On This Walk Luke Iorio

In our pursuit of a healthier and happier society, it is vital that we recognize the often-overlooked struggles faced by men concerning their emotional well-being. Despite living in a world brimming with technology and constant communication, an alarming number of men silently battle feelings of loneliness and disconnection. It's a subject that deserves our attention, empathy, and understanding. 
This week on "On This Walk," my walking partner is Jed Diamond, founder of Men Alive. We discuss men's health and well-being, particularly the issue of male loneliness and the importance of connection.
Jed shares his personal experiences and journey to becoming a hands-on father and promoting healthy fatherhood. We explore the concept of the shadow self, the need for balance between outer success and inner fulfillment, and the historical context of male-female relationships. We also discuss personal responsibility, the role of men's groups in fostering connection, and Jed's work with Men Alive and the Moonshot for Mankind project.

In This Episode

(03:18) Jed’s journey to becoming a hands-on father

(11:18) The dichotomy between success and connection.

(14:14) The historical perspective on male and female roles

(21:33) The tendency to project our own unresolved pain and wounds onto others

(24:05) The need for a new paradigm to understand disconnection, trauma, and healing

(26:05) The importance of personal change and self-reflection in addressing societal issues

(33:28) Recognizing and addressing male loneliness as a fundamental need for connection

(33:28) Reconnecting to aliveness and purpose: Advice for men seeking fulfillment and overcoming loneliness.

(36:28) Men's historical need for connection and the importance of male companionship and support.

(43:13) The concept of a new paradigm shift and its potential impact on creating positive systems for mankind and humanity.

(47:06) Jed's work with Men Alive and the Moonshot for Mankind project


Notable Quote
“Our sons and our daughters are not saying, ‘Dad, I wish you would be more successful and spend more time away and make more money. They want your presence. And so my journey, what I've been teaching and writing about is to help men and the women who love them, the families that are connected, to find the way to be a full, complete whole man, which for me includes being successful in the outer world and making a good living and doing something that we believe in, but also being able to be a hands-on dad and a hands-on husband and a hands-on mate, and a hands-on person that is present to himself and other people.” – Jed (12:07)

Our Guest
Jed Diamond is a prominent expert in gender-specific healing and men's health, with 17 books to his name, including bestsellers The Irritable Male Syndrome and Surviving Male Menopause. He holds a Ph.D. in International Health and has practiced psychotherapy for over 50 years. Together with his wife, Carlin, they have five children, 17 grandchildren, and 2 great-grandchildren. For more information, visit http://www.MenAlive.com.

Resources & Links
On This Walk

https://www.facebook.com/dlukeiorio

https://www.linkedin.com/in/lukeiorio/

https://instagram.com/dlukeiorio

https://instagram.com/onthiswalkshow

https://www.onthiswalk.com/alignment


Jed Diamond

https://menalive.com/

https://www.linkedin.com/in/jed-diamond-a1580b/

https://twitter.com/menalivenow

https://www.facebook.com/MenAliveNow/

https://menalive.com/about/my-moonshot-mission/


Mentioned
12 Rules for Good Men- https://www.amazon.com/Rules-Good-Men-Jed-Diamond-ebook/dp/B07Z1FBG74

Are you tired of drifting through life, yearning for something more? Deep within us all, there's an insatiable craving for purpose and meaning that ignites our souls and drives us to make every moment count. But in today's fast-paced world, it's easy to get lost in the chaos, losing sight of what truly matters.
This week on "On This Walk," my walking partner is Ryan Matthew. We dive into a deep conversation about personal journeys and finding purpose in life. Ryan shares his experiences of seeking external solutions to his problems, only to realize that the root of his issues was internal. Through self-discovery and facing suppressed emotions, Ryan undergoes significant changes, including divorce and loss of financial wealth. 
Ryan shares a profound story about a transformative experience he had, which symbolizes personal and collective transformation. We also discuss the fear some men have of embracing their feminine side and the importance of integrating both masculine and feminine energies. We challenge the notion that exploring emotions and self-discovery is solely feminine and advocate for a holistic approach to personal growth. We invite you to reflect on your own journey and how you may be locking yourself away from experiencing the fullness of life. The journey to self-discovery is a personal one, but it's also a journey we all share as human beings.

In This Episode

(03:30) Ryan’s struggle to find purpose and meaning in life

(05:19) His journey of deconstruction and self-discovery

(08:32) Finding greater purpose and resilience through deconstruction and divine guidance

(12:23) The fears and needs that arise when making a major life change.

(13:12) The story of the man in the cage

(20:55) How Ryan showed love and compassion to the broken man in the story

(22:00) The man's transformation from being wretched.

(28:25) The symbolism of the man's loss of his wife, daughter, and mother

(34:11) The man's de-evolution and carrying the weight of pain 

(43:21) The transformation that occurred in Ryan’s life when pouring love into the man in the cage

(45:37) The fear of losing joy and love

(48:14) The fear of merging in relationships

(49:11) The individuality and collectivism pendulum swing

(50:24) Fear of losing masculinity in personal growth

(52:51) The transformation journey and the reunification of self

(59:16) The universe's bigger signs and ignoring inner whispers 


Notable Quote
“I had just lost all of my financial wealth. I had just lost my marriage. My band had just ended all of these big things, and so there was a lot of turmoil in my life at the moment. But as I was pouring love into this man, I was pouring love into myself. The impact that those losses had on my life started to lessen. And it was like I was able to feel the emotion. And I was also able to feel a ton of joy. I realized that so much of what I was running away from in my life was this joy. This joy that was growing inside of me, and I'm still experiencing it today. The more I sit out in nature, the more this joy just continues to bubble up in me.” – Ryan (43:51)

Our Guest
Ryan Matthew is a tenacious truth seeker, certified professional coach, lightning protection master installer, and a powerful musician/songwriter. He has spent the second half of his life dedicated to unlocking his deeper purpose here, bringing his healing music to the people and becoming a lover of life and all things alive.

Resources & Links
On This Walk

https://www.facebook.com/dlukeiorio

https://www.linkedin.com/in/lukeiorio/

https://instagram.com/dlukeiorio

https://instagram.com/onthiswalkshow


Ryan Matthew

https://www.facebook.com/RyanPolingLLC

https://www.instagram.com/ryan_matthew_official/

https://www.facebook.com/ryan.poling.355/

What does it mean to be a man in a world where divorce rates are soaring? Are we missing a vital piece of the puzzle, a key ingredient that can unlock the secrets to successful relationships? It's time to confront these questions head-on and embark on a journey that steps in between the current, conflicting notions of masculinity. 
This week on "On This Walk," my walking partner is Elliott Katz. We discuss the challenges men face in relationships and explore the importance of leadership, decision-making, and taking responsibility in relationships.
Elliott shares his personal journey of realizing the need for these qualities after his divorce. We also discuss the impact of gender roles, media stereotypes, and the importance of respect in relationships. We emphasize finding a balance between vulnerability and strength, as well as the significance of personal growth and communication.

In This Episode

(02:28) Elliott’s journey of self-discovery

(06:45) Navigating the path towards seeking and finding timeless wisdom for personal growth and leadership development.

(10:30) The shift in gender roles due to industrialization.

(12:23) How negative stereotypes in the media can affect men's behavior and lead to relationship issues.

(13:48) Understanding warning signs for personal introspection and relationship assessment in men's lives.

(21:37) The balance between strength and vulnerability

(24:35) The importance of men taking charge and making decisions in relationships

(27:00) Reflecting on experiences and integrating new ways of showing up.

(30:33) Why do men need to trust their own judgment? 

(33:03) Effective communication in relationships

(37:31) The evolution of masculinity and the future of manhood

(39:07) Elliott’s guide for men to follow on their personal growth journey.


Notable Quotes
“You see a difficult situation, step forward, take charge, and it makes the woman feel so safe and protected. It makes her love you so much. That's what she wants. She wants a man who takes charge and the decision to be made. You're not imposing your decision. You can say, “Well, I think we should do this here. What do you think?” Instead of asking, “What should we do?” Don't say that. Come forward. Don't come empty-handed. Make a decision. And if she has input, that's great, but don't just leave it to her. Don't think you're being too passive. Don't think, well, I'm showing her I believe in gender equality. To me, the main thing is leadership.” – Elliott (18:32)

Our Guest
Elliott Katz is an accomplished author, penning two books, including his remarkable debut titled "Being the Strong Man a Woman Wants: Timeless Wisdom on Being a Man." Not stopping there, he has also graced the airwaves, making appearances on over 200 radio shows and television broadcasts. Utilizing his expertise as a coach and guide, Elliott has established himself as a prominent figure for men seeking personal growth and self-discovery.

Resources & Links
On This Walk

https://www.facebook.com/dlukeiorio

https://www.linkedin.com/in/lukeiorio/

https://instagram.com/dlukeiorio

https://instagram.com/onthiswalkshow


Elliott Katz

https://www.elliottkatz.com/

elliottrkatz@aol.com

https://twitter.com/elliott_katz?lang=en


Mentioned 

How to Get Your Man to Wear the Pants ... So You Don't Have To: Inspiring him to make more decisions, take the lead and STOP LEAVING IT ALL TO YOU!: https://www.amazon.com/Your-Wear-Pants-Dont-Have-ebook/dp/B09SVLHPN6


Being the Strong Man a Woman Wants: Timeless Wisdom on Being a Man: https://www.amazon.com/Being-Strong-Man-Woman-Wants/dp/0973695102

In the realm of human existence, one difficult truth continues to show itself: trauma, a seemingly relentless force, can grip our very souls and leave an indelible imprint on our physical form. It weaves its tendrils through our thoughts, actions, decisions and our relationships. 
This week On This Walk, my walking partner is Jennifer Wallace. We dive deep into the world of trauma and its impact on our bodies and minds. We also explore the concept of post-traumatic growth and the importance of working with the nervous system to release trauma and facilitate healing.
Jennifer shares her personal journey of overcoming a kidnapping and a rare form of breast cancer and how healing her nervous system has been crucial in finding safety, joy, and self-expression. This episode helps listeners break free from the chains of trauma and rediscover their unique path to true freedom.

In This Episode

(00:29) The concept of trauma and how it affects the body and mind, regardless of its intensity.

(06:46) Jennifer's journey: Trauma, breast cancer, and healing

(09:58) The impact of trauma on the nervous system

(20:00) Jennifer’s belief that trauma, emotions, and memories are stored in the water in our bodies.

(23:39) Jennifer's journey of finding healing through neuro-somatic approaches

(29:38) How trauma healing allows for the return of joy and aliveness

(31:30) How men tend to dissociate from their feelings and emotional experiences

(39:05) The impact of repressed emotions and anger as a coping mechanism

(40:22) The importance of expressing anger and rage

[43:45] Creating safe spaces for emotional expression and regulation

[48:20] The transformative potential of anger and how it can be used as a tool for communication and self-awareness.

[51:04] Initial steps to regulate the nervous system

[53:45] The transformative power of somatic and nervous system work

[57:05] The burden of complex trauma


Notable Quotes
“When people begin these journeys, there can often be these thoughts of like, there's something wrong with me. I'm the bad one. Like that's what complex drama teaches us. Like it's me, I'm the one who needs to change, and that's not true. Whoever's listening like that is not true. You are not broken. You are buried under complex trauma. You are buried under stories and emotions that just do not serve you anymore. And I think a lot of times on this journey, it is about the uncloaking of the soul. It is about the you that is you, to come forward and be fully self-expressed, to feel safe in your body to be whatever it is that you wanna experience, but you're just buried and it doesn't have to stay like that.” - Jennifer [57:09]

Our Guest
Jennifer Wallace is an expert in neuro-somatic intelligence coaching for promoting brain-based wellness and is also a knowledgeable psychedelic integration coach with a trauma-informed approach. Through her podcast, Trauma Rewired, she aims to emphasize the idea that by establishing a secure nervous system, it is entirely feasible to achieve healing, and behavioral transformation, and ultimately create the life one desires.

Resources & Links
On This Walk

https://www.facebook.com/dlukeiorio

https://www.linkedin.com/in/lukeiorio/

https://instagram.com/dlukeiorio

https://instagram.com/onthiswalkshow


Jennifer Wallace

https://www.linkedin.com/in/jennifer-wallace-13b42b186

https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/trauma-rewired/id1537602643


Mentioned 
Unbroken: The Trauma Response Is Never Wrong: And Other Things You Need to Know to Take Back Your Life: https://www.amazon.com/Unbroken-Trauma-Response-Never-Things/dp/1683648846

In the hustle and bustle of our modern lives, we often get caught up in the daily grind and forget to prioritize ourselves. It's so easy to lose sight of what truly brings us joy and fulfillment. But picture this: a life where we're no longer held captive by our own unconscious thoughts and behaviors. A life where we can tap into those hidden parts of ourselves that hold the key to happiness, beauty, and a sense of playfulness.
This week On This Walk, I welcome back Tim Corcoran – previously on Episodes 15 & 16 – as we discuss the benefits of parts work and the ecology of self, and how it can help you rediscover your unique path to true freedom. Tim shares his personal experience with parts work and how it has transformed his life, emphasizing the importance of understanding and loving all parts of ourselves, even the destructive ones. The conversation also touches on how to discover your purpose through vulnerability, stillness, and connecting with nature and the importance of judgment as a tool for self-growth.

In This Episode

(06:17) How parts work transformed Tim’s life

(06:28) Three primary benefits of parts work 

(10:05) What is parts work and the ecology of self

(12:55) The invention of the practice of voice dialogue

(16:17) The power of identity formation through the use of "I am" statements

(23:23) Understanding and loving destructive parts

(25:07) Reclaiming vulnerability and its importance in self-love

(32:47) How parts work can help individuals rediscover their aliveness

(35:29) How the lack of polarity in relationships can actually hurt them 

(40:51) How parts work can be used to improve relationships

(47:05) How the parts of ourselves that we show up with can create our reality

(51:03) 2 keys to discovering purpose

(54:31) The importance of stillness and connecting with nature to access the soul and intuition 

(58:47) How judging others can be a tool for self-growth

[01:03:26] Vision quest as a way to encounter the deepest parts of oneself

[01:04:28] The significance of childlike parts in accessing the soul

[01:06:56] How Tim received guidance from a dead Joshua tree


Notable Quotes
“All parts serve and all parts deserve love. Even if they are destructive parts, even if they are parts that have caused great damage and great pain, a part cannot exist without a function. They don't just exist randomly and they all serve the self in some way. It might get really twisted and sometimes it does, and the key is not to kill the part, the key is not to throw it away. That just leads to more pain and suffering. The key is to understand it and ultimately to love it. And it's through that embracing that we can really experience transformation.” - Tim (22:36)

Our Guest
Tim Corcoran is the founder of Purpose Mountain, where he offers Nature Based Purpose Guidance to support people with a love for wild nature who feel a deep yearning to discover their purpose. Tim also serves as co-Director of Twin Eagles Wilderness School, an organization he co-founded with his wife in Sandpoint, Idaho in 2005 dedicated to facilitating deep nature connection mentoring, cultural restoration, and inner tracking.

Resources & Links
On This Walk

https://www.facebook.com/dlukeiorio

https://www.linkedin.com/in/lukeiorio/

https://instagram.com/dlukeiorio

https://instagram.com/onthiswalkshow


Tim Corcoran

https://www.linkedin.com/in/timcorcoran4

https://www.purposemountain.com/

https://www.twineagles.org/

Are you tired of constantly feeling like you're not enough? Do you find yourself yearning for a deeper sense of well-being and connection in your life? If so, then we have great news for you. A transformative practice called effortless mindfulness can help you unlock a world of inner peace and profound connection.
This week On This Walk, my walking partner is Loch Kelly, an award-winning author, licensed psychotherapist, and recognized leader in the field of meditation and awakening. He is the founder of the nonprofit Effortless Mindfulness Institute. The institute is dedicated to teaching direct methods to access awake awareness, living from a flow state, nondual mindfulness, and heart mindfulness. 
We discuss the concept of effortless mindfulness and how it differs from conventional mindfulness. Loch shares his journey toward mindfulness and how his father's passing led him to explore and develop effortless mindfulness. Loch provides a simple five-minute practice to help listeners access this more spacious awareness. The conversation also covers the importance of acknowledging the different parts that makeup who we are and how being aware of these parts can help us make more conscious choices.

In This Episode

(00:53) Introduction to Loch and his approach to mindfulness

(04:15) Loch’s first glimpses that led him toward mindfulness

(10:28) What is effortless mindfulness?

(17:09) The glimpse practices that are part of the effortless mindfulness tradition

(18:14) How effortless mindfulness helps people feel relaxed and calm 

(19:57) The deeper sense of well-being that exists within us and how it can be difficult to connect to it

(24:43) Optimal functioning from a non-worried being

(27:54) How effortless mindfulness leads to deeper well-being and a more fulfilling life

(29:51) How parts work helps you be present to all within you that needs to speak 

(33:56) The importance of acknowledging and holding all parts of ourselves in our awareness

(36:55) Building awareness and recognizing the capacity to hold challenging experiences

(38:11) What is non-dual feeling

(40:17) Benefits and an example of effortless mindfulness in relationships

(47:02) Waking up: accessing awake consciousness and deconstructing the ego

(54:30) Upgrading our operating system 

(56:21) The practice of letting go of the problem solver 


Notable Quotes
“One of the unique premises of effortless mindfulness is that you're remembering to remember that the peace, love, freedom, clarity, and the optimal sense of self is already here within us and it's just uncovering, discovering, or remembering that it's not like other skills or knowledge where we need to use our mind to read a lot of books or develop a skill called meditation that will lead us to a cleaner mind. It's literally just like opening up to find a dimension that's subtler and more spacious, but more pervasive and more interconnected. And when we find that sense of being, then that's the goal of what we're looking for because there's a sense of wellbeing, bliss, and clarity that's already here within us.” - Loch (11:10)

Our Guest
Loch Kelly, M.Div., LCSW, is an award-winning author, psychotherapist, and meditation expert. Founder of Effortless Mindfulness Institute, he collaborates with neuroscientists, teaches nondual pointers, and promotes open-hearted awareness to reduce suffering and support personal development.

Resources & Links
On This Walk

https://www.facebook.com/dlukeiorio

https://www.linkedin.com/in/lukeiorio/

https://instagram.com/dlukeiorio

https://instagram.com/onthiswalkshow


Loch Kelly

https://www.linkedin.com/in/loch-kelly/

https://lochkelly.org/

https://www.facebook.com/LochKelly1/


Mentioned

The Way of Effortless Mindfulness https://www.amazon.com/Way-Effortless-Mindfulness-Revolutionary-Awakened-ebook/dp/B07FDR6M2T 


Zen in the Art of Archery https://www.amazon.com/Zen-Art-Archery-Eugen-Herrigel/dp/0375705090