Esther's Office Hours

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Updated 10/12/2024
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Updated 30/11/2017
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Updated 2 Jan

22/04/2024

Esther Calling - Love is a Trap

He gets to a certain point in relationships before he starts fantasizing about his ex-boyfriends or other future partners. Esther talks him through what he might be holding onto from his childhood that makes his otherwise healthy relationships feel stifling. Esther Callings are a one-time, 45-60 minute interventional phone call with Esther. They are edited for time, clarity, and anonymity. If you have a question you would like to talk through with Esther, send a voice memo to producer@estherperel.com. For the first time on the U.S. stage, Esther invites you to an evening unlike any other. Join her as she shines a light on the cultural shifts transforming relationships and helps us rethink how we connect, how we desire – and even how we love. To find a city near you, go to https://www.estherperel.com/tour2024 Want to learn more? Receive monthly insights, musings, and recommendations to improve your relational intelligence via email from Esther: https://www.estherperel.com/newsletter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

22/04/2024

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40 min
6 JAN

Esther Calling - Did I Get Ghosted or Is He Just Not That Into Me?

A young woman notices a pattern in her life of frequently being ghosted. And the last time this happened, it really stung. Not only did she lose a lover but she lost an important friend. Did this friend with benefits ghost her or did she miss something? For the month of January, Esther is offering 20% off to join her Office Hours on Apple Podcasts. It's a place to continue conversations on important topics like sexlessness, infidelity, or the perils of modern dating. It's also a place to follow up with couples and find out where their stories went. You'll also get an ad free version of all the episodes. Esther Callings are a one time, 45-60 minute interventional phone call with Esther. They are edited for time, clarity, and anonymity. If you have a question you would like to talk through with Esther, send a voice memo to producer@estherperel.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

6 Jan

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48 min
16/12/2024

Esther Calling - I Don't Want to Turn Into My Mother

After becoming a mother for the first time, a young woman reflects on the complicated relationship with her own mother. Esther guides her through establishing boundaries with grace, breaking generational cycles, and the importance of self-acceptance. If you have an individual question you would like to talk through with Esther, please send a voice memo to producer@estherperel.com. If you would like to apply for a couples session with Esther, please click here: https://bit.ly/40fGHIU. Want to learn more? Receive monthly insights, musings, and recommendations to improve your relational intelligence via email from Esther: https://www.estherperel.com/newsletter" Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

16/12/2024

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55 min
04/12/2023

Esther Calling - My Emotional Inheritance

A woman comes to Esther with a question about how to move on from the pain that her parents have caused her. They’ve begun family therapy but she wonders if she can continue to have a relationship with her father when his opposing political beliefs directly impact her identity. Is it okay to sweep things under the rug for the sake of family? Esther Callings are a one time, 45-60 minute interventional phone call with Esther. They are edited for time, clarity, and anonymity. If you have a question you would like to talk through with Esther, send a voice memo to producer@estherperel.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

04/12/2023

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42 min
16/09/2024

Esther Calling - Why Can't I Find Someone? Is it Me?

Esther speaks to a woman who feels frustrated and stuck in her dating patterns. She loves going on dates, regularly meets people out and about, and feels open to having multiple forms of a relationship. And still…she gets to one or two or three dates before the relationship fizzles out. Esther gives her a new way to think about it and reframes her frustrations. Esther's has two new courses out. If you are interested in Bringing Desire Back or Playing With Desire in your relationships, then click the link below for more. For more go to: https://www.estherperel.com/course-bundles/the-desire-bundle Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

16/09/2024

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40 min
18/11/2021

Esther Calling - Losing My Best Friend

In this second episode of Esther Calling, we meet a woman who feels she is losing her best friend. The caller feels that her friend is rushing into a marriage to someone she doesn’t approve of. During the call Esther talks her through a new way to see their relationship and where to go from here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

18/11/2021

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19 min
22/01/2024

Esther Calling - Part of Me Wants to Cheat Part One

This episode contains discussions of a sexual trauma. Please take care listening. A woman in a healthy and loving relationship talks to Esther about the fantasies she has of cheating on her partner. Together they delve into whether these are truly adulterous thoughts or if this voice in her head is connected to the unresolved shame and trauma from an earlier sexual assault. Esther Callings are a one time, 45-60 minute interventional phone call with Esther. They are edited for time, clarity, and anonymity. If you have a question you would like to talk through with Esther, send a voice memo to producer@estherperel.com. Want to learn more? Receive monthly insights, musings, and recommendations to improve your relational intelligence via email from Esther: https://www.estherperel.com/newsletter Please take this survey to help us plan for the future: estherperel.com/survey Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

22/01/2024

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45 min
04/03/2024

I Love You One Day, I Hate You The Next

They are a young couple with a small child and they fight non-stop. And while they each have good intentions, they struggle to hear or see each other. What initially made them fall in love with each other, they now experience as a threat. Can they learn to fight but still stay connected to each other? For the first time on the U.S. stage, Esther invites you to an evening unlike any other. Join her as she shines a light on the cultural shifts transforming relationships and helps us rethink how we connect, how we desire – and even how we love. To find a city near you, go to https://www.estherperel.com/tour2024 Want to learn more? Receive monthly insights, musings, and recommendations to improve your relational intelligence via email from Esther: https://www.estherperel.com/newsletter Coming to SXSW? You can see Esther live on the Vox Media Podcast Stage with guest Trevor Noah on March 8th, and with Brené Brown on March 10th. Learn more at voxmedia.com/live Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

04/03/2024

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53 min
18/11/2024

Say More - Esther Perel on Fantasy with Gillian Anderson

Recently, on Where Should We Begin, we've been focusing on the things we sweep under the rug in our relationships—conversations that we have a hard time having with ourselves let alone with others. Oftentimes, our sexual fantasies exist in this space and reveal us at our most bare, showing us not just what we want sexually, but what we want emotionally and psychologically. Even with a loving partner, it can be difficult to share our most personal sexual fantasies. There's often shame, stigma, and a fear of being judged. Award-winning actress, Gillian Anderson, joins Esther to discuss Want, her collection of women's anonymous fantasies from around the world. To purchase Gillian Anderson's new book, Want: https://bit.ly/3O8CVcZ If you have an individual question you would like to talk through with Esther, please send a voice memo to producer@estherperel.com. If you would like to apply for a couples session with Esther, please click here: https://bit.ly/40fGHIU. Esther’s two new courses on desire are now available inside The Desire Bundle. Go to https://www.estherperel.com/course-bundles/the-desire-bundle to learn more about Bringing Desire Back and Playing with Desire. Want to learn more? Receive monthly insights, musings, and recommendations to improve your relational intelligence via email from Esther: https://www.estherperel.com/newsletter" Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

18/11/2024

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59 min
13/01/2022

Esther Calling - It's a Matter of Pride

In another episode of Esther Calling, he worries his desire for a serious relationship is putting women off. But early in their phone call, it becomes clear to Esther that he’s talking about a particular woman from his past. He describes his feelings for that woman as “intense”, whereas she was more ambivalent. Esther and the caller explore the question: when is yearning for someone’s unreciprocated feelings more about pride and getting what you want than it is about that other person? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

13/01/2022

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19 min

Every Monday morning step into the office of iconic psychotherapist Esther Perel and listen in as real people in search of insight bare the raw, intimate, and profound details of their stories. From breakups and open relationships to workplace conflicts and fractures in the family, it’s a place to hear our own stories reflected in the lives of others. So…where should we begin? Part of the Vox Media Podcast Network.

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SOCIETY & CULTURE

Esther’s Office Hours is the home of Where Should We Begin. It is also a place to continue conversations on important topics like sexlessness, infidelity, or the perils of modern dating and to follow up with couples to find out where their stories went. By joining Esther's Office Hours subscription on Apple Podcasts, you'll get an ad-free version of these sessions—plus you will have access to Esther's new Apple Channel. It includes the earliest seasons of the podcast, plus a new clinical library of conversations with colleagues, coaches, and other therapists.

Esther's Office Hours

January Limited Time Offer

Top Shows

Esther Calling - Love is a Trap

Esther Calling - Did I Get Ghosted or Is He Just Not That Into Me?

Esther Calling - I Don't Want to Turn Into My Mother

Esther Calling - My Emotional Inheritance

Esther Calling - Why Can't I Find Someone? Is it Me?

Esther Calling - Losing My Best Friend

Esther Calling - Part of Me Wants to Cheat Part One

I Love You One Day, I Hate You The Next

Say More - Esther Perel on Fantasy with Gillian Anderson

Esther Calling - It's a Matter of Pride

January Limited Time Offer

Esther Takes Your Questions from Los Angeles

Bringing Back Desire - Preview

A Few Months Later - We Had Boundaries and He Crossed Them

I Think I Married the Wrong Person Follow-Up

Trevor Noah Aftershow - Bonus Q & A

A Few Weeks Later - I Don't Want to Turn Into My Mother

Why Do We Marry? with Eli Finkel

Esther Calling - I Left. Now I Want My Wife Back. Follow-Up

I Can't Give You a Child

Say More - Neil Patrick Harris on Friendship

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Esther's Office Hours

January Limited Time Offer

Top Shows

Top Episodes

Esther Calling - Love is a Trap

Esther Calling - Did I Get Ghosted or Is He Just Not That Into Me?

Esther Calling - I Don't Want to Turn Into My Mother

Esther Calling - My Emotional Inheritance

Esther Calling - Why Can't I Find Someone? Is it Me?

Esther Calling - Losing My Best Friend

Esther Calling - Part of Me Wants to Cheat Part One

I Love You One Day, I Hate You The Next

Say More - Esther Perel on Fantasy with Gillian Anderson

Esther Calling - It's a Matter of Pride