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What do you look for in a partner?
What do you think makes a relationship interesting?
Today, let's talk about the disparity between what people say they want in a partner — traits like kindness, empathy, and thoughtfulness — and what they often find themselves attracted to, which may be more superficial qualities like physical attractiveness.
Jay references research from the Pew Research Center to highlight that 35% of men value physical attractiveness most in women, while 33% of women value honesty and morality most in men. He discusses how societal pressures and media influence shape these preferences and often lead people to prioritize the wrong traits, which can result in unsatisfying relationships.
Additionally, Jay addresses the issues of men looking for nurturing qualities in women, sometimes in an unhealthy, maternal sense, and the pressure on men to achieve professional and financial success. He also touches on the societal expectations and challenges faced by successful women who feel they need to downplay their achievements to attract partners.
In this episode, you'll learn:
How to identify cover values in a partner
How to balance attraction and values
How to avoid common relationship pitfalls
How to build a connection based on values
How to foster a healthy relationship
By focusing on qualities like kindness, empathy, and honesty, we can build deeper, more meaningful connections. True compatibility goes beyond physical attraction and societal expectations, it's rooted in shared values and mutual respect.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
02:26 What Is More Important to Us in a Partner?
04:44 #1: Physical Attractiveness
05:16 #2: Honesty and Morality
08:37 #3: Empathy, Nurturing, Kindness
15:30 #4: Professional, Financial Success
18:49 #5: Intelligence
23:06 Looking for Love in the Wrong Places
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What’s your go-to nutrition hack?
Is it truly beneficial for your body’s health?
Today, let's welcome Elissa Goodman, a renowned integrative holistic nutritionist known for her expertise in cleansing and nutrition. She has gained recognition for her personal journey of overcoming significant health challenges, including cancer and autoimmune issues, which inspired her to take control of her health and help others do the same. Elissa has developed her own kitchen cleanse program, which delivers nourishing and healing foods directly to people's homes.
Elissa explains the concept of cleansing, which is often misunderstood as deprivation and starvation. Her approach focuses on nourishment and reducing inflammation through a diet rich in a variety of vegetables and plant-based foods. She describes the benefits of her cleanses, which help people reset their bodies, improve digestion, and enhance overall well-being.
Jay and Elissa also significance of habits such as regular blood work, proper sleep, meditation, and journaling for maintaining health. We get to hear practical advice, including tips on how to read supplement and food labels, avoiding additives and fillers, and the benefits of simple, whole foods and maintaining a balanced diet. Always listen to our body and make health decisions based on individual needs. .
In this interview, you'll learn:
How to hydrate properly
How to improve digestion
How to manage stress for better health
How to address emotional well-being
How to understand your body's needs
How to use plant-based proteins
Take the first step towards a healthier you by embracing these holistic approaches, and experience the transformative benefits for yourself.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro 04:23 What is Cleansing? 05:58 Is Cleansing Necessary? 06:48 How Often Should You Cleanse? 08:47 Surviving Cancer 14:39 You Can Heal Cancer 18:05 The Benefits of Juicing 19:54 Celery Juice 25:06 Habit Change 28:00 Muscle Testing Supplements 29:44 The Right Supplements 33:11 Read Product Labels 37:42 Different Types of Cleansing 41:11 How the Digestive Tract Works 42:47 There’s No One Diet for All 46:02 Supplement Misconceptions 49:16 Going Back to Basics 52:37 Tap Into Your Subconscious 55:30 My Plant Medicine Journey 58:07 Releasing Kept Emotions 01:00:28 Takeaways 01:02:06 The Sickly Child 01:05:52 Hypnotism 01:07:32 Programing of Our Subconscious 01:10:33 Forgiveness 01:11:59 Elissa on Final Five 01:14:21 Manifesting Positivity    Episode Resources:
Elissa Goodman | Website Elissa Goodman | Instagram Elissa Goodman | LinkedIn Elissa Goodman | Facebook Elissa Goodman | YouTube Elissa Goodman | TikTok Cancer Hacks: A Holistic Guide to Overcoming your Fears and Healing Cancer See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Do you have a cause you want to pursue?
How do you give back to your community?
Today's guests are two very purpose-driven women behind the Baby2Baby, a nonprofit organization dedicated to providing basic necessities to children living in poverty across the United States. Let's welcome Baby2Baby Co-CEOs Norah Weinstein and Kelly Sawyer Patricof. Since its inception, Baby2Baby has grown into a $80 million organization serving over 1 million children annually by distributing essential items such as diapers, formula, and clothing.  
Norah and Kelly share their personal motivations and backgrounds, with Norah’s commitment rooted in her childhood and reinforced during her pro bono work as a lawyer, and Kelly’s passion stemming from her volunteer work with children during her modeling career. Their mission is driven by the immediate and tangible needs of the communities they serve, highlighting how even basic items like diapers can make a significant difference in the lives of children and their families.
The duo emphasizes on the importance of listening to the communities they serve to understand their specific needs, and how practical items like diapers are crucial for enabling parents to work and children to attend daycare. The power of celebrity endorsements and corporate partnerships has been pivotal in raising awareness and securing resources for Baby2Baby's mission.  
In this interview, you'll learn:
How to raise public awareness for your cause
How to scale a nonprofit organization
How to run a successful fundraising event
How to nurture a culture of giving back
How to instill the giving back culture to children
Norah and Kelly's incredible journey with Baby2Baby shows us the power of compassion and community. Each one of us has the ability to create meaningful change. Take action today.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro 04:09 The Culture of Giving Back 08:19 Pro-Bono Cases 09:55 Giving Back Can Be Fun 14:00 The First Meeting 17:04 Ask the People Who Need Help 19:46 Full Time Commitment 26:09 Real-Time Challenges 27:44 Diaper is a Symbol of Poverty 34:36 Pushing Boundaries 39:05 Giving Back in an Unhelpful Way 44:50 Yes-Days, No-Days 53:50 Ambassadors and Partnerships 57:32 The Power of Celebrity Moms 01:02:29 Maui Wildfires 01:05:09 How Can You Help 01:10:29 How to Create a Culture of Giving 01:16:11 Instill Giving Back in Children Early 01:19:42 There’s a Lot More to Be Done 01:23:07 Norah and Kelly on Final Five  Episode Resources:
Baby2Baby Baby2Baby | YouTube Baby2Baby | Instagram Baby2Baby | Facebook Norah Weinstein | LinkedIn Norah Weinstein | Instagram Kelly Sawyer Patricof | LinkedIn Kelly Sawyer Patricof | Instagram See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Do you often remember your dreams?
 
What was the last dream you can remember?
 
Today, let's welcome Dr. Rahul Jandial. Rahul is a dual-trained brain surgeon and neuroscientist based at City of Hope in Los Angeles. He leads the Jandial Lab, which explores the intersection of neurobiology and cancer. Beyond his research, Dr. Jandial is dedicated to global health, performing pediatric neurosurgery in charity hospitals across South America and Eastern Europe. He is also the author of the book "This Is Why You Dream," which delves into the science and significance of dreaming.
 
Jay and Rahul explore the significance of dreams and their impact on our lives, and that the brain is highly active during sleep, generating as much electricity as when awake. This activity suggests that dreaming is not a passive process but an essential function for the brain, helping it process and rehearse experiences, emotions, and creativity.
 
There are common themes in dreams, such as nightmares, erotic dreams, and motifs like falling or being chased. Rahul highlights that these themes are linked to the brain's imaginative and emotional networks, which are more active during dreaming. Nightmares, for instance, play a crucial role in developing a sense of self and other in children, while in adults, they can indicate unresolved emotional issues or trauma. He also discusses the concept of lucid dreaming, where one becomes aware of dreaming and can exert some control over the dream narrative. 
 
In this interview, you'll learn:
How to enhance dream recall
How to induce lucid dreaming
How to utilize dreams for creative problem solving
How to reduce nightmare in children
How to cultivate positive morning thoughts 
How to improve sleep quality for better dreams
 
Embrace the power of your dreams to boost creativity and emotional well-being. Take the first step tonight for a healthier, more vibrant tomorrow!
 
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
 
What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro 03:05 Does Everyone Dream? 05:01 Why Do We Dream? 09:01 Dreams in a Scientific Perspective 13:30 Making Sense of a Dream 19:05 Sleep Entry 23:20 Erotic Dreams 29:02 Dreams Should Not be Neglected 32:09 Are We Meaning Makers? 37:02 Recurrent Dreams 38:36 Unwanted Recurrent Dream 42:11 Thoughts, Emotions, and Activities in the Brain Level 48:48 How Do You Explain Nightmares? 54:01 Task On 56:52 Sleep Exit 01:01:39 Cross Section of AI and Dreams 01:04:08 Can Dreams Predict the Future? 01:08:02 Mental Workspace in Uncertainty 01:12:58 Flashbacks vs PTSD 01:17:33 Lucid Dreaming 01:23:33 Can You Practice Lucid Dreaming? 01:25:15 The Right Approach to Understanding Dreams 01:47 The Dreaming Brain 01:33:34 When to Take a Nap 01:35:29 The Feeling of Falling While Asleep 01:37:35 Rahul on Final Five  
Episode Resources:
Dr. Rahul Jandial | Instagram Dr. Rahul Jandial | Facebook This Is Why You Dream: What Your Sleeping Brain Reveals About Your Waking Life See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Do you believe in "right person, wrong time"?
Do you have realistic expectations about dating?
Today, Jay will discuss the popular notion of the "right person at the wrong time." He explains that this idea often stems from nostalgia, which can distort our memories by emphasizing the positive aspects of past experiences and minimizing the negatives. This romanticized view of the past can prevent us from addressing present realities and hinder our ability to form healthy relationships.
Jay also talks about the various factors that influence relationships, such as a person's relationship status, goals, and healing journey. He argues that a person's current circumstances, such as being newly single or single for a long time, significantly shape who they are and their readiness for a relationship. Furthermore, in a healthy relationship, partners should respect and support each other's goals rather than expecting complete alignment. He also highlights the importance of patience and mutual support in the ongoing process of healing from past traumas.
In this episode, you'll learn:
How to align goals in a relationship
How to manage expectations
How to build a healthy relationship
How to embrace new possibilities
By letting go of romanticized notions of the past and embracing the present, we open ourselves to genuine connections. Be open, curious, and positive about dating, we can find meaningful and fulfilling relationships.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
01:00 Right Person, Wrong Time
03:37 Nostalgia Overshadows the Negative Experiences
11:15 Relationship Status
13:34 Goals
15:50 Trauma
18:26 Potential
20:24 Standards
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Are you a perfectionist? 
Do you ever spend time alone in silence? 
Today, Jay sits down with Melinda French Gates, co-chair of the Bill and Melinda Gates Foundation and founder of Pivotal Ventures to talk about her journey from studying computer science at Duke University to working at Microsoft, and eventually transitioning into philanthropy.
Melinda highlights the importance of goal setting and quiet reflection, practices instilled in her from a young age; the challenges women and people of color face in achieving equality, emphasizing the need for more inclusive policies and support systems; and the importance of diverse representation in leadership and decision-making roles.
Melinda shared insights into her parenting approach, emphasizing the importance of instilling values of kindness, responsibility, and giving back to society. She also shared her journey of grappling with the decision to publicly support contraceptive access, which conflicted with her Catholic faith. This decision involved deep reflection, discussions with family and friends, and a significant amount of time spent questioning and reconciling her beliefs. 
Later in the conversation, Melinda highlighted several key lessons she learned later in life, such as the realization that the world is not equally accessible to everyone, particularly women and people of color. This understanding fueled her advocacy for creating more inclusive environments and breaking down barriers that prevent these groups from reaching their full potential​. 
In this interview, you'll learn:
How to embrace change positively
How to spend time alone 
How to set and achieve goals
How to overcome imposter syndrome
How to teach children the value of service
How to build a culture of giving
How to foster kindness and gratitude
Take a moment to reflect, give yourself grace, and celebrate your authentic self. Let’s grow together, one imperfect step at a time.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro 02:58 Takeaways From Dealing with Change 04:26 Positive Mindset on Change 06:54 Where Did Your Dream Start? 10:18 Spending Time in Silence 12:11 Cultivate Relationships with Trusted People 14:12 Lessons Learned as a Parent 16:05 Not Everyone is Given the Same Opportunity 18:20 Equality for All in the Community 20:24 The Demand of Contraceptives Worldwide 24:41 The Imposter Syndrome 27:20 The Beauty in the Imperfections 30:01 Spiritual Group of Different Religions 33:36 Wisdom from Different Age Group 34:59 Addiction to Perfection 37:05 Stop Judging Yourself and Others 40:56 Equating Grace to Guilt 42:53 Finding Grace After Divorce 46:48 Be Kind to Yourself While Processing Pain 48:36 You Will Find Happiness Again 51:13 Empowering Women and People of Color 54:12 Breaking Down Biased Excuses 59:29 Kindness, Talent, and Luck 01:00:54 Children of Famous Parents 01:04:24 Creating a Culture of Giving 01:12:45 Melinda on Final Five   Episode Resources:
Melinda French Gates | Instagram Melinda French Gates | Facebook Melinda French Gates | TikTok Melinda French Gates | LinkedIn Melinda French Gates | X Melinda French Gates | YouTube The Moment of Lift: How Empowering Women Changes the World  Bill & Melinda Gates Foundation See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.