Delight Your Marriage

Belah Rose | Author, Podcaster, & Marital Intimacy Enthusiast
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Delight Your Marriage

Husbands and wives were designed to be different. You want different things in marriage and intimacy on every level (emotional, spiritual, and physical). Whether you're a wife or a husband, whether you're suffering or pretty good... and you're looking for Bible-based insights and scriptural practical guidance on how to transform your marriage, you've found the right podcast! We have "transformation stories" that will inspire hope that putting into practice these principles, by God's grace, can truly change your intimacy completely. If you're looking to see how to transform your marriage sign up for a free Clarity Call, we can hear your story and work with you to determine if we are confident we can help you: https://www.delightyourmarriage.com/cc

  1. 4 DAYS AGO

    458-Why Doesn't She Want Sex: Drop The Expectations

    Let’s set the scene- You’ve planned the perfect evening. A Friday night—date night. You and your wife are dressed to the nines. There’s a show, a fantastic dinner, and deep conversation that reconnects your hearts. But then you arrive back home… What are you hoping will happen next? Here’s the truth: that unspoken hope—your expectation—might be doing more harm than you realize. When a husband subconsciously expects intimacy, it can feel like pressure to his wife. And that pressure? It makes her withdraw. Intimacy begins to feel transactional—like something she owes you, a “reward” for good effort, rather than a mutual outpouring of love. In fact, the more you expect it, the less she’ll desire it. So, how do you break free from this pattern and draw her closer instead? Here are three key ideas: Drop the expectations & be content in your life (find true contentment in life by letting God satisfy you in many ways) Share your feelings more with your wife (She needs emotional connection in order to be open to physical intimacy) Think strategically about your marriage (You’re intentional about your career, your goals—why not your marriage?) In today’s episode, we unpack these three steps and explore how to release the pressure of expectations, discover fulfillment outside of intimacy (even when sex isn’t in the picture) [We highly recommend you checking out Ep. 417: Re-sensitize Your Pleasure for more on this topic], and create a marriage that’s full of joy, connection, and God-honoring pleasure. We believe God when he said he meant for couples to be “one flesh”. And we believe that he created intimacy to be unifying, satisfying, and connecting heart, soul, and body. We hope this episode brings a new perspective and new joy, intimacy, and connection into your marriage.   God bless you!   Belah & Team   PS - If this episode resonates with you, we highly recommend signing up for our FREE Masculinity Reclaimed Foundations Course at delightym.com/mrf. PPS - Here is a quote from a recent MRF graduate: "We were emotionally, intimately, and spiritually disconnected. We lived in the same house but didn't live together. I was angry and bitter, critical of everything, and judgmental. I hated that about myself. [Now,] My wife and I are closer than we have ever been! She has a glow. It's crazy how much we love each other. Life is fun! I can't stand to be without her. Glory to God!”

    21 min

  2. 15 NOV

    457 - Why Doesn't She Want Sex: The Basics

    We know that intimacy is an integral part of married life.  But what happens when that intimacy… isn’t happening?  You’ve tried to explain, you’ve tried to give your point of view, you’ve even tried to give pointers, and still… nothing. What can you do?   At Delight Your Marriage, we have developed a framework for what men and women need in order to feel loved and thrive in their marriages and, in turn, move towards intimacy. When these things are missing from a marriage, it can often cause bitterness, resentment, and can lead to months, even years, of lack of intimacy, physical or otherwise. Here is what we have determined the framework to be: What Women Need: To be safe To be known To be whole-heartedly cherished What Men Need: To be respected To be admired To have whole-heartedly sexual intimacy When these key elements are missing- everything else crumbles. If you are reading (or listening) and wondering why your spouse has not initiated intimacy or why they shut down initiations - look back to this list. Are you giving this to your spouse? We hope today’s episode will bless you as we shed some light on this topic, expand on the ‘why’ behind these needs, and give practical ways on how to implement this framework - not only for the goal of physical intimacy, but for the goal of having a thriving and beautiful marriage. We are rooting for you!   God bless,   Belah & Team   PS - To check out the Marital Health Assessment mentioned in this episode, visit https://delightyourmarriage.com/mhac/ PPS - If you are wanting to grow in your marriage and learn exactly how to implement this framework (and get support while you do it!), we would love to talk to you. https://delightyourmarriage.com/cc

    51 min

  3. 8 NOV

    456-Don't Give Up (my husband joins me :)) [Re-Release]

    We are so glad to be able to share a re-release episode with you this week! My husband, Dario, joins us again and he, as always, has some words of encouragement for you. We hope this episode does indeed encourage you and bless you! ------------- Nov. 11, 2021 Don’t give up.  My goal today is to encourage you. You’re doing a really good job. Just by tuning in, you’re winning. You’re seeking to love your spouse well, even when it doesn’t look like it matters.  You’re seeking to do God’s will in the midst of your circumstances.  My husband is on the show today because he’s the best encourager that I know. And I want you to hear from him how much he wants you to know, you’re on the right path, you’re doing the right thing, and I am proud of you.  Love, Belah PS – If you need help right away, get with a Clarity Advisor to see how we can help you: delightyourmarriage.com/cc PPS – If you have yet to check out our free stuff — do so here! delightyourmarriage.com/free

    42 min

  4. 1 NOV

    455-Honor Their Strengths & Support Their Weaknesses (Belah's husband joins!)

    It’s so easy to focus on the weaknesses of your spouse.  In fact, it’s one of the easiest things to do when you think of them, but if you can imagine being in your spouse’s shoes, everything you say and do, picked apart and looked at under a magnifying glass… That doesn’t help them live their best life and thrive.  I invite you to instead accept your spouse‘s weaknesses. They have them. You have them. And look instead at their strengths. Notice what they’re doing right and comment on it. Today. I’m joined by my husband, Dario, who is an amazing father and amazing husband. I’m very honored to walk this road of life alongside him. But he sees me at my very worst and he accepts those weaknesses, but he also supports me in them. So, like many of you, I can be on my screen too much or not want to go to sleep on time amongst other weaknesses… And my husband is so gracious, gentle, but also responsible to help me do what I need to do to live my best for God. I invite you to support your spouse and their weaknesses, but also really focus on their strengths and help them to realize the good that God has placed in them. I hope even this weekend you will have more grace for your spouse and focus on the good in them.    God bless you!    Love,    Belah

    52 min

  5. 25 OCT

    454-Hopeless & Frustrated to Restored Legacy: Craig's Transformation Story

    We’re thrilled to share Craig’s story with you today. For years, Craig and his wife were stuck in a painful cycle—“You always ____,” “You never _____”—both keeping score, building walls of resentment, and matching hurt with hurt. Things seemed like they’d never change. Then, a friend from church mentioned the transformation he had experienced through Delight Your Marriage. Craig was skeptical at first, but as the months passed, he couldn’t deny the remarkable shift in his friend’s life. That’s when Craig decided to take the first step and schedule a Clarity Call. What surprised him most was that the change didn’t come from trying to fix his wife—it started with him. Within the first month, Craig embraced a new way of showing up: becoming “quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to anger.” Through his own transformation, the marriage began to heal. Today, Craig shares with joy that his children will never have to grow up in a divided home. The family tree will remain unbroken, with a straight and strong trunk—thanks to the tools, community, and growth Craig found through our program. We hope Craig’s story reminds you that change is possible. It’s possible to break free from arguments. It’s possible to experience peace and joy in your marriage. And it’s possible for God to rewrite your story in ways you never imagined. We believe in you, and we are cheering you on. Love, Belah & Team PS - If you want a change in your marriage like Craig had, with no more arguing and no more resentment, we would love to talk with you. Check out our free Clarity Call here: delightyourmarriage.com/cc   PPS - Check out this testimonial from (another) recent graduate: “My wife had her mind pretty much set on divorce. She said she had an upcoming meeting with an attorney when I first joined the program. My stress level was up, my appetite was pretty much nothing, and I couldn't sleep. [After MR}, I have grown spiritually, mentally, and feel more whole as a person. My wife and I have come to a place in our marriage where it used to be, like when we first got married. We are happy to be around each other again, can't wait to see each other at the end of the day, and have more connected conversations again.”

    40 min

  6. 17 OCT

    453-Moving On from His Mistakes: Lindsay's Transformation Story

    We have the honor and privilege of sharing Lindsay's Transformation Story today. For years, she struggled with the pain of infidelity, unsure if she could ever trust her husband again. But when her husband decided to join the Masculinity Reclaimed program, the changes she saw in him stirred something in her heart. That’s when she reached out, booked a free Clarity Call, and joined the Delighted Wife program.  Through God’s grace, their marriage has been completely transformed. Moments once marked by tension and fear have been replaced by playfulness and peace. She has rediscovered the joy of being with her husband, and together they are experiencing a marriage that has truly been redeemed by the Lord. We give all the glory to God for this incredible renewal. Time and time again, He proves that no situation is beyond His redemption. If you’ve felt hopeless about your marriage, let this story remind you that there is truly no relationship too far gone for Him to redeem.  Love, Belah & Team   PS - If you want to try our free Clarity Call like Lindsay did and talk with one of our Clarity Advisors, we would love to chat with you: delightyourmarriage.com/cc PPS - Here is a quote from a recent graduate: “Seven years ago, my husband began a 3 year affair with an employee… After a separation in our own home we each began our own counseling... After 4 years of marriage counseling and feeling stuck in a marriage that was barely hanging on, I discovered your program. I found hope for my marriage and began to see my husband in a different light. I was ready to quit, I had considered divorce. [Now], I am able to appreciate the small things my husband does, I am able to give compliments which he appreciates. I am practicing vulnerability and playfulness!... It’s changed the way I see my husband.”

    25 min

  7. 11 OCT

    452-Forgiven & Free of Resentment & Past Affairs. Jim's Transformation Story

    Today’s episode is an incredible story of God‘s transformative power. From a man who started out broken and lonely, with a history he wasn’t proud of, God was able to take his little seed of faith, his little seed of hope that just maybe something could change for him, too. He decided to sign up for a free Clarity Call, and then to join our program. He went through the program once on his own. Eventually, his wife saw some changes in him and decided that she wanted to do the work to heal from their past.  Ultimately, they both did the program at the same time, and praise the Lord, they are completely renewed and restored. You would not believe the description that Jim gives of their marriage today. He said that it’s the way he always dreamed marriage could be. I hope this gives you encouragement, that you too, can have a marriage rescue no matter the past. God can redeem. If you’d like our help, we’d love to help you on a free Clarity Call. Delightyourmarriage.com/cc    Love, Belah & Team   PS There IS hope, dear one! Healing is what Jesus does! Bring it to Him and ask for His touch. Our programs can help with the healing process and equip you with the tools. Jesus does the rest! Take that step of faith...delightyourmarriage.com/cc.   From someone who did: "Celebrating making it to 12 weeks when I thought I wouldn’t make the course at all... GOD is great! ...Loving my husband again after infidelity on both sides - never in my wildest dreams did I think it was possible to find that love again and so quickly. The peace God has bestowed upon my marriage, life, house, and children since walking through this course... I love life and am dreaming again because God has brought healing to my marriage. It’s like all the stop buttons that were pushed because I was out of alignment with God’s will in my marriage have been pushed to GO/GREEN again and I feel more aligned, more focused, and things are moving again."

    37 min

  8. 4 OCT

    451-How to Deal with Anxiety Biblically

    Is it true? Are you sure it’s true? How often do we ask these questions when an anxious thought comes to our mind? Too often we allow ourselves to assume a thought is true and allow the anxiety to drive us to choices we don't want to make.  Anxiety is fear. Stress is masked fear. And controlling or mothering behavior... yep... it's also fear. The Bible is crystal clear: Do not fear. Be anxious for nothing. If you want to break free from this snare, it starts with 1) calming your physical body 2) investigating the mental tapes playing in your mind. What anxious thoughts have you allowed to run your life? ‘I’m not good enough’ 'I'm a failure as a husband' "My husband doesn't love me"  Whatever it is, I challenge you to investigate those thoughts. Get curious about your anxiety. When you work on acknowledging and understand your fears, you build the resilience needed to face them, biblically. It’s not about denying the struggle; it’s about leaning in and clarifying what is actually going on.  This is a technique adapted from Byron Katie, and it is a series of questions you ask yourself.  A - What mental tape am I repeating? B - Is it true? C - Am I absolutely sure it’s true?  There are a couple more steps we talk through in the podcast, which I'm very excited for you to listen to!  May God give you grace to walk in His abundant peace and comfort.  Love, Belah and Team   PS - If you want help rewriting that mental tape and want help getting rooted in the truth of Scripture and your marriage, we would love to talk to you. Please contact us at delightyourmarriage.com/cc   PPS - Here is a quote from a recent graduate: “[Some of my] quick fire celebrations: -The peace God has bestowed upon my marriage, life, house, and children since walking through this course -The new refreshed hope I have in Jesus -Praying and reading my Bible and actually getting together with people who love and believe in Jesus. I was repulsed by Christians for a while but I now see value in community after doing this course.  -The way I’ve grown to know what God thinks about marriage and life in general. He actually wants to make it easy and wants to help us not make us work hard or struggle like slaves for the sake of marriage. HE REALLY IS GOOD.”

    50 min
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Husbands and wives were designed to be different. You want different things in marriage and intimacy on every level (emotional, spiritual, and physical). Whether you're a wife or a husband, whether you're suffering or pretty good... and you're looking for Bible-based insights and scriptural practical guidance on how to transform your marriage, you've found the right podcast! We have "transformation stories" that will inspire hope that putting into practice these principles, by God's grace, can truly change your intimacy completely. If you're looking to see how to transform your marriage sign up for a free Clarity Call, we can hear your story and work with you to determine if we are confident we can help you: https://www.delightyourmarriage.com/cc

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  • Creator
    Belah Rose | Author, Podcaster, & Marital Intimacy Enthusiast
  • Years Active
    2015 - 2024
  • Episodes
    490
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © (c) Delight Your Marriage
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