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This week we welcome the wonderful Kendra Allen to our podcast. Kendra is a breakup coach, host of the Heal Your Heartbreak Podcast, author of The Breakup Workbook, and founder of Break Up Bestie. She shares how she saw a huge gap online for practical and healthy heartbreak advice, after going through a series of painful breakups. So, she set out to fill it in.


We talk about:


The first steps to take to get through the beginning of a breakup (and it starts with sharing your true feelings!)
Why it's not good to numb away the breakup
The importance of the No Contact rule in healing
How moving on from a breakup is similar to the experience of getting sober
Kendra's stance on on-again, off-again relationships
Navigating social media when it comes to your ex
Practical things people can do to help to heal from a breakup
Why routines are so important when going through a breakup

You will love this episode! Kendra is such a wealth of knowledge and you will learn so much about how to navigate this difficult time.


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This week on the podcast I chatted with the amazing Sharon Pope about the secrets to keeping a relationship healthy.Sharon Pope is a certified Master Life Coach and Relationship Expert helping women and men get the tools they need to improve, heal, or release their struggling marriages. She is a
 seven-time international best-selling author and has appeared in numerous media outlets and online publications, including the “Modern Love” column of The New York Times.


We talked about:


What led Sharon to become a certified Master Life Coach and Relationship Expert
How we can become the best version of ourselves to attract and sustain the relationship we want
How we can become more self-aware
What Sharon learned during her divorce and how she met her new husband
The one (most important) thing to look for in a partner (if you want a long term, committed, connected, loving relationship)
Essential relationship tips before you say "I Do"
Tragic mistakes that absolutely destroy a relationship and how to prevent them
How to start conversations of evolution in a relationship and what questions to ask your partner






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This conversation covers AMAZING gems, including:

--3 Myths About Men (these are awesome, and have to do with 'the chase', sex, and feelings)

--The differences between men's & women's brains (I about passed out when I learned this - it makes COMPLETE sense)

--The AWESOME four communication archetypes (are you a lioness, puppy, koala bear or scorpion)?

--How to get men to HEAR you (and it doesn't have to do with raising your voice)!

--What are some quick communication tips that women can use in challenging situations with men?   

--How to get men or anyone to help you (it's called the 'appreciation' sandwich)

--The ONE simple daily practice to stay in balance

--How we can tell if our lives are OUT of alignment (and how that affects our dating lives)--Why 'going hard' is BAD for a relationship

--What 'coming from a place of love' can do to blossom your love for EVERYONE in your life. 

Sandy Weiner, Bela's guest, is the founder of Last First Date, is a TEDx speaker, relationship coach, author and podcast host.   

Sandy's communication archetype quiz is here:  https://lastfirstdate.com/4-communication-archetypes/#sthash.HVO24czW.dpbs

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Megan's love story with Nick is wonderful, and you will hear yourself in her story.   She wasn't comfortable around boys growing up, and started dating after college (side note, Bela and Megan were college friends who had lost touch for many years).  Megan knew a few things:  she knew she wanted lasting love, wasn't picking the right people, and that she wasn't getting the results she wanted.   A college friend told Megan about Bela's Smart Dating Academy, and Megan enlisted their professional help because she knew that she wouldn't get different results doing the same things over and over again!  In this episode, Megan tells her story of dating 'life of the party' guys, and how she cast her net wider to find the 'life of the party's best friend who's an accountant' type of guy :)   She put her profile on a unique app that she mentions, and was VERY dubious when she received a “you have a match”message….she saw the guy and he looked good but you’ll hear why she almost didn’t message him back……You will relate to this and it shows why taking risks can sometimes be the best decisions you’ll ever make!

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This episode will blow your mind (no pun intended) - we are talking about using Psilocybin (mushrooms) in a regulated, facilitated environment to remove traumas!  I welcome back the awesome Dr. Michelle Roberts as a guest on SDA. Michelle is a Pulitzer winning journalist, professor, and psychotherapist who specializes in working with women who have complex trauma disorders (or have experienced narcissistic abuse). In her work she helps women discover how past trauma influences their current relationships.   

We talked about:


What "eye movement desensitization and reprocessing" (EMDR) therapy is
How you can know if you might benefit from EMDR
What psychedelic-assisted therapy is and how the outcomes are different from traditional therapy
How psilocybin therapy helps heal from relationship trauma
The safety nets that are in place for psilocybin therapy (you are not just popping acid!)
Real-life stories about women who've gone through psilocybin therapy for their relationship issues and are now in healthy and happy relationships
If everyone can try psilocybin therapy to fix their picker

If you are ready to 'pick" the right person, get on our VIP coaching program waitlist (we do exceptional 1:1 work, as you can hear in the dozens of "Love Story" episodes on this show)! 


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Smart Dating Academy client love stories are YOUR favorites (and ours too) - these stories are from people just like you who started our process with a healthy dose of excitement and nervousness!   I am so excited to have Ruth tell you one of the most unique, awesome, and unexpected love stories in this week's podcast. Ruth is an amazing high level executive client who is full of life. After her beloved husband passed away years ago, Ruth felt like the rug was pulled from under her and she felt lost after this unexpected loss. Once she found her footing again, she decided to date casually, because finding a new partner wasn’t a priority.  

Through her dating process, she realized that she now wanted someone wonderful and available.  Understanding that her priorities had changed, she contacted Bela, after a friend told her about Smart Dating Academy. Ruth attended one of Bela’s workshops for C200 Professional Women, and after some back and forth decided to work with SDA to find love again. Ruth came to Chicago for her photoshoot and worked with Ilene on perfecting her profile and what characteristics Ruth is looking for in a partner by looking at the elevator people in her life.

After launching on the apps, Ruth looked through the responses and talked to a few people. But one stood out. His name is Tony and the caveat was that he was traveling back to his home country of Nigeria, which threw a curveball at Ruth. Nevertheless, Tony and Ruth talked on the phone and on FaceTime every day for over 4 months, before they met for the first time in person. Tony kept splitting his time between the US and Nigeria and they kept their relationship going. Ruth loves Tony’s integrity and knows that she has found the lid to her pot. Ruth and Tony have lots of plans for the future.
Ruth's story is an inspiration that no matter where you are on your journey or in your career and no matter your age, love can come to you in an unexpected package with the right guidance and love coaches!


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