. We also talk about how common erectile dysfunction is and the work Paul does as part of Maze Men’s Health.
Resources from the Show!
Paul Nelson at Maze Men’s Health: https://www.mazemenshealth.com/
Instagram: @mazemenshealth
Frank Talk: Men Talking About Erectile Dysfunction: https://www.franktalk.org/
Maze Sexual and Reproductive Health: mazehealth.com
Minx T.V. Show: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt11947418/
American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists:  https://www.aasect.org/
Boys & Sex by Peggy Orenstein: https://www.peggyorenstein.com/boysandsex
The History of The Man Box: https://remakingmanhood.medium.com/the-history-of-the-man-box-e6eed6d895c4
International Index of Erectile Dysfunction: https://www.browardurologycenter.com/pdf/International-Index-of-Erectile-Function-IIEF-Questionnaire.pdf
The Psychology of Human Sexuality: https://nobaproject.com/modules/the-psychology-of-human-sexuality
The Sexual Medicine Society of North America: https://www.smsna.org/