The Psychology of Depression and Anxiety - Dr. Scott Eilers Scott Eilers

If you've Lost Hope in Life, I invite you to join me for a live conversation and Q&A Thursday, May 16th at 4pm est. Here's the link: https://bit.ly/losthopeinlifelive


I spent years chasing acceptance; it ruined my life.

People rejected me, so I kept lowering my standards. It was the transitive property fallacy - I'm "less than."

This video exposes that toxic thinking, and I layout a better approach to self-worth that might actually work for you.

Get Practical tools for navigating life with depression and anxiety, delivered weekly.
https://mailchi.mp/90ccaf44c876/self-hope-psychology

My book: For When Everything is Burning
https://bit.ly/forwheneverythingisburning

Organize your day around your mental health goals with Sunsama
https://bit.ly/DrScottSunsama (affiliate link)

The app I use to learn core principles from thousands of nonfiction books in minutes
http://shortform.com/drscott (affiliate link)

Mood Bloom games for depression and anxiety:
iOS
https://apps.apple.com/il/app/mood-bloom-therapeutic-game/id6449717065?mt=8
(I have partnered with this brand)
Android
https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=hedonia.bloom.mood&hl=en_US&gl=US&pli=1

Connect with me on TikTok:
https://www.tiktok.com/@dr.scott.eilers

Therapy with me (Iowa residents only)
http://www.northstarpsychcenter.com/

Work with me (Non-Iowa residents)
http://www.drscotteilers.com/What's inside:00:00 Struggling to Fit In02:34 Descending the Social Ladder06:27 The Transitive Property Trap09:47 Rejecting the Downward Spiral

Disclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client.

But I do care.


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Insecurity is a universal human experience, not a personal failing. Most coping methods actually reinforce insecurities rather than resolving them.



Embracing insecurities as identity reinforces negative thoughts. Denying weaknesses leads to reality harshly exposing them. Overcompensating through impression management is exhausting.



I'll show you how to overcome insecurity through incremental self-improvement. Facing insecurities through gradual exposure therapy diminishes their power.



Join me for a live conversation and Q&A Thursday, May 16th at 4pm est. Here's the link: https://bit.ly/losthopeinlifelive

Get Practical tools for navigating life with depression and anxiety, delivered weekly.
https://mailchi.mp/90ccaf44c876/self-hope-psychology

My book: For When Everything is Burning
https://bit.ly/forwheneverythingisburning

Organize your day around your mental health goals with Sunsama
https://bit.ly/DrScottSunsama (affiliate link)

The app I use to learn core principles from thousands of nonfiction books in minutes
http://shortform.com/drscott (affiliate link)

Mood Bloom games for depression and anxiety:
iOS
https://apps.apple.com/il/app/mood-bloom-therapeutic-game/id6449717065?mt=8
(I have partnered with this brand)
Android
https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=hedonia.bloom.mood&hl=en_US&gl=US&pli=1

Connect with me on TikTok:
https://www.tiktok.com/@dr.scott.eilers

Therapy with me (Iowa residents only)
http://www.northstarpsychcenter.com/

Work with me (Non-Iowa residents)
http://www.drscotteilers.com/

Disclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client.

But I do care.


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Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/scott-eilers/support

Past mistake, failures, choices, circumstances may be haunting you right now. Things you desperately wish you could forget - but know you probably never will.

You can't change any of this. But the regrets you feel about things you've done or things that have happened to you can hold you back in an entirely different way.

I'm going to show you how you (inadvertently) turn your guilt into shame and how that effects your life.

Get Practical tools for navigating life with depression and anxiety, delivered weekly.
https://mailchi.mp/90ccaf44c876/self-hope-psychology

My book: For When Everything is Burning
https://bit.ly/forwheneverythingisburning

Organize your day around your mental health goals with Sunsama
https://bit.ly/DrScottSunsama (affiliate link)

Mood Bloom games for depression and anxiety:
iOS:
https://apps.apple.com/il/app/mood-bloom-therapeutic-game/id6449717065?mt=8
(I have partnered with this brand)


Android:
https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=hedonia.bloom.mood&hl=en_US&gl=US&pli=1
The app I use to learn core principles from thousands of nonfiction books in minuteshttp://shortform.com/drscott (affiliate link)

Connect with me on TikTok:
https://www.tiktok.com/@dr.scott.eilers

Therapy with me (Iowa residents only)
http://www.northstarpsychcenter.com/

Work with me (Non-Iowa residents)
http://www.drscotteilers.com/

Disclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client.

But I do care.


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Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/scott-eilers/support

Psychological testing is not a perfect science by any means - it can have many barriers to entry including cost, access, and availability. But self-diagnosis is not the answer!

This episode unpacks the very real concerns with self-diagnosis. Even when struggling to access professional care, firmly holding self-assigned labels carries risks. Proper differential diagnosis matters enormously for effective treatment.

I don't disparage investigating to understand oneself better. But view potential self-diagnoses as hypotheses requiring rigorous vetting.

I'm going to give you some guidelines for doing that.

Get Practical tools for navigating life with depression and anxiety, delivered weekly.
https://mailchi.mp/90ccaf44c876/self-hope-psychology

My book: For When Everything is Burning
https://bit.ly/forwheneverythingisburning

Organize your day around your mental health goals with Sunsama
https://bit.ly/DrScottSunsama (affiliate link)

The app I use to learn core principles from thousands of nonfiction books in minutes
http://shortform.com/drscott (affiliate link)

Mood Bloom games for depression and anxiety (I have partnered with this brand):

iOS

https://apps.apple.com/il/app/mood-bloom-therapeutic-game/id6449717065?mt=8

Android

https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=hedonia.bloom.mood&hl=en_US&gl=US&pli=1
Connect with me on TikTok:
https://www.tiktok.com/@dr.scott.eilers

Therapy with me (Iowa residents only)
http://www.northstarpsychcenter.com/

Work with me (Non-Iowa residents)
http://www.drscotteilers.com/

Disclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client.

But I do care.


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Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/scott-eilers/support

Most think acceptance means settling for misery. That's not true. Acceptance empowers you to change what matters. It acknowledges some pain is unavoidable - but suffering is optional.

Life has inherent discomforts we cannot control - that's "pain." Trying to force away that pain often backfires, causing more issues. That's "suffering." Radical acceptance separates the two categories.

This video teaches evaluating life's pains objectively. Some are changeable with effort. Others aren't worth the cost of change. Radical acceptance means tolerating unchangeables, focusing energy on high-impact areas instead of fruitless struggles. It's life-changing.

Get Practical tools for navigating life with depression and anxiety, delivered weekly.
https://mailchi.mp/90ccaf44c876/self-hope-psychology

My book: For When Everything is Burning
https://bit.ly/forwheneverythingisburning

Organize your day around your mental health goals with Sunsama
https://bit.ly/DrScottSunsama (affiliate link)

The app I use to learn core principles from thousands of nonfiction books in minutes
http://shortform.com/drscott (affiliate link)

Connect with me on TikTok:
https://www.tiktok.com/@dr.scott.eilers

Therapy with me (Iowa residents only)
http://www.northstarpsychcenter.com/

Work with me (Non-Iowa residents)
http://www.drscotteilers.com/

Disclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client.

But I do care.


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Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/scott-eilers/support

Emotions are not light switches. You cannot simply turn them on or off just because you (or somebody) would like to.


Being told (or telling others) to calm down, cheer up, or get over it is dismissive and unhelpful. There is no direct mechanism for selecting your emotions.



The biggest problem is that this type of command is outcome based - become x new emotion now. But without a process for changing your emotions you may do more harm to your current emotional state.



I'm sharing with you that process here.

Get Practical tools for navigating life with depression and anxiety, delivered weekly.
https://mailchi.mp/90ccaf44c876/self-hope-psychology

My book: For When Everything is Burning
https://bit.ly/forwheneverythingisburning

Organize your day around your mental health goals with Sunsama
https://bit.ly/DrScottSunsama (affiliate link)

The app I use to learn core principles from thousands of nonfiction books in minutes
http://shortform.com/drscott (affiliate link)

Connect with me on TikTok:
https://www.tiktok.com/@dr.scott.eilers

Therapy with me (Iowa residents only)
http://www.northstarpsychcenter.com/

Work with me (Non-Iowa residents)
http://www.drscotteilers.com/

Disclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client.

But I do care.


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Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/scott-eilers/support