Master Your Marriage

Sharla and Robert Snow
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Master Your Marriage

The average couple waits 6 years to get help in their marriage. That's 6 years of pain, hurt, frustration and lost opportunity. This podcast is designed to help you NOT become a part of that statistic. Hosted by Dr. Robert and Sharla Snow — themselves married for 31 years — The Master Your Marriage show is here with straight-talking guidance on how to fill your marriage with fun, friendship and love, without it ever feeling like "hard work." No matter how long you've been struggling with your marriage, or how long it's been since you've felt that "spark," we promise you, there is hope! Your MASTERFUL marriage starts here.

  1. 5 DAYS AGO

    Improving Communication Part 2: Speaking Wisely

    In this episode, we delve into the intricacies of effective communication within marriage, building on previous discussions about emotional regulation and self-confrontation. They address a listener's question about how to communicate concerns without coming across as controlling, emphasizing the importance of collaboration and vulnerability. We introduce an eight-step communication model designed to facilitate honest and constructive dialogue, highlighting the need for calmness, self-reflection, and clear requests. Get ready for practical examples and insights to help couples navigate difficult conversations and strengthen their relationships. Takeaways Effective communication requires emotional regulation and self-reflection.Collaboration is key in any conversation, especially in marriage.Understanding your role in communication can prevent misunderstandings.It's important to separate facts from interpretations in discussions.Self-confrontation helps clarify your thoughts before speaking.Inviting your partner to dialogue is crucial for effective communication.Presenting facts without accusations fosters a safe space for discussion.Revising interpretations can lead to more empathetic conversations.Expressing desires should focus on collaboration, not control.Small, consistent actions can lead to significant relationship improvements. Next Steps: For more practical tools and tips, follow Robert and Sharla on Instagram, and leave a review if this episode resonated with you. 💬 Follow us on IG: https://www.instagram.com/masteryourmarriage/?hl=en

    41 min

  2. 23 JAN

    Improving Communication Part 1: Preparing Yourself for Tough Conversations in Your Marriage

    In this episode, we discuss the importance of effective communication in relationships, particularly during difficult conversations. There is a need for truth and integrity in communication, the significance of understanding differences between partners, and the necessity of self-confrontation to challenge personal narratives. The episode outlines steps to prepare for tough conversations, including calming oneself and recognizing one's own role in conflicts. We also highlight the importance of approaching conversations with a mindset of collaboration rather than control, ultimately aiming for a healthier and more honest relationship dynamic. Takeaways: Hard conversations are crucial for relationship growth.Communication involves more than just words; it includes body language and tone.Truthfulness in communication prevents incongruency and builds trust.Differences in relationships should be respected and valued, not avoided.Self-confrontation is necessary to challenge personal narratives and assumptions.Starting calm is essential for effective communication.Assuming positive intent can help you understand your partner's perspective.Analyzing one incident at a time can clarify misunderstandings.Honest communication fosters vulnerability and strengthens relationships.Self-soothing and self-confronting lay the foundation for productive conversations. Next Steps: For more practical tools and tips, follow Robert and Sharla on Instagram, and leave a review if this episode resonated with you. 💬 Follow us on IG: https://www.instagram.com/masteryourmarriage/?hl=en

    35 min

  3. 9 JAN

    6 Signs You and Your Partner Have Strong Teamwork in Your Marriage

    "Good teammates don't keep score." In this episode, the hosts discuss the significance of teamwork in relationships, sharing insights from their annual retreat and emphasizing the importance of understanding core values. They outline six key signs that indicate a strong sense of teamwork between partners, highlighting the need for open communication, acceptance of flaws, and mutual support. Takeaways: Teamwork is essential for a strong relationship.Annual retreats help couples align their values.Understanding core values deepens connection.Accepting influence from each other fosters teamwork.A positive perspective on your partner enhances teamwork.Letting go of small flaws strengthens the relationship.Noticing mood shifts shows emotional support.Inspiring each other is key to a successful partnership.Avoid keeping score to maintain harmony.Teamwork creates a supportive and connected relationship. Next Steps: For more practical tools and tips, follow Robert and Sharla on Instagram, and leave a review if this episode resonated with you. 💬 Follow us on IG: https://www.instagram.com/masteryourmarriage/?hl=en

    28 min

  4. 4 JAN

    How to Create a Family Vision Statement for 2025

    In this episode, we discuss the challenges of busy family life and the importance of creating a family vision and mission statement. We share our process of defining a family's values, crafting a vision statement, and implementing it into our daily lives. The conversation emphasizes the significance of aligning family goals, fostering a strong sense of self in children, and the evolving nature of family values. We provide practical steps for families to create their own vision statements and live intentionally according to their values. Takeaways Creating a family vision helps align values and goals.A family vision statement serves as a guiding principle.It's important to involve all family members in the vision process.Identifying core values can help shape family identity.Life changes can shift family values and priorities.Regularly revisiting the vision statement keeps it relevant.Creating traditions can help embody the family vision.Decision-making can be guided by the family vision.A vision statement should be visible to all family members.Every family can adapt the vision process to fit their unique dynamics. Next Steps: For more practical tools and tips, follow Robert and Sharla on Instagram, and leave a review if this episode resonated with you. 💬 Follow us on IG: https://www.instagram.com/masteryourmarriage/?hl=en

    35 min

  5. 26/12/2024

    10 Powerful Ways to Improve Your Marriage and Recommit in 2025

    In this episode, we reflect on their journey through marriage, the transitions of life, and the importance of gratitude and personal growth within a relationship. We discuss the purpose of marriage, emphasizing shared experiences and emotional connections, and offer practical advice for recommitting to each other as they approach the new year. Takeaways: Gratitude enhances the joy in marriage.Marriage is about creating a shared meaningful life.Personal growth is a key aspect of marriage.Every relationship goes through different versions.Small moments contribute significantly to a relationship's health.Communication is essential for understanding each other.Forgiveness is crucial for moving forward in a relationship.Expressing appreciation can transform a relationship.Facing challenges together strengthens the bond.Recommitting to each other can revitalize a marriage. Next Steps: For more practical tools and tips, follow Robert and Sharla on Instagram, and leave a review if this episode resonated with you. 💬 Follow us on IG: https://www.instagram.com/masteryourmarriage/?hl=en

    30 min

  6. 19/12/2024

    Repair: The Most Important Relationship Skill You’ve Never Mastered (Part 4): What Happens After a Big Fight

    In this powerful and vulnerable episode, Robert and Sharla demonstrate how to process a regrettable incident—a big fight or emotional injury that still holds an emotional charge. Over the past three episodes, they’ve explored the ideal steps to repair conflict in the moment - which is ideally the goal. But what happens when repair doesn’t happen early or often? How do couples handle the aftermath of a major fight? Using the Gottman Institute’s Regrettable Incident Formula, Robert and Sharla work through a recent unresolved conflict live on the podcast. This unscripted conversation offers a real-life example of how to move past defensiveness, build understanding, and create a stronger connection. What You’ll Learn in This Episode: - The 6-Step Process for processing a regrettable incident: 1. Agreements: Setting ground rules to create safety and openness. 2. Feelings: Sharing emotions experienced during the conflict without defensiveness. 3. Realities: Taking turns describing perspectives and validating each other’s experiences. 4. Triggers: Identifying personal triggers and past experiences that may have intensified the conflict. 5. Responsibility: Acknowledging each partner’s role in what happened. 6. Constructive Plans: Collaborating on practical ways to handle future conflicts more effectively. - Why processing past incidents is about achieving understanding, not rehashing or assigning blame. - The importance of waiting until both partners are calm and emotionally ready to process. - How the cycle of harmony, disharmony, and repair builds trust, compassion, and deeper love in relationships. Key Takeaways: - Processing a regrettable incident requires emotional distance and a willingness to engage constructively. - The goal is mutual understanding, not reliving the argument or trying to “win.” - Taking responsibility and creating actionable solutions is essential for true repair. - The most important relational skills—trust, empathy, and love—are built during repair, not during harmony. Why This Episode Matters: Conflict is inevitable in every relationship. Thriving relationships aren’t defined by an absence of conflict but by the ability to repair and grow stronger after moments of disharmony. This episode offers tools to help couples navigate the aftermath of major fights with vulnerability and intentionality. Resources Mentioned: - The Gottman Institute’s Regrettable Incident Formula - Episodes 1-3 in this series: - The Rhythm of Relationships - How to Speak for Repair - How to Listen for Repair Next Steps: For more practical tools and tips, follow Robert and Sharla on Instagram, and leave a review if this episode resonated with you. 💬 Follow us on IG: https://www.instagram.com/masteryourmarriage/?hl=en

    37 min

  7. 12/12/2024

    Repair: The Most Important Relationship Skill You’ve Never Mastered (Part 3)

    Create Your Strongest Year Yet as a CoupleGet Intentional With Your Relationship in 2025: Download our exact blueprint to aligning your values and planning your year, with our 2025 Yearly Couples Planning & Alignment Workbook—just $19. Get it here: https://bit.ly/2025goalsetting In this episode, we discuss the essential steps in repairing relationships, focusing on the importance of listening, effective communication, and the roles of both the speaker and listener in the repair process. They introduce the feedback wheel as a tool for expressing concerns without blame and emphasize the need for gratitude and acceptance in moving forward. The conversation highlights that repair is a skill that requires practice and can lead to deeper harmony in relationships. Takeaways Repairing a relationship requires more than just talking; it requires listening.Listening effectively is about understanding your partner's perspective.The feedback wheel is a powerful tool for expressing grievances without blame.Starting a conversation harshly can predict its outcome and the longevity of the relationshipRepairing relationships is a skill that improves with practice.It's important to detach from outcomes when expressing needs in a relationship.Navigating past grievances requires intentional effort and communication. 💬 Follow us on IG: https://www.instagram.com/masteryourmarriage/?hl=en

    38 min

  8. 05/12/2024

    Repair: The Most Important Relationship Skill You’ve Never Mastered (Part 2)

    Create Your Strongest Year Yet as a CoupleGet Intentional With Your Relationship in 2025: Download our exact blueprint to aligning your values and planning your year, with our 2025 Yearly Couples Planning & Alignment Workbook—just $19. Get it here: https://bit.ly/2025goalsetting In this episode, the hosts discuss the essential steps for repairing relationships after conflict. They emphasize that conflict is a natural part of relationships and that the repair process is crucial for maintaining emotional connection. The conversation outlines specific steps for effective communication, including the importance of early intervention and the use of the feedback wheel to express feelings and needs without blame. The episode concludes with a preview of the next steps in the repair process, focusing on listening and responding effectively. Watch the part 1 of this series here: https://youtu.be/PFdG5XMaL7I Find the feedback wheel handout here: https://bit.ly/feedbackwheel Takeaways: Conflict is a natural part of relationships.Repair is essential for maintaining connection.Starting the repair process early is crucial.Effective communication involves expressing feelings without blame.The feedback wheel is a practical tool for communication.Listening is as important as speaking in the repair process.Recognizing disconnection early can prevent larger issues.Each partner's subjective experience matters in conflict resolution.Willingness to repair is the first step in the process.Practicing communication techniques can improve relationship dynamics. 💬 Follow us on IG: https://www.instagram.com/masteryourmarriage/?hl=en

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The average couple waits 6 years to get help in their marriage. That's 6 years of pain, hurt, frustration and lost opportunity. This podcast is designed to help you NOT become a part of that statistic. Hosted by Dr. Robert and Sharla Snow — themselves married for 31 years — The Master Your Marriage show is here with straight-talking guidance on how to fill your marriage with fun, friendship and love, without it ever feeling like "hard work." No matter how long you've been struggling with your marriage, or how long it's been since you've felt that "spark," we promise you, there is hope! Your MASTERFUL marriage starts here.

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  • Creator
    Sharla and Robert Snow
  • Years Active
    2023 - 2025
  • Episodes
    104
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    © Copyright 2025 Sharla and Robert Snow
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