Your Day and Your Life Unstuck with Sherry Essig Sherry Essig

In order to not sell yourself short, you have to take a stand for yourself. That’s not always easy. Taking a stand for yourself is an act of courage … and an act of love. To confidently and authentically take a stand for yourself, you have to believe you deserve it. And that takes some serious self-love.

When goals become an all-or-nothing proposition – black and white, success or failure – you’ve set yourself up to never start, quit too soon, and end up feeling worse than if you’d simply started the year without them. Whatever’s on your goal list this year, here are five suggestions to help you stay on track, get back on track if you derail, and navigate your year as smoothly as possible.

Your ability to create the life you want is 100% correlated to your willingness to regularly expand your comfort zone. And you can’t stretch your comfort zone without expanding your capacity for discomfort. Both are an act of courage. We’re all braver than we think!

Years ago I finally got tired of schlepping stress around over the holidays. So now, in addition to my shopping list, I also have a stress-reducing/how-do-I-want-to-show-up list. What’s on your holiday stress-reduction list? If you don’t have one, feel free to use my ten.

I’m certain you’ve achieved challenging goals. Yes, that’s plural. And like most of us, you’ve probably had a second kind of experience - working towards something you want, but never gaining traction and feeling like you’re pushing a boulder up a hill. If you’re in the midst of a going-nowhere goal, here are six questions that can help you get unstuck and moving forward with what you want to create.

Any time you start to start to push out of your comfort zone, fear can flare up. We all run into walls of what if, who am I to, or I can’t take the risk.

We flee to or hunker down in, what feels safe/comfortable, the equivalent of Jasper seeking the safety of a lap. We bounce between I wish I could, I can’t, I should, I will, I won’t, and I’ll try, adding indecision and judgment to the emotional stew.

Adding one final ingredient to the stew, we convince ourselves that the only way to move forward is to vanquish fear. All of which is a perfect recipe for staying stuck.

The next time (or right now!) you’re stuck in fear and indecision, here are six steps to help you get unstuck and moving forward.