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June 4



Relationships can be so tricky in recovery. In men’s meetings, they have many jokes about replacing alcohol and drugs with relationships:

1. The beaver trail leads to wine country;

2. There is a slip under every skirt;

3. She was another bottle with legs;

4. Etc.

I wish I knew what women said about men in recovery, but I am kinda glad that I don’t. The advice thrown out in recovery circles is to stay away from relationships for an entire year. This advice has probably saved more addicts’ and alcoholics’ lives than any other advice given in meetings.

Reflections

Did you have a relationship in your first year of recovery? Are you having one now?

Daily Challenge

Stop whacking it. (Especially if your name is Aaron).




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June 3



Everything in moderation. And we mean EVERYTHING! We used to say, “Listen in moderation,” at the end of the introduction on the podcast each week. It was in there for a reason. We addicts and alcoholics are absolutely the worst when it comes to moderation. It doesn’t matter what we do. We always end up doing more than we should to excess, and it usually gets other people’s attention. Our thought process is always, “If one is good, then five are way better.” And that just about sums that up. We can get obsessive about the most basic shit, and we will find ourselves eating a whole cheesecake in one sitting unless there is something more attractive in arms’ reach. We do this with EVERYTHING that can be consumed, smoked, inhaled, injected, eaten, felt, or f****d. Balance is not our strong suit.

Reflections

Where are you lacking balance in your recovery? What are you still taking to the extreme?

Daily Challenge

How can you interrupt these behaviors in the future?




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June 2



Do you have a personal code? I have had a few personal codes. My favorite was my “pirate code.” This code allowed me to do whatever I wanted, whenever I wanted, and to whom I wanted to do it. Integrity was not part of that code. Actually, the word “integrity” never left my lips before I got sober. I didn’t know what it meant because I didn’t have any. Today, I understand integrity as honesty with non-wavering principles and a sense of virtue and honorableness. I have diverted from these characteristics more than a few times in my sobriety, and it can cause me some real mental anguish when I do feel guilt and the desperate need to atone (make amends). As we acquire integrity, the old codes we lived by won’t be as attractive or practical, and the recovery road gets narrower. Just try to keep your balance.

Reflections

Have you discovered the narrowing road in recovery?

Daily Challenge

Look up the words “principle of integrity Step 5” in google. Happy reading!




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Summary
Carl reads an excerpt from the book about the spiritual malady. The conversation explores the concept of the spiritual malady and how it manifests in individuals. It delves into the feelings of restlessness, irritability, and discontent that arise from this malady and the various ways people try to fill the void. The importance of examining one's life and identifying areas of brokenness is emphasized, as well as the need for a spiritual healing. The conversation also touches on the role of the 12-step program in addressing the spiritual malady and finding healing. In this conversation, Broken Beth discusses her journey of recovery and the spiritual malady that she believes was present from birth. She emphasizes the importance of actively working the steps and having a spiritual experience to truly understand the emptiness and lack of purpose that addiction brings. Carl D shares his experience of falling in love with the guy at 7-Eleven and how it changed his perspective on life. They discuss the importance of doing the work and not just seeking relief in fellowship. The conversation concludes with a discussion of the promises of recovery and the transformation that can occur.


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In this episode of SoberPod, Carl reads from his book and discusses the topic of anger and losing control. He shares personal experiences of throwing adult fits and reflects on the consequences of such behavior. Carl also introduces a five-step process from Stoicism to manage anger and respond wisely. He emphasizes the importance of self-monitoring, cognitive distancing, postponement, modeling virtue, and functional analysis. The episode concludes with a call to support Chelsea and a reminder to stay active and sober.


Throwing adult fits and losing control can have negative consequences and damage relationships.


Stoicism offers a five-step process to manage anger: self-monitoring, cognitive distancing, postponement, modeling virtue, and functional analysis.


Practicing these steps can help individuals respond wisely and avoid destructive behavior.


Supporting others in their recovery journey is important and can make a difference.


Staying active and sober is crucial for maintaining sobriety




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Buy the book!


In this conversation, Carl and Chelsea discuss the purpose of their podcast, SoberPod, and the importance of one addict or alcoholic helping another in recovery. They introduce their book, '366 Fucking Days Sober,' and encourage listeners to engage with the daily meditations and affirmations. They highlight the significance of emotional sobriety and challenge the critical inner voice that often undermines self-worth. The conversation touches on topics such as setting boundaries, saying no without guilt, and practicing self-care. The conversation explores the theme of the critical inner voice and its impact on self-perception and behavior. The speakers discuss their experiences with negative self-talk and the importance of challenging and reframing these thoughts. They emphasize the need to confide in others and seek support in order to break free from the cycle of negative thinking. The conversation also touches on the significance of forgiveness and self-compassion in overcoming the critical inner voice. Overall, the speakers encourage listeners to confront and address their negative thoughts and beliefs in order to achieve personal growth and recovery.

Takeaways


One addict or alcoholic helping another is crucial to building a life in recovery.
Emotional sobriety is essential for true transformation in recovery.
Setting boundaries and saying no without guilt are important aspects of self-care.
Engaging with daily meditations and affirmations can challenge the critical inner voice and promote self-worth. Recognize and acknowledge the critical inner voice and challenge its validity
Talk to someone you trust about your negative thoughts and beliefs
Practice self-compassion and forgiveness
Seek support and confide in others to break free from negative thinking
Addressing the critical inner voice is crucial for personal growth and recovery




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