Life Uncut

Brittany Hockley and Laura Byrne
Life Uncut

Talking all things love, life, lust, and a bunch of other stuff. Nothing is off limits in this podcast that navigates relationships and dating in the modern day. Brought to you by two bachelor finalists Brittany Hockley and Laura Byrne. 

  1. Ask Uncut - Live, Laugh, Love. It’s Not A Dress Rehearsal

    1 DAY AGO

    Ask Uncut - Live, Laugh, Love. It’s Not A Dress Rehearsal

    Welcome back to ask uncut where we unpack all of your deep and burning questions on a *checks notes* Monday! Britt shares a story so embarrassing that we had to promise we wouldn’t make a social media clip out of it. Lola has reached a new milestone. Vibes:Britt - Monster BTK PodcastKeeshia - New season of Australian Survivor - Brains vs BrawnLaura - American Murder - Gabby PetitoThen we jump into your questions! HOW LONG DO I GIVE HIM TO MAKE THINGS OFFICIAL?I have recently re-kindled a relationship with my previous on and off f-buddy of 5 years on. We’ve been talking for about a month, going on dates and getting to know each other at a deeper level to what we have in the past. This time feels different, we are both opening up a lot more about how and what we are feeling. He says we are “feeling things out” which is true but realistically I have always had more of an emotional attachment regardless of how casual we kept things. So, my question is, how long do I allow him to make a decision? After 5 years of on and off, I don’t want to put a timeline on things but also don’t want to potentially allow myself to be strung along. DO I ASK HIM TO TAKE HAIR LOSS MEDICATION?Can I ask my husband to take anti-balding medication? We have been together more than 10 years and have 2 kids. He’s always been a silver fox with thick salt and pepper hair, which I love. However, his hair is now starting to thin and I want to ask him to take measures to prevent this - there are sooo many easy and safe options for men to do this these days! My question is whether I have the right to ask him to? I’d be offended if he asked me to alter my appearance or have anti-Aging procedures, is this the same thing? Thank you for your wisdom. HE SLEPT IN THE SPARE ROOM AFTER FINDING OUT I HAVE A VIBRATORI have been with my partner for almost 5 years. We recently got married. We don’t have a particularly regular sex life, maybe a handful of times per year, and when we do it’s pretty vanilla (which is fine). Recently, after one too many drinks we started getting steamy and I with my liquid courage asked if he wanted to incorporate my vibrator in the mix. Until then, he didn’t know that I had or used a vibrator. I had some shame about it when I started using the vibrator years and years ago (before I met him), but I slowly realised how normal it was. Fast forward to when I asked my partner if we should try using it during sex, he was immediately shocked and shut down. He got quite upset (I’m not sure whether about the fact that I have a vibrator or that I caught him by surprise), but he said he felt “a bit attacked”. I was really upset by it as all I wanted to do was spice things up. Am I in the wrong here? He was upset enough to sleep in the spare room and the next day we just went on like nothing happened. IS MY PARTNER CONTROLLING?I think my partner is controlling but I’m not sure if I’m just being dramatic… he said once if I go on a girls trip he’ll break up with me. When I work at a mine site (which is around 80% male) he makes me feel bad for having a drink with them. He makes me feel bad after doing anything fun aka drinking with friends. He always expects me to say excuse me after burping… like sorry I’m a barbie girl. He liked Andrew Tate… plus there’s a lot more. Do you think it’s time to leave… My friends think yes but I don’t have a large group of friends to lean on for this advice. Is this something people can work through and what if I don’t want to waste my time and work through it? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    47 min
  2. Conflict Affects Sex and Sex Affects Conflict. Uncut with Sexologist Lucille Shackleton

    4 DAYS AGO

    Conflict Affects Sex and Sex Affects Conflict. Uncut with Sexologist Lucille Shackleton

    Lucille Shackleton is a sexologist and relationship therapist who has just released her debut book titled “All In”. When Lucille was working with couples as a therapist, most of the training that she had done said ‘if the friendship is good the sex will be good’ but this didn’t seem to be the case in practice. So Lucille went and did a masters of sexology to figure out what some of the missing pieces to the ‘good sex’ puzzle were. One particular puzzle piece that we wanted to unpack with Lucille was how much conflict affected libido and desire.  We unpack: The love lust split  Why referring to your partner as ‘mummy’ or ‘daddy’ (not in that way) can make you both stop desiring each other The question of ‘do you not want sex?’ or ‘are you not having sex that you actually want?’ Figuring out your sex values Relationship satisfaction goes up when people learn that their ‘problems’ are normal, even if they aren’t having more sex The ‘narratives’ that we create about our partners & ‘core negative’ images Does intention matter when it comes to conflict? How much our ego comes into play during conflict Sex life after giving birth When one partner has a dry spell or ‘shuts up shop’ and doesn’t want sex anymore You can find more from Lucille at her Instagram Grab her new book You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    45 min
  3. Are You Guilty Of "Someday Syndrome"?

    6 DAYS AGO

    Are You Guilty Of "Someday Syndrome"?

    Hey Lifers!Captain Keeshia is filling in for Britt today as she is busy carving up the dance floor at Dancing With The Stars! Laura thought they were going to have a comparable experiences but now she feels gaslit by Britt.If you haven't yet had the chance to listen, you can find our new mini series podcast Cloud here! If you get given a scratchie by someone as a present, is there an expectation if you win that you will split the winnings with the person who has given you the scratchie?Laura shares a story about a family feud that lasted decades. Confessionals are back and... yeah wow. You can continue to send them in to us at life uncut podcast on instagram. How would you feel if you found out that the person you were newly dating had hooked up with an acquaintance of yours within the week that you met? Would you not care at all or would it make you question whether they were 'ready' for a proper commitment? It's a situation that's playing out on Love Is Blind and we asked whether it's different because it's reality TV or if we would react in the same way.Are you guilty of 'Someday Syndrome'?Are you deferring life goals or things that you want in your life to 'someday' down the track?We unpack the excuse trap, the right time and the fear of failure.Laura questions whether deferring goals is always a bad thing or whether it's more about prioritisation and inherent sacrifice. Keeshia questions whether it's the 'goal' or the feeling that the goal brings us that we actually want. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    53 min
  4. Ask Uncut - Not My Biological Father, Career or Motherhood & Concert Etiquette

    23 FEB

    Ask Uncut - Not My Biological Father, Career or Motherhood & Concert Etiquette

    Welcome back to Ask Uncut where we unpack all of your deep dark and burning questions. Laura is a bit f*cking rooted today apparently! There are no sick days here at life uncut! First very important question: which colour snakes (lollies) do you like the least? Is it orange? It's probably orange right?? Second very important question: what flavour is the orange lolly? The answer to this still hurts my brain.Keeshia has been reunited with Britt's dad Tony and there's a lifer who now gets where our obsession with him comes from!Vibes for the week: Keeshia Cloud podcastBritt It's All Over. The Kiss That Changed Spanish Football on NetflixLaura White Lotus Season 3 Then we jump into your questions: DO I LET IT GO TO PROTECT MY DAD?Growing up, I always looked and felt really different from the rest of my family. It was always a running joke that I was the “adopted” child because I don’t resemble anyone. When I was 14 and really into science, I learned that my blood type wasn’t a possible combination of my parents. I brought it up with my mum, but she completely shut me down and made me feel silly for even questioning it. Fast forward to late last year, and my sister and I did a heritage DNA test for fun. When the results came back, we found out we’re only half-sisters—meaning we have different dads. I have no idea what to do with this information. I’ve always had suspicions that my mum might have had an affair over the years (I’ve even seen some texts on her phone to another man). The thing is, my dad is the sweetest, most pure-hearted man. He’s retired now and living his best life, and I know that something like this could absolutely shatter him. I don’t know if it’s my place to bring it up or if he would be happier living in ignorant bliss. I don’t care about finding out who my “real” biological father is—I just care about what’s best for my dad. Is it my duty to dig deeper and confront my mum? Or do I let this go to protect him? I’m completely torn. CONCERT ETIQUETTE Can you stand up at a concert when in a reserved seating area? If you want to stand to pop along, should you book a GA standing? DO I REKINDLE THINGS AFTER SHE HAS THE BABY?I’ve just started talking to a new man for the first time after being cheated on in my last relationship. We went on two dates, and I really liked him. We slept together, he stayed the night, it was great! This man ticked all of my boxes. All of a sudden, after staying the night, he stopped replying! I thought he’d ghosted me and things were done. Then three days later, he came back and explained that he and his ex had hooked up in October last year and SHE IS PREGNANT! She’s now just started her second trimester. He said he wants to prioritise the baby and her, and he and his ex agreed on no dating/communication through the pregnancy, which is completely reasonable. He said he wants to keep talking to me after the birth because he really enjoyed spending time with me and wants to see where things go. My question is, do I rekindle things in 5 months, or is it just too messy? CAREER OR MOTHERHOOD?My partner and I are trying to work out when we should have kids. I’m 30 and he is 39. His career is well and truly set up and he is happy where he is. I however am not! When I was younger I always wanted to be a mum, but as I get older my priorities have shifted to being career focused. I am a pilot and I want to progress in my career a little more before we have kids. I am not happy where I currently work (very toxic workplace) and want a bit more of a stable job, especially one to go back to after having babies. I’m not sure this new job will come in the next year or so, so my husband and I have been talking about prioritising babies first, due to my husband approaching 40. As much as I want to be a mum, it breaks my heart that I may not get my dream career that I’ve worked years for and spent $200 K to train for (does this mean I shouldn’t be a mum?😢). I don’t want to put off having kids for too long, but I also feel If I take a break now from my career that I’d be setting myself back years compared to my male colleagues. I feel so stuck and lost and I keep getting told that I’ll know when the time is right but will I? Is 40 getting too old to be a first time dad? Also - the income I earn would not be enough to support a family, so my partner (also a pilot) would have to be the one to continue working and I’ll be the one to take time off   You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    47 min
  5. The Catch Up Trap & How To Speak With Your Friends Who Are Struggling With Fertility. Uncut with Tanya Hennessy

    20 FEB

    The Catch Up Trap & How To Speak With Your Friends Who Are Struggling With Fertility. Uncut with Tanya Hennessy

    Today’s guest is one of the most funny, relatable and completely open people we’ve been lucky enough to chat with. Tanya Hennessy is a comedian, radio announcer, TV presenter, multi-bestselling author and content creator.  We kick this chat off by speaking about something Tanya recently wrote about called the ‘catch up trap’. It’s where we all seem to be just ‘catching up’ with our friends and recapping our lives rather than actually creating new memories together. It can be reflective of the stage of life that we’re in, but it can also make you question whether it’s a good use of our time to just be relaying what we’ve been up to since the last time we spoke. When was the last time you created ‘new’ memories with your friend? Tanya is now all about creating these new memories and seeking deep joy from her friendships.  Tanya has been very open with her long ‘journey’ with challenging fertility. The main difference is that Tanya speaks about it in real time, not hindsight. Tanya is currently going through the process of her 7th round of IVF and has tried quite literally everything that you could imagine.Something we are often asked during Ask Uncut is how to speak about kids, pregnancy or trying to conceive with a friend that you know has been struggling with their own fertility. Unfortunately there is no one size fits all answer of how to do it right. But, we ask Tanya how she navigates her friendships with her loved ones that have kids, how she responds to social media announcements and things like baby showers etc. Tanya also speaks about the things that we need to address on a systemic level like pregnancy loss care and removing the deafening silence of fertility struggle stigma. You can find more from Tanya on her instagram and tiktok  You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    47 min
  6. Welcome to Cloud!

    19 FEB · BONUS

    Welcome to Cloud!

    Hey Lifers!Over the past 4 months we have been working on this very special project; a brand new 10 part mini series called Cloud, hosted by Life Uncut’s Executive Producer Keeshia Pettit.  Cloud is a podcast series created to discuss ADHD and late age diagnosis; a conversation that was sparked after Keeshia’s own diagnosis. The name Cloud is inspired by the experiences of many late-diagnosed women who describe finally feeling like a “cloud was lifted” after learning more about the different ways that their brains work and how they ‘fit’ into society. With all of the content about ADHD on social media explaining what the condition is, I’ve been on quite a journey figuring out the difference between what I thought were personality flaws and what is actually symptomatic of this condition. I realised that there was a bit of a gap of what to do next. What was I meant to do with all of this information? Cloud was created to fill that gap. It explores the intersection of ADHD with identity, relationships, career, and well-being so that we can live more fulfilling and more present lives.Each episode will offer insight into a different aspect of ADHD from guests like Mark Manson, the author of ‘The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck, psychiatrist Dr Kieran Kennedy, focus and attention expert Johann Hari and relationship experts Sabrina Zohar and Logan Ury. Today’s conversation is about emotional dysregulation, shame, masking, impulsivity, self criticism and success.  We chat: Why I was so hesitant to speak publicly about ADHD The ‘oversaturation’ of ADHD content on social media  How ADHD presents differently in girls and women Wondering if I'd have known earlier, would life have been easier? How I've changed since diagnosis How Britt & Laura feel I've changed Rejection sensitive dysphoria, emotional dysregulation, shame, impulsivity and time blindness. Am I a chameleon or am I masking? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    50 min

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Talking all things love, life, lust, and a bunch of other stuff. Nothing is off limits in this podcast that navigates relationships and dating in the modern day. Brought to you by two bachelor finalists Brittany Hockley and Laura Byrne. 

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