Comfort & Growth with Crystal Lim-Lange Crystal Lim-Lange

Have you ever wondered how some people seem to bounce back from hard knocks or cope with so many challenges without letting it get them down? In this mini-workshop episode, Crystal shares some science-based strategies, tips and practices to optimise your grit and inner strength.  Using her 5 Gardens of Resilience methodology, which she has taught to tens of thousands of people, we will go on a journey to discover how we can grow a bumper crop of resilience resources so that when life hands us hard things, we feel prepared to face them with confidence.


Highlights
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00:00 Intro
02:07 Resilience definition
05:00 5 Aspects of Resilience model
05:00 Mental resilience
10:30 Emotional Resilience
14:25 Emotional expression + how to deal with emotional flooding
17:42  Physical resilience
23:00 Spiritual resilience
26:00 Wonder and awe
27:50 Social Resilience
33:30 Switching gardens


Useful links
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Negative thinking styles article
 https://www.psychologytools.com/articles/unhelpful-thinking-styles-cognitive-distortions-in-cbt/
Self-love and self-compassion
 https://open.spotify.com/episode/44QKP5kfI0or1kex6rrZ1W?si=8dd529aacfe546fe
 (Book) Awe - Dacher Keltner
https://www.amazon.sg/Awe-Science-Everyday-Wonder-Transform/dp/1984879685

This week, we delve into the extraordinary journey of Jianhao Tan, Singapore’s OG YouTuber superstar and founder of Titan Digital Media. Despite his introverted nature, Jianhao has amassed a staggering 7 million devoted fans, captivating audiences with his unique blend of humor and relatability.
Jianhao reflects on his remarkable rise to prominence, shares his origin story about growing up in Cambodia and Vietnam, and then returning home to Singapore and discovering a passion for making videos. With candor and insight, Jianhao shares the challenges he encountered along the way, from overcoming self-doubt to navigating the complexities of fame in the digital age.
Beyond his professional endeavors, Jianhao provides a heartfelt glimpse into his personal life as a devoted family man sharing poignant anecdotes about balancing his career aspirations with the joys and responsibilities of fatherhood. 
Join us as we embark on an inspiring journey with Jianhao!
Highlights
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02:56 Jianhao’s origin story - growing up in Cambodia and Vietnam
07:20 150 million views per month
0830 Starting a business at 21 from the piano room
1100 Adversity bonds people
1200 Balancing advertising and being a creative
1300 How to price yourself as a creator
1455 Mentoring other influencers
1700 Becoming a parent
1735 Buncha and meeting his wife 
1900 Navigating boundaries between public and private life
2226 On Oversharing
2400 Managing different types of people
2615 Titan Academy hits 100 episodes and the importance of celebrating
2812 Milestones that matter and balancing act
2934 Working with a PA
3100 Being a stoic and stoicism
3230 The self-awareness deficit


Find Jianhao at:
Youtube
⁠https://www.youtube.com/@jianhao⁠
Instagram
⁠instagram.com/thejianhaotan⁠
TikTok
⁠tiktok.com/@thejianhaotan⁠
Facebook Page
⁠facebook.com/thejianhaotan⁠
Twitter
⁠twitter.com/thejianhaotan⁠
Twitch
⁠twitch.com/thejianhaotan⁠


And check out ⁠https://thestarry.co/⁠ Debbie’s jewellery line  of high quality diamond simulate pieces for everyday wear!

This week we are going to take a practical and insightful deep dive into difficult conversations and storytelling at work with regional communications expert Shruti Bose, Head of Communications and Public Affairs Asia Pacific for Roche Diagnostics.
Shruti shares real life stories of influencing stakeholders using empathy and storytelling as a secret weapon, not taking conflict personally, and her tips for having difficult conversations at work.
I also loved her groundedness and attitude of gratitude, and hope you are inspired by her story too!
Shownotes
On the National Women’s Checkup Week with Singapore Cancer Society
https://www.linkedin.com/posts/rochediagnosticsasiapacific_sgcheckup-xproject-everywoman-activity-7064820493081608192-OM52?utm_source=share&utm_medium=member_desktop
Get screened - link to Singapore Cancer Society
https://www.singaporecancersociety.org.sg/get-screened/breast-cancer/mammogram.html


Highlights
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01:00  How we met in the Biopharma industry
03:20 Shruti’s childhood and how it shaped her
03:52 The Fs of Life challenges - Fairness, Failure, Fear
06:00 On losing her voice
08:43 How she came to work for the Biopharma sector
13:20  Intellectual vs social friction and not personalising
15:30 - reading too much into a situation
18:00 - On asking for support
18:55 - Her difficult conversation at work with her stakeholders
20:00 - Don’t be married to an idea
21:58 - What you can and can’t control
22:54 - On our unconscious bias
23:58 - Gratitude Quotient GQ 
25:00 - The worst time to be grateful is after you lost it
26:25 - Happiness, freedom and courage
27:43 - Launch of National Women’s Checkup Week
30:30 - Not every conflict needs to be resolved
31:00 - Storytelling model - CAP - Connection, Appeal, Proof
33:00 - The power of storytelling at work - examples in real life, Jack Ma, Indra Nooyi
35:00 - Creating demand for what we need
36:40 - Word of the year!

Want to be a luckier, calmer, more productive person in 2024? You’ve come to the right place! Join Crystal and Dr. Greg as they share their best little mindset hacks and rituals for success and positivity!
 In this episode, we’ll talk about developing a lucky identity, arigato in and out (or the joy of spending money), “off gassing walks”, magic sleep music and much much more!
Enjoy this fun episode and let us know what you think!
Resources:
The “Arigato In Arigato Out” book we mentioned on money is
Happy Money: The Japanese Art of Making Peace with Your Money Kindle Edition
by Ken Honda

The amazing deep sleep music is
https://open.spotify.com/episode/0vJYui0LnaQQEK8PamfKrp?si=93c3a1fa13c14161

We are super privileged to have with us Elaine Yew, one of the world’s most respected leadership advisors, making a rare appearance on social media! Although Elaine prefers to shun the spotlight, she is very well known to industry insiders as the go to person for advice on senior leadership, succession planning, board advisory and any sort of problem that keeps powerful organisations and leaders up at night.
 In this episode, we cover practical advice for anyone who wants to develop more gravitas, confidence and impact at work, and also delve into deeper topics such as developing your own leadership identity and how to navigate a bicultural Asian and Western context, especially for Asian women! Hope you find this episode as engaging and practical as I did :)
00:00  Introduction
1:40  Elaine’s career
4:49 On having a unrelated career to what you studied and unfair advantages
5:55 Passion and originality
6:13 Egon Zehnder’s research on what the 4 factors of potential in people - Curiosity, Insight, Engagement, Determination
9:00 Navigating male dominated workplaces
13:12 Leadership styles - embracing the range and the “AND”
14:50 Jo Chew’s Masters thesis on how Asian women in Singapore and Malaysia make it to the top of their careers in a bi-cultural context
16:00 Tea Pouring Boss B*tch story
21:33 On the quality of energy in leadership
24:00 Developing your own identity at work - defining who you are, not who you are not
25:15 Being realistic about whether you can bridge the gap or not
25:35 On dealing with people dehumanising or objectifying you the workplace
27:00 Consciously conveying to other who you are about and sharing about yourself
29:25 How to develop gravitas 
30:55 The importance of arriving and connecting in the boardroom
32:05 On not rushing yourself - Crystal’s childhood story
35:49 Setting the tone of a meeting
37:00 The ability to adjust to different time parameters, prioritise and synthesise important points

 Resources:
 Jo Chew’s thesis on female Asian leadership 
https://flora.insead.edu/fichiersti_wp/InseadEMCtheseswave34/98788.pdf
Call number link on the Insead catalogue:
https://librarycatalogue.insead.edu/cgi-bin/koha/opac-detail.pl?biblionumber=98788

Settle in for the ride of your lifetime with our signature power visualisation exercise and be treated to the tools and inner technology that I use with my coaching clients.
If you haven't done the prep work in Ep 23 - please listen to that first!
After this episode, journal, write and draw the most important and meaningful images, words and phrases that came to mind and share them with me on IG!
Wishing you so much love and light!
Thanks for being with me on this journey and I hope you slay all your 2024 goals with self-love, grit and resilience!


Much love,
Crystal