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We’re all imperfect. On this podcast, founder of The Resilience Project Hugh van Cuylenburg, his good friend Ryan Shelton, and only one of their brothers, Josh van Cuylenburg, talks to a variety of interesting people who vulnerably share their own struggles and imperfections, or expertly pass on their wisdom on the subject of imperfection. Whether it’s in The Vulnerabilitea House, The Academy of Imperfection, or with our very own psychologist, Dr Emily, The Imperfects are here to find some valuable takeaways we can all apply to our own imperfect lives.

The Imperfects Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg

    • Health & Fitness
    • 4.8 • 63 Ratings

We’re all imperfect. On this podcast, founder of The Resilience Project Hugh van Cuylenburg, his good friend Ryan Shelton, and only one of their brothers, Josh van Cuylenburg, talks to a variety of interesting people who vulnerably share their own struggles and imperfections, or expertly pass on their wisdom on the subject of imperfection. Whether it’s in The Vulnerabilitea House, The Academy of Imperfection, or with our very own psychologist, Dr Emily, The Imperfects are here to find some valuable takeaways we can all apply to our own imperfect lives.

    An Imperfect Chat About Men

    An Imperfect Chat About Men

    In this bonus episode of The Imperfects, Hugh, Ryan and Josh have an imperfect conversation about mens violence against women.

    To say it's a massive problem in Australia is an understatement. Violence and aggression can take many forms that span from small micro-aggressions all the way through to rape and murder. It effects ALL women, with the most vulnerable and marginalised in our community, at the greatest risk. We don’t have the answers to solve it. But we don’t want to remain silent. Through this conversation and many more we'll have on the podcast, it’s our hope that more men start to have the conversation as well.

    You can follow Penny Moodie’s advocacy on instagram here, https://bit.ly/3JIBf81.

    To listen to our previous episode on consent with Chanel Contos follow this link: https://link.chtbl.com/mhDPOcpH

    Or to purchase Chanel's book, Consent Laid Bare, follow this link: https://bit.ly/49BNDRC

    To listen to our previous conversation about men’s violence with Tarang Chawla follow this link: https://link.chtbl.com/9ps_S1kW

    To learn more about this problem or we recommend Our Watch https://bit.ly/3w0BQhV & White Ribbon https://bit.ly/3W6nMhs

    If you are a man concerned about your behaviour please contact No To Violence: https://bit.ly/3UlyiA5

    If you feel like you are in immediate danger please call 000. If you need someone to talk to we recommend the national 24-hour sexual assault, family and domestic violence counselling line 1800 RESPECT on 1800 732 732.Or, you can call SafeSteps, Victoria's 24/7 family violence crisis service, on 1800 015 188, or visit this link: https://bit.ly/4b1SlsQ. They can provide financial and material aid, pet safety support and court advocacy, as well as support to people with a disability. Or, for further support, contact The Orange Door, who can link you with family violence and parental support services: https://bit.ly/3Q8efTb

    If you need support now, use Ask Izzy: a free website and service that connects people in need with housing, a meal, money help, family violence support & counselling: https://bit.ly/3xAVnG4

    The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.
    See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    • 31 min
    Fern Brady - Autistic in a Non-Autistic World

    Fern Brady - Autistic in a Non-Autistic World

    In this episode, Scottish comedian, Fern Brady joins us in the The Vulnerabilitea House.

    In pulling the card “how would your ambitions change if you only had one year to live?”, Fern shares a very recent story, after receiving a terrifying phone call from her doctor.

    Fern also discusses being diagnosed with Autism in her 30s, 20 years after telling a doctor she thought she was Autistic. 

    Fern talks with with great insight and humour, not only about life since her diagnosis, but what it was like living for 30 years with Autism and not knowing - always feeling different to the average person…yet having no idea why.

    She's an all round brilliant human and we know you are going to love this conversation as much as we did! 

    To watch the full episode on YouTube click here: https://youtu.be/-DLkVQj8N34

    To purchase Fern’s book, 'Strong Female Character', follow this link: https://bit.ly/4aSot20.

    To see Fern’s Comedy special on Netlfix follow this link: https://bit.ly/49AkQNp.

    And you can see Fern’s hilarious promo featuring her dad, here https://bit.ly/3vVRb3a

    There are still tickets available Fern’s antipodean Live tour “I gave you milk to drink”. Tickets still available in Sydney https://bit.ly/49usjgM, & NZ https://bit.ly/3TYM0r9.

    To learn more about the Hidden Disabilities Sunflower Lanyard Fern talks about in this episode, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3Q466iC

    You can purchase the book Aspergirls by Rudy Simone here https://bit.ly/3QmYKXZ, and you can stream Six Feet Under here https://bit.ly/3TTZRiD.

    To try Sam Harris’s meditation app you can follow this link: https://bit.ly/4d7HrUz Or to read his book Lying, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3vGDHIK

    To see Susan Boyle’s Britain’s Got Talent Audition, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3VTeKUY

    The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.
    See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    • 1 hr 26 min
    IMPERFIX: Imposter Syndrome with Hamish Blake

    IMPERFIX: Imposter Syndrome with Hamish Blake

    Imposter syndrome and self doubt aren’t necessarily things you think when you think of Australian comedian Hamish Blake. However when Hamish visited us for a VulnerabilTea House in season 4, that’s exactly what came up.

    In this episode of The IMPERFIX, we revisit  a vulnerable moment where Josh shared his very real self doubt about his role on the show. This evolves into a beautiful conversation about the self doubt we all feel in the work we do, and culminates in Hamish dropping one of the greatest analogies of all time.

    To listen to the full episode with Hamish Blake, follow this link:  https://link.chtbl.com/IppXW33h


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    • 10 min
    Sean Turnell - A Prisoner’s Guide to Life

    Sean Turnell - A Prisoner’s Guide to Life

    Imagine being falsely imprisoned, in a foreign country, where you barely speak the language, during a military coup, with no guarantee of a trial (fair or otherwise) and no idea whether you’ll ever be allowed home? 

    That's what Australian economist Sean Turnell lived through for 650 days, when in 2021 he was arrested during a military coup over-throwing the democratic government of Aang san Suu Kyi.

    Sean is a remarkable person and a brilliant story teller who radiates positivity. In this episode, he describes in horrifying, and yet often beautiful, detail his ordeal in the Myanmar prison system.

    Through Sean’s story we get a unique perspective…and a shining example of how resilient the human spirit can be.

    To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3Jts7nD

    To purchase Sean's book, An Unlikely Prisoner, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3TMyFlJ

    To purchase Kylie Moore Gilberts book, The Uncaged Sky, mentioned in this episode, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3TMbNCV

     
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    • 1 hr 32 min
    IMPERFIX: Jamila Rizvi on Living with a Brain Tumour

    IMPERFIX: Jamila Rizvi on Living with a Brain Tumour

    In 2018, writer, author & change advocate Jamila Rizvi was met with horrible news. She was diagnosed with a rare brain tumour and needed surgery. In this episode of The Imperfix we revisit Jamila’s story; the tumour and its varied complications, the surgeries and how Jamila and her husband communicated the news to their son. 

    Jamila is an all round wonderful human being and this is an incredibly moving episode. You can hear the entire chat with Jamila here: https://link.chtbl.com/bDiv0AY-

    This episode includes a discussion about disordered eating, if you or someone you love is experiencing disordered eating, we recommend the following organisations:


    The Butterfly Foundation https://bit.ly/48YCSZe
    Eating Disorders Families Australia https://bit.ly/3TLU7J5
    Uncovery https://bit.ly/3x4IOCO

    The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.
    See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    • 23 min
    Elizabeth Day - The Me-est Version Of Me

    Elizabeth Day - The Me-est Version Of Me

    We’re not sure if podcasts can date. But if they could we would want to date Elizabeth Day’s podcast - ‘How to fail?’. (A proposition Hugh awkwardly put to Elizabeth in the final moments of the show).

    This conversation covers a lot of ground. Elizabeth vulnerably discusses her journey through infertility, IVF and her eventual decision to stop fertility treatment; we explore the role exercise and strength training can have in reclaiming one's connection to their body; Ryan and Elizabeth bond over a love of reality TV; and there’s much much more. It’s fair to say there was a lot of chat and a lot of love in the room for this one.

    Elizabeth Day is a Journalist, podcaster and author. The podcast ‘How to fail’ is a brilliant (and wildly successful…ironically) pod that shares intimate conversations with guests about their experiences with failure. And we couldn't recommend it any more highly.

    You can find links to Elizabeth’s podcast, her books and everything else she is doing here https://bit.ly/3VCnSNE.

    To watch the full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://youtu.be/b01GMVnoRuk 

    We encourage you to visit your local bookstore to purchase any of the books mentioned in this episode, but you can also find them here.


    Friendaholic - Elizabeth Day https://bit.ly/4a7PzCk.
    Strength to strength - Arthur C Brooks https://bit.ly/3VCaZTD

    And you can listen to our episode of The Imperfects with Pat Cummins here: https://link.chtbl.com/o_uN8l_H

    This episode discusses fertility treatments, miscarriage, grief and acceptance. If these topics feel like too much for you to hear right now, please revisit this episode when you are ready.
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    • 1 hr 38 min

Customer Reviews

4.8 out of 5
63 Ratings

63 Ratings

Southwellibrary ,

Life changing ❤️❤️

This is the most phenomenal podcast and there is so much to take from every episode. I have particularly appreciated the OCD episodes as I have a family member who grapples with this.
And, surprisingly, the episode with Jamila Rizvi which I nearly didn’t listen to because I’ve had cancer and thought it would be so triggering. But what she said reflected so much of what I went through (and so much worse) and it was so liberating.

jehgke ,

Thank you

So great to hear Aussie men showcasing issues that have traditionally been seen as “women’s issues” (i.e. rape culture, menopause). Maybe an episode in 2024 re domestic violence, not women talking, but men talking about what they can do about the epidemic of violence against women.

Ordinary person 1 ,

My favourite part of Monday

I’m a regular listener and Mondays are the best commutes listening to the weeks ep! Such a great mix between funny, informative and story sharing. Amazing to hear the very normal struggles and issues even the people we think are up on a pedestal as having ‘made it’ go through. Great work normalising these issues guys. Love your work and I always try tell everyone about the show

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