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May 23 - Buy the Book!



Expectations can really take all the fun out of life. We want something, so we work hard to get it, and when we don’t get what we want, we get discouraged, angry, or upset. It can really get disheartening and make a person want to give up trying. But don’t you fucking think about it! This may be a foreign concept, but the results are not up to you. You don’t have control over the output, only the action. It’s important to consider your motivation when approaching new projects or endeavors. Suppose your intentions are not good, or you only take action for a certain result or reason. In that case, you may be setting yourself up for disappointment. Again, taking action is its own reward. The work is your responsibility and the reward, not the results.

Reflections

Are you taking action for a specific result? What if you don’t achieve it? Will you still do the work?

Daily Challenge

What do you really want to do? What’s in your heart? What is your life’s task? What do you owe yourself and the world to do? Do that.




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May 22 - Buy the book!

When we live as we have, we find ways to act and behave that are not always in tune with others. We become so selfish and self-centered that we neglect or even forget others altogether. This can cause a lot of undesired friction among families and friends. It takes a real effort to free ourselves from this kind of thinking. But it’s not just our thinking that got us here. It was also our actions. So, it would just be fucking silly to assume that only our new thinking would make it better. It takes direct, consistent action to change our thinking. This new life can only be experienced; it is not something you philosophize or think about. It’s something you do, and we must approach our problems from a new direction and act our way into right thinking and not think our way into right acting.

Reflections

How much time do you spend thinking about a problem versus acting on your problem?

Daily Challenge

Take more action today. What can you DO today?




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May 21 - .Buy the book!

There will be a time when your mind calms down. When the buzz stops buzzing, the voices inside your head no longer contemplate suicide or homicide. It will happen quickly - or slowly - but it will happen if you continue to do the things everyone suggests in recovery. There will be days that are full of nothing. The best days of absolute serenity. You will spend hours sitting on your back patio or in your bedroom, reading, playing games with your children, or taking long walks in a park to watch the sunset. You will know peace at some point. Do not confuse the feeling of peace with boredom. This is not complacency. It’s comfort. And at times like this, you must strive to remember how badly you desired these moments.

Reflections

Do you remember what it was like when you hit bottom? They often call it “The dark night of the soul.” Did you ever have one?

Daily Challenge

Think of a place in your home filled with peace and comfort. How can you make that place more comfortable? If you don’t have a place, create one.




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May 20 - Buy the book!



Experience, strength, and hope. This is the format we follow when we share with others. This basic format allows us to talk about where we’ve been and how we got here, the process of working a program (transformation), and finally, the encouragement that the listener can do the same. It’s not easy to pour your heart out to strangers, hoping they will someday acquire what you have found. Yet, we do this week after week, and some of us get discouraged at the precession of the “passing parade” of alcoholics and addicts. But after developing compassion and empathy for the addict or alcoholic, the irony is that there is plenty of opportunity to feel compassion and empathy in the rooms of recovery. It can be downright depressing. But on that rare occasion, someone walks in, sits down, opens their ears, closes their mouth, hears the message of experience, strength, and hope, and then stays a while. And they heal. And they do recover.

Reflections

Have you ever thought about your story of experience, strength, and hope? What is it?

Daily Challenge

Write it out. Put your story down on paper so you can better communicate it to others.




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May 19 - Buy the book!



Man! You know those moments when nothing goes your way? You struggle to make ends meet, skimp, save, and feel like you’re doing all the right things, and when you least expect it or need it, something else breaks? The car breaks down. The washing machine just stops working. The water heater doesn’t heat. You lose a can of soup. Etcera! Last year was one of the worst years I have had in a long time. It seemed, at every turn, it rained and then poured. I would overcome one thing, and another would pop up to take its place. There is a video (see link below) where this “Irish Uncle loses his soup” and throws a cringy-man-fit you must see to believe. At one point, he shouts, “The madness of life!” And in that scream, I can see all of the anger and frustration that I have ever had; how I have felt throughout the years, at any given time, when things just aren’t going my way. Today, instead of throwing a fit, I can only laugh at the absurdity of my childish desire to make a can of soup “APPEAR!” It’s just soup, for fuck's sake.

Reflections

When was the last time you threw an adult fit? How did it feel afterward?

Daily Challenge

Watch: https://youtu.be/Duh-jWfOcvg “Irish Uncle loses his soup.”




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In this episode of SoberPod, Carl reads from his book and discusses the topic of anger and losing control. He shares personal experiences of throwing adult fits and reflects on the consequences of such behavior. Carl also introduces a five-step process from Stoicism to manage anger and respond wisely. He emphasizes the importance of self-monitoring, cognitive distancing, postponement, modeling virtue, and functional analysis. The episode concludes with a call to support Chelsea and a reminder to stay active and sober.


Throwing adult fits and losing control can have negative consequences and damage relationships.


Stoicism offers a five-step process to manage anger: self-monitoring, cognitive distancing, postponement, modeling virtue, and functional analysis.


Practicing these steps can help individuals respond wisely and avoid destructive behavior.


Supporting others in their recovery journey is important and can make a difference.


Staying active and sober is crucial for maintaining sobriety




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