Little People, Big Feelings Summit

Dr Justin Coulson
Little People, Big Feelings Summit

Listen to the Little People, Big Feelings Summit anytime, anywhere on your favourite podcast app. Raising little people can be tough...They have big feelings. A lot. About everything. In this summit, we’ve handpicked a small selection of the best experts from Australia and the US. They’ll be your guides. And they’ll go slow enough to give you exactly what you need to work with your little people on their big feelings.

Episodes

  1. 12/10/2022

    Brad Montague | Becoming a Better Grown Up for Your Little Person

    Timestamps02:37 Being a grownup becomes extra real when you have your own little person to help grow up 04:30 Brad asks kids what grownups should do to be better grownups 06:15 What does a grown up look like? 07:30 To really grow up is to show up 09:00 The spectacular and the unspectacular 11:45 How do we maintain the awe and wonder when the shine starts to wear off? 12:55 If we can become better adults we will raise up better kids 15:00 Mum and Dad don’t know it all 15:40 Let’s talk about Kid President 17:00 You’re Beyonce! 18:20 Be who you needed when you were younger. 19:30 Children who do well have had at least 1 stable relationship with a carer or other adult 20:10 Light up when your child walks into a room 23:15 If we do our job well, they’re going to “out love” us all. 23:40 Playfulness, joyfulness and energy 25:10 Deep, dark, heavy play 26:20 Mr Squiggle 26:50 Big, Busy & Boring 28:40 A joyful rebellion 30:10 David Hassellhoff 31:50 How to play in the day to day 33:45 Pop the balloon of seriousness 37:30 Side by side 39:20 Be present, be pleasant 40:20 Pause, breathe, love and do it over and over again. Brad MontagueBrad Montague is creator of the hit web series Kid President, and Kid Correspondent, and author of the New York Times best seller Kid President's Guide to Being Awesome and Becoming Better Grownups. As an illustrator his work is regularly featured in Joanna Gaines's The Magnolia Journal. He lives in Tennessee with his wife and kids.   Becoming Better GrownupsWhen his first book tour ended, Brad Montague missed hearing other people's stories so much that he launched what he dubbed a Listening Tour. First visiting elementary schools and later also nursing homes and retirement communities, he hoped to glean new wisdom as to how he might become a better grownup. Now, in this playful and buoyant book, he shares those insights with rest of us --timeless, often surprising lessons that bypass the head we're always stuck in, and go straight to the heart we sometimes forget. Each of the book's three sections begins with the illustrated story of "The Incredible Floating Girl." Brad weaves this story together with lessons of success, fear, regret, gratitude, love, happiness, and dreams to reveal the true reason we are here: to fly, and to help others fly. Beautifully designed and featuring Montague's own whimsical 4-color illustrations that appeal to the kid in all of us, Becoming Better Grownups shares the purpose and meaning we can all discover merely by listening, and reveals that--in a world that seems increasingly childish--the secret to joy is in fact to become more childlike. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    43 min
  2. 12/10/2022

    Maggie Dent | Preparing Your Little Person for Big School

    Timestamps02:45 Maggie’s slideshow begins 03:18 Why are we concerned? 03:50 Developmental vulnerabilities 05:50 4 key concerns 07:18 What’s the hurry? 08:10 Boys are struggling more than girls 09:00 Creating angry boys 10:45 Familiarity 15:19 The truth about separation distress 17:50 Latest trends - Boys 18:50 The "fragility" in boys 20:30 Boys are more prone to separation distress 21:24 Top Tips for boys (and some girls) 23:38 Other suggestions for all little ones 24:34 Navigate your own feelings 25:28 Honour & love & enjoy childhood 26:36 Justin’s Knock Knock joke 27:00 What is a Rooster/Lamb? 28:42 The power of role play 32:45 When should children start school? 37:16 NAPLAN 44:05 Learning to read 47:30 What’s the best thing that parents can do to help little children with big feelings when it comes to school transition? Maggie Dent Commonly known as Australia’s ‘queen of common sense’, Maggie is an author, educator, & parenting & resilience specialist. She is a dedicated advocate to quietly changing lives in our families and communities.  Mothering Our BoysMothers of sons are worried about raising their boys in a world where negative images of masculinity are front and centre of our media, almost every day. Not only that, but statistically our boys are still struggling in many ways -- including at school. In her bestselling book,  Mothering Our Boys,  mum of four sons Maggie Dent draws on her personal experience – and over four decades work as a teacher, counsellor and now author and speaker – to help build understanding, empathy and compassion for our boys. Maggie shares her insights, her reflections, and (as always) her humour around mothering boys in this book that will help you be the mum your son needs you to be. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    54 min
  3. 12/10/2022

    Dr Joanna McMillan | Nutrition for Little People

    Timestamps01:28 Fussy eaters 01:54 Why do children become so fussy? 03:06 Children are naturally scared of trying new foods 03:38 Kids taste food differently to us 05:03 Adults are fussy too 06:37 When is fussy eating a real problem? 08:13 Don’t be scared to give your young children interesting flavours 09:27 Speech pathologists 10:09   Food phobia 10:40 Common mistakes that parents make 11:43 Parents are role models 13:08 The importance of animal products in your diet 14:15 How meals should look for different members of the family 15:11 Don’t make such a fuss 17:40 How to introduce new foods 19:03 Children on the autism spectrum 20:03 Giving children choices 21:10 Be mindful of the words that you say 22:57 Never make assumptions about what your children will like 24:12 Coriander  26:44 Allow children to express themselves 27:38 Don’t forget to make food delicious 30:15 Consistency 34:55 Habit & familiarity 35:55   How important is it that our children eat expansively? 37:49 Top 3 helpful hints 40:45 Feel Good Family Food Plan Dr Joanna McMillanAs a warm and engaging MC, keynote and TEDx speaker, Joanna travels Internationally. She is a popular health presenter and a regular on television and radio, with over 15 years presenting health and nutrition segments. Joanna is an accomplished author of eight books. She lives in Sydney with her husband, two sons and her walking buddy, their labradoodle Spartacus. The Feel-Good Family Food Plan Packed with simple solutions, easy-to-follow advice and expert tips,  The Feel-Good Family Food Plan  does the thinking for you, so you get delicious home-cooked food on the table, even on the most hectic of work and school days. 60 weeknight dinners the whole family will love. 4 weeks of meal plans take the stress out of shopping and cooking. Great ideas for getting the kids involved in the kitchen. Plant-rich meals to encourage good eating habits for life. Ideas for fussy eaters and getting kids to love vegies. Quick healthy breakfasts, lunch boxes and snacks, for fuel on the run. Tips for savvy shopping, storing and freezing. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    44 min
  4. 12/10/2022

    Dr Kaylene Henderson | Connecting with Your Little Person

    Timestamps1.28 What’s the difference between a child psychiatrist and a child psychologist? 3.40 Why did you decide to specialize in child and adolescent psychology? 6:20 How to make decisions about what information to listen to 8:43 What do babies and young children really need from us?  9:30 “No-nonsense tenderness” and setting limits 11:00 Developing a secure attachment relationship 12:24 Children need to be delighted in 15:17 How do we couple delighting in our children and no-nonsense tenderness? 20:15 How do we find delight in the tougher times? 22:46 Balancing helping your child and building their resilience 27:50 Authoritative parenting 28:40 Dealing with biting 29:20 Babies and young children can’t self soothe 31:50 Children CAN’T use their words when they’re having BIG feelings 37:10 Connect before you correct 38:00 They haven't "done the wrong thing". They've just fallen down. 39:52 Getting ourselves into the right headspace to be the parents we want to be 44:10 None of us are nailing it all the time Dr Kaylene Henderson Dr Kaylene Henderson is a medically trained infant, child and adolescent psychiatrist and one of Australia's leading parenting experts. She is also a trusted professional development provider for the early childhood education sector and a sought after media contributor and conference speaker. In her warm and relatable style, Kaylene shares practical, research based advice with parents and professionals alike in the hope that together, we can bring out the best in the children for whom we all care. I’m both a medically trained child health specialist and mother of three fun-loving young children. Having learned how to bring out the best in kids, I am now passionate about sharing these research-based approaches with parents. As unique individuals, our children will all have different challenges to face as they get older. The good news is, you are in the perfect position to help your kids overcome these challenges and become more resilient – you simply need to learn how. Each of my Advice Packs will provide you with instant, online advice across a range of topics (anxiety, behaviour, meltdowns and school readiness to name a few). These packs are filled with practical tips so that you can add a little more calmness, a little more confidence… a little more awesomeness to your wonderful children! Thank you. . . You’re awesome. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    48 min
  5. 12/10/2022

    Renee Jain | Anxiety & Your Little Person

    Timestamps01:57  How do you define anxiety & how does it present? 02:21  Your feelings are messengers 03:20 When does anxiety become a problem? 05:25  Unprocessed emotions 07:55  What are the mistakes that parents are making? 09:00  Catastrophic thinking 10:27  Your feelings are valid 11:03  How to hold space for their emotions 12:12  First shortcut 14:20  Doing the basics when it comes to emotional support 15:20  Make Worry a character 16:53  If you can name it, you can tame it 17:08  Psychological distance 17:15  Worry is not good at remembering success 17:40  Highlight & savour progress 18:24  Tiny wins 19:05  Shame around their feelings 20:50  Reinforcing anxiety by avoidance 23:00  Should we tell kids to toughen up? 24:18 Zone of comfort, zone of distress & zone of growth. 26:54  Play therapy 28:00  Separation anxiety 29:30  Separation techniques  32:12  Take home message Renee JainRenee Jain is the founder and Chief Storyteller of  GoZen!  She has been recognized as a pioneer in marrying technology and child psychology in a unique approach that nurtures the hearts and minds of kids. Through her writing, product invention and development, masterclasses for parents, and children’s advocacy, she works to build the emotional intelligence of kids. Originally a tech entrepreneur who suffered with her own anxiety, Renee founded GoZen! to help a new generation of kids, parents and therapists. Renee earned her Master’s degree in Positive Psychology — the scientific study of optimal human functioning — from the University of Pennsylvania and is the NYT bestselling co-author of Superpowered: Transform Anxiety into Courage, Confidence, and Resilience. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    34 min
  6. 12/10/2022

    Dr Vanessa LaPointe | Discipline without Damage

    Timestamps01:21 What is discipline? 03:11 How to step away from punishment 04:17 Put yourself inside their experience 04:45 Children are normal in the way they present themselves 05:20 Parents struggle to see their children neutrally  06:27 Our children invite us to grow ourselves up so that we can grow them up 07:43 Central developmental realities 08:43 Emergent phase  09:51 QTIP - Quit Taking It Personally 12:00 Adaptive 12:41 Adaptive = vulnerable  13:10   Point of connection creates context to parent 14:30   Firm & kind 14:45 The Parenting Mountain 18:40   Working on ourselves 19:30   Connection 21:23 Toddlers who bite 21:55 Flag drop 23:45 Do we need to deal with the problem immediately? 28:45 Techniques  29:05 We cannot control a child who has lost control of themselves 31:05 Give in & come alongside  32:25 Children are human beings 33:20 Do children understand their emotions? 36:14   What do parents do with themselves? 36:51 We have to be self full in order to be selfless  39:45 Self care is not about going and getting a massage 40:50   Psychological distance 42:26 We were never meant to go this alone 44:30 Take home message - The bottom line is relationship Dr. Vanessa LaPointe Dr. Vanessa LaPointe is a mom, registered psychologist, parenting educator, best-selling author, international speaker, and a regularly invited media guest. Founder and director of The Wishing Star Lapointe Developmental Clinic, she has been supporting families and children for almost 20 years, and has previous experience in community mental health and the school system. Dr. Vanessa is known for bringing a sense of nurturing understanding and humanity to all of her work. Her passion is in walking alongside parents, teachers, care providers, and other big people to really see the world through the child’s eyes. She believes that if we can do this, we are beautifully positioned to grow up our children in the best possible way. Discipline without Damage When your child is threatening a meltdown in the grocery aisle, is it really possible to keep your cool, correct the behaviour, and reinforce healthy development, all at the same time? In this easy-to-read, science-based book, parents, caregivers, and big people of all kinds will discover how discipline affects children’s development, why intervention should reinforce connection, not separation, and why the disciplinary strategies that may have been used on us as children are not the ones that children really need. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    46 min
  7. 12/10/2022

    Dr Shefali Tsabary | Conscious Parenting

    Timestamps01:00 What is  un conscious parenting , and why doesn't it work?  02.00 What is  conscious  parenting?  04:10 How do we practice conscious parenting in the  heat of the moment ?  05:10 The  parenting fantasy  & our misguided expectations 09:14 When  expectation and experience  don't meet 10:50 Feeling  helpless  as a parent 12:57 Why we " chase our children out of childhood  and hurtle them to adulthood" 17:25 What do we do about our innate desire to  control  our children?  24:30 Our children's choices are  not about us 25:40 Defining  mindful parenting 28:30 "How do I make sure my son becomes a pilot?" 30:50 What can a parent do to  manage the expectations  they have for their child?  33:50 Holding our expectations  loosely 36:25 Start with the  present 38:00 The myth of being  behind the curve 40:50 How do we  redefine "success"  and happiness? 44:10 How do I  not follow the tide ?   48:12 "May you be blessed with a child who..." May you be blessed with a child who defies you, so you may learn to release control. Who doesn't listen, so you may learn to tune in. Who loves to procrastinate, so you learn beauty of stillness. Who forgets things, so you learn to let go of attachments. Who is extra-sensitive, so you learn to be grounded. Who is inattentive, so you learn to be focused. Who dares to rebel, so you learn to think outside the box. Who feels afraid, so you learn to trust the Universe. May you be blessed with a child who teaches you it is never about them, and all about you. Dr Shefali TsabaryDr. Shefali received her doctorate in clinical psychology from Columbia University. Specializing in the integration of Western psychology and Eastern philosophy, she brings together the best of both worlds for her clients. She is an expert in family dynamics and personal development, teaching courses around the globe. She has written four books, three of which are New York Times best-sellers, including her two landmark books The Conscious Parent and The Awakened Family. Learn more at  drshefali.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    52 min
  8. 12/10/2022

    Dr Justin Coulson | Little People, Big Feelings

    Timestamps02:06 Emotional flooding 02:36 Emotions are contagious 03:10 Mirror Neurons 05:44 High emotions = low intelligence 08:30 “Our job is to keep our emotions low so that our intelligence is high” 14:00 Toddlers & preschoolers 15:32 Emotional & behavioural regulation 16:57 H.A.L.T.S 18:17 Fear 19:02 Learned behaviour 19:57 Language development 22:06 Theory of mind 22:53 The false belief task 26:59 A better way to respond 28:08 Fit your own mask before helping others 30:00 Soft eyes 32:02 Compassion 32:55 Emotional flooding 33:30 Connect before you correct 33:50 Name it to tame it 32:17 Be their safe space 34:35 Problem solve together 34:48 Respond to the need, not the behaviour 37:22 Name the emotion & ask how you can help Dr Justin Coulson is one of Australia’s leading parenting and family experts and the founder of Happy Families. As host and keynote speaker, Dr Justin will be tackling the key issue of the Summit head-on: how to help our little people deal with their big feelings.   10 Things Every Parent Needs to KnowWouldn’t it be great if parents really only needed to know 10 Things to raise children successfully? When they’re babies, it’s usually pretty simple. Feed them. Change them. Put them to sleep. Then they start growing. Fast. They talk. They get moody. They have “needs”. They get siblings and start fighting, biting, pinching, punching, scratching, and more. They start school and come home with nasty words, threats that “you’re not my best friend anymore”, and all-too-often, even more challenging behaviour. Even when they’re a dream, we still worry about how we can give them the best start in life. In  10 Things Every Parent Needs to Know , parenting expert Dr Justin Coulson shares the ten key things every parent needs to know in order to raise their children in positive ways. They are also simple solutions to make parenting easier – so you don’t have to keep ‘making it up as you go’. Drawing on positive psychology, the book gives simple and effective strategies for the key issues parents of 2-12 year olds confront in everyday family life. Justin shares his secrets of effective attention, communication and understanding; how to discipline effectively and set limits; and how to manage hot-button issues such as sibling conflict, chores, school and screens – yet still have fun as a family. For parents of children 2-12 years, and beyond. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    40 min

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Listen to the Little People, Big Feelings Summit anytime, anywhere on your favourite podcast app. Raising little people can be tough...They have big feelings. A lot. About everything. In this summit, we’ve handpicked a small selection of the best experts from Australia and the US. They’ll be your guides. And they’ll go slow enough to give you exactly what you need to work with your little people on their big feelings.

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