Have you ever prepared a really good meal for your kids—something balanced and nourishing—and when you call them to the table, they say, “I’m not hungry”? And then you discover that just before dinner they had potato chips or a bowl of ice cream. Of course they’re not hungry. They filled up on something that tasted good in the moment but didn’t really nourish them. They spoiled their appetite. I think we understand this so clearly when it comes to food. But sometimes we don’t recognize it in our spiritual lives. Jesus said, I am the bread of life. Whoever comes to me will never go hungry (John 6:35). And in John 4:14, he told the woman at the well the water he gives would become a spring of water welling up to eternal life. In other words, he offers real nourishment. Real satisfaction. The kind that actually fills the deepest places in us. And yet how often do we find ourselves spiritually dull, distracted, or just not very hungry for him? It may not be because we don’t love God. It may simply be we’ve been snacking all day on other things. We live in a world of constant input. Television, social media, streaming shows, podcasts, news, endless scrolling. None of those things are automatically evil. But they can quietly crowd out our appetite for what truly feeds our souls. Have you ever noticed when you spend a long evening watching something that isn’t uplifting, it’s harder to turn around and open your Bible? Or when your mind has been saturated with the world’s values and drama, prayer doesn’t come as naturally? It’s not that God has moved away. It’s that we’re full. The Psalmist says, O taste and see that the Lord is good (Psalm 34:8). That verse implies something important—you have to taste. You have to come to the table. You have to make room. I’ve heard from women who realized a daily habit—maybe a show they watched every night, or certain novels they devoured—wasn’t helping their hearts. At first it seemed harmless. But over time they noticed their thoughts drifting, their peace shrinking, their desire for God weakening. One woman told me she began praying Romans 12:1–2 each day, asking God to renew her mind and help her not be conformed to the world. Slowly, the Holy Spirit made her aware what she was feeding on was shaping her thinking. It wasn’t dramatic. It was gradual. And by God’s grace, she made a change. As she removed some of that “junk food,” her appetite for Scripture grew stronger again. That’s how it works. Paul wrote in Romans 6 we will be slaves to something—either to impurity or to righteousness. That may sound strong, but it’s simply true. Whatever we consistently feed becomes what we crave. And cravings grow. Addictions don’t usually begin in dramatic ways. They begin with small, repeated choices. One episode. One book. One click. But over time, what once felt like a small indulgence can start to control our thoughts and steal our hunger for better things. On the other hand, the same principle works beautifully in reverse. When we consistently choose righteousness—when we open God’s Word even when we don’t feel like it, when we pray honestly, when we listen to music or teaching that lifts our hearts—our appetite changes. We begin to crave what nourishes us. Holiness stops feeling restrictive and starts feeling freeing. Jesus described his living water as something that becomes a spring inside of us. That means satisfaction doesn’t just come from outside circumstances—it flows from within. But that spring is clearer and stronger when we’re not constantly dumping pollutants into it. This isn’t about legalism. It’s not about making a list of forbidden things. It’s about asking a gentle question: What is shaping my appetite? If I’m not hungry for God, what might be filling me up instead? Maybe it’s hours of television. Maybe it’s social media comparison. Maybe it’s reading material that stirs up thoughts you know aren’t helpful. Maybe it’s just constant busyness that leaves no quiet space for him. The goal isn’t guilt. The goal is awareness. When you remove even a little of the junk, something beautiful happens. Hunger returns. The Word becomes sweeter. Prayer becomes more natural. Worship feels more genuine. And the wonderful thing is this: God is not standing at the table tapping his foot in frustration. He invites us. He waits for us. He prepares good things for us. It can even be relationships that spoil your appetite for God. The people closest to you shape you more than you realize. They influence how you think, what you value, what you talk about, and even how you spend your time. It’s worth asking: do my closest relationships stir my hunger for God, or do they quietly dull it? I’ve seen the power of good friendships. When my daughter was growing up, I was so grateful she chose friends who were steady and wise. Those friendships mattered more than I can say. And the same is true for us. We never outgrow the influence of the people around us. If you’re single, this becomes even more important in dating. I know how easy it is to think, “There just aren’t any strong Christian men,” or “I can’t seem to find a godly woman.” I understand that feeling. But if you fill your life with people who don’t love the Lord, it’s far more likely they’ll pull you down than that you’ll pull them up. We begin to compromise in small ways. We adjust. We stay quiet. We don’t want to lose them. And before long, we’ve drifted. It doesn’t happen dramatically. It happens gradually. And suddenly, our appetite for God just isn’t what it used to be. Sometimes it’s not relationships. Sometimes it’s ambition. Careers. Recognition. The next rung on the ladder. The dream house. The title. The platform. There’s nothing inherently wrong with working hard or pursuing excellence. I’ve had seasons of career growth that were exciting—travel, responsibility, opportunities. From the outside, it may have looked fulfilling. But I can tell you honestly: every time I thought, “This next step will finally satisfy me,” it didn’t. The satisfaction was brief. Then came the next goal. The next climb. And when our minds are constantly filled with our own plans—our advancement, our dreams, our goals—there’s very little room left to sit quietly at God’s table. Sometimes it’s material things. I love beautiful things. Clothes, homes, jewelry, design—I enjoy them. And Scripture tells us God gives us good things to enjoy. This isn’t about guilt. But I’ve also noticed how easy it is for appreciation to turn into preoccupation. How much thought energy goes into what I wish I had? How quickly contentment slips away when I focus on what I don’t have? And when that dissatisfaction grows, something else shrinks—my gratitude, my peace, even my desire to pray. Materialism is subtle. It doesn’t feel like rebellion. It just slowly crowds out deeper hunger. Sometimes it’s known sin. Not dramatic, headline-making sin necessarily. Sometimes it’s something quieter—compromise in a relationship, pornography, dishonesty, gossip, a sharp tongue, laziness, bitterness, a negative spirit. When we hold onto something we know grieves the Lord, it creates distance. We may still go to church. We may still say the right things. But inside, something feels dull. Sin promises relief or pleasure, but it never delivers what it promises. And it absolutely spoils your appetite for God. And then there’s unforgiveness. Few things close the heart like resentment. When we rehearse what someone did to us, when we refuse to release them, we don’t bind them—we bind ourselves. Bitterness always backfires and makes you very self-focused. It’s hard to hunger for God while holding tightly to a grudge. And remember, forgiveness doesn’t say what happened was okay. It simply says, “I’m trusting God with this. I’m letting them off my hook and putting them on God’s hook.” And when you release it, the monkey is off your back, and you experience new joy and freedom. Here’s the beautiful truth in all of this: God is not trying to deprive us. He isn’t standing over us with a list of restrictions. He simply knows nothing satisfies our souls like he does. We were made to hunger for him. When we fill up on lesser things—even good things in the wrong place—we settle for crumbs when a feast is waiting. If today you realize your appetite has been a little off, don’t despair. Don’t feel condemned. Just start small. Turn something off. Pick up your Bible and read it. Play worship music in the background instead of another show. Pray and ask the Lord to renew your mind. You don’t have to overhaul your entire life overnight. Just get rid of some of the junk food that has cluttered your life far too long and taken up too much space in your heart and in your mind. So often we settle for so much less than what God has for us, and that, of course, is exactly the enemy’s plan: to make us satisfied with junk food which then spoils our appetite for God. You will know God and the abundant life Jesus promised us in direct proportion to your appetite for him. But it won’t just happen. You have to decide you really want to know God and serve him more effectively more than you want anything else. And then you put a plan in place that gets you there—some spiritual disciplines that will make a difference—like daily structured Bible reading and serious, intentional prayer time each day.
