You Love & You Learn Podcast

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You Love & You Learn Podcast

Welcome to the You Love and You Learn podcast, the place to learn about all things love, relationships, relationship anxiety, and deconstructing the one-size-fits-all narrative of what it means to be in a happy relationship. Join Sarah Yudkin, trauma-informed Relationship Anxiety coach, as she shares the nuance and context that most modern relationship advice is missing. Whether it’s a solo episode or Sarah sitting down to interview guests with their own unique relationship wisdom, you’ll leave every episode with an expanded definition of love and relationships to reflect on. Cheers to learning about love!

  1. 1 DAY AGO

    #99 - Lessons from Being in Limbo w/ Ela Topcuoglu

    In this episode I am back with past guest, Ela Topcuoglu, who is a Life Transition Coach that helps us intentionally move through life’s big milestone moments (that can often be challenging for someone with anxiety). Things like moving in together, getting engaged, a breakup, changing jobs, or looking ahead to marriage.  One stage of transitions in particular, the limbo stage (in between the old life and the new) can be particularly uncomfortable and confusing, so Ela is back to explore: A quick refresher on the three phases of transition and why limbo is so pivotal What the limbo stage is and why it can feel harder than expected Common mistakes people make when navigating identity shifts during transitions How to intentionally approach the uncertainty of the limbo phase The hidden blessings of this stage that often go unnoticed If you’ve ever felt stuck between where you were and where you’re going, this episode is for you! For more of Ela’s work: Check our her Limbo worksheet here Check out her website here  Check out her Instagram here Additional resources: Get the Relationship Anxiety Toolkit here! (instant + lifetime access) Join the You Love and You Learn Patreon community  Visit my website Connect with me on Instagram

    42 min

  2. 19 NOV

    #98 - Uncovering Inner Peace w/ Lily Sais of @peacefromwithin

    In this episode, I sit down with Lily Sais, a former school psychologist turned registered Three Principles practitioner, whose journey has taken her from anxiety to a place of peace. Lily is passionate about helping others uncover the peace that already lies within them, beneath anxious thoughts (the peace that already lies within…LOVE!)   We cover: Why it’s important to stop focusing on what’s wrong with you Why seeking more information is not always useful How we can release the need to think and do more  An analogy of anxious thoughts like a snow globe  Lily’s powerful definition of love …and more!   For more of Lily’s work: https://www.peace-from-within.com/pfwcommunity https://www.instagram.com/_peacefromwithin/   Additional resources: Get the Relationship Anxiety Toolkit here! (instant + lifetime access) Join the You Love and You Learn Patreon community  Visit my website Connect with me on Instagram

    50 min

  3. 12 NOV

    #97 - My Recurring Relationship Anxiety ‘Theme’

    Over the years, there is a recurring ‘theme’ that brings up discomfort for me within my relationship, and that is when things feel boring or mundane. It used to really freak me out, and I would jump to thinking I had to go find a more exciting partner or relationship.   I still have these moments of judging the boredom, but when I pause to reflect further, I see things a little differently now: as a chance to pour into my life more intentionally, vs. placing the relationship or Nate on a pedestal.   In this episode, I explore how I am setting intentions this winter to intentionally show up for myself and nurture 3 key areas: My inner life My values My personal interests   These are 3 key areas that Robert Johnson shares in his book (We: Understanding the Psychology of Romantic Love) to take the projection off our partner to complete us and make us whole. Excited to share this with you so you can take the time to reflect on these key areas, too!   Additional resources: Get the Relationship Anxiety Toolkit here! (instant + lifetime access) Join the You Love and You Learn Patreon community  Visit my website Connect with me on Instagram

    25 min

  4. 5 NOV

    #96 - Signs of an Abusive Relationship w/ Dr. Molly Burrets

    This is a long overdue episode to explore signs of what an abusive relationship is and isn’t. I often give the disclaimer “my work does not apply to abusive relationships” and wanted to have a licensed therapist explain the types of abuse so people are aware.   And who better than Dr. Molly Burrets, a licensed clinical psychologist based in Los Angeles with 15 years of experience practicing psychotherapy, conducting research, and teaching at the undergraduate and graduate levels.    In the episode, we mentioned resources for people experiencing abuse in an intimate relationship:   peaceoverviolence.org   Rape, Abuse, Incest National Network (RAINN) – 800.656.HOPE (4673)   National Domestic Violence Hotline – 800.799.SAFE (7233), 800.787.3224 TDD   Books:   The Verbally Abusive Relationship: How to Recognize It and How to Respond by Patricia Evans   The Dance of Anger: A Woman’s Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships by Harriet Lerner   The Emotionally Abused Woman: Overcoming Destructive Patterns and Reclaiming Yourself by Beverly Engel   The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk   For more of Molly’s work, check out: www.drmollyburrets.com www.instagram.com/drmollyburrets

    47 min

  5. 29 OCT

    #95 - "When You Know, You Know"

    In this episode, I unpack the phrase “when you know you know” and how I used to take this phrase very literally, which caused a lot of anxiety and pressure on me. I deconstruct what it actually means to ‘know’ something or have ‘knowledge’, as well as the characteristics of someone who is more likely to ‘know’ something within their relationship or life.  If you’ve ever heard someone say they “just knew” their partner was the one and felt crappy about it (“what do they know, and how do they know it?!”) – this episode is for you! Additional resources: Get the Relationship Anxiety Toolkit here! (instant + lifetime access) Join the You Love and You Learn Patreon community  Visit my website Connect with me on Instagram

    48 min

  6. 22 OCT

    #94 - Why You’re Unhappy, and What Can Make You Happier w/ Stephanie Harrison

    Does it feel like you’re doing all the ‘right’ things but you’re still not happy? Does it feel like everyone around you seems to be happier than you, and you feel so guilty about it?   What if this wasn’t a flaw or something you’re doing wrong – and we have been getting happiness wrong all along? In this episode, I sat down with Stephanie Harrison of @newhappyco to explore what happiness is and isn’t, and how we can take small steps to become more happy and fulfilled in our lives.   For more of Stephanie and New Happy, check out: www.thenewhappy.com   –  Additional resources: Get the Relationship Anxiety Toolkit here! (instant + lifetime access) Join the You Love and You Learn Patreon community  Visit my website Connect with me on Instagram

    49 min

  7. 15 OCT

    #93 - Why Lowering the Bar May Actually Be a (Really) Good Thing w/ MJ Mayes

    In this episode, MJ and I discuss why lowering the bar in your life and relationship might actually be a good thing. No, this isn’t about settling or letting go of standards. It’s about moving forward without beating yourself up for every imperfection along the way, and taking small intentional actions instead of waiting for everything to perfectly line up before you can move forward.    This is the permission slip I’ve needed for so many years, and I know it will feel like a breath of fresh air!   For more of MJ’s work:   The Perfectionist's Guide to Taking Action on Creative Ideas audio class Sign up for the Internet People newsletter here Check out her Instgaram  –  Additional resources: Get the Relationship Anxiety Toolkit here! (instant + lifetime access) Join the You Love and You Learn Patreon community  Visit my website Connect with me on Instagram

    44 min

  8. 8 OCT

    #92 - A New Mindset Towards Anxiety

    In this episode, I explore the common struggle of wanting anxiety to disappear and how this often makes the anxiety feel even stronger. Many people ask, “Why is my anxiety still here even after I’ve tried all the tools?” – let's discuss a helpful shift in mindset that can transform your relationship with it. I cover: The nature of anxiety and why resisting it can make it feel stronger How to reframe your motivation behind coping tools and strategies  Why viewing anxiety as a "roommate" rather than a "guest” can lead to a more peaceful coexistence …and more! –  Additional resources: Get the Relationship Anxiety Toolkit here! (instant + lifetime access) Join the You Love and You Learn Patreon community  Visit my website Connect with me on Instagram

    17 min
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Welcome to the You Love and You Learn podcast, the place to learn about all things love, relationships, relationship anxiety, and deconstructing the one-size-fits-all narrative of what it means to be in a happy relationship. Join Sarah Yudkin, trauma-informed Relationship Anxiety coach, as she shares the nuance and context that most modern relationship advice is missing. Whether it’s a solo episode or Sarah sitting down to interview guests with their own unique relationship wisdom, you’ll leave every episode with an expanded definition of love and relationships to reflect on. Cheers to learning about love!

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