Ending the Year Strong: Self-Care Systems for Community Builders with Emily & Bernie
Episode Summary: The holidays: a time for joy, stress, and the kind of existential overhead that keeps coworking community builders awake at night. In this no-nonsense holiday episode of the Coworking Values Podcast, co-hosts Emily and Bernie strip away the fluff to talk about what matters—finding your footing when the season feels overwhelming. Whether ditching toxic perfectionism, staying sane with lightweight rituals, or using coworking spaces as quiet sanctuaries, Bernie and Emily offer sharp insights and real talk to help you reset, recharge, and show up strong in the new year. This isn’t just a holiday survival guide—it’s a blueprint for thriving as a coworking community builder, no matter the season. Timeline Highlights: * [0:00] – A swashbuckling intro with Bernie and Emily. * [0:39] – Holiday stress: why we dread it and how to shift your mindset. * [2:04] – Meditation, walking, and grounding rituals that actually work. * [3:25] – Why toxic perfectionism ruins self-care—and how to break the cycle. * [4:01] – “Staying speed”: Emily’s guide to avoiding holiday burnout. * [6:02] – The loneliness paradox for coworking community managers. * [8:39] – Lightweight rituals to keep you grounded without piling on stress. * [11:20] – Brain dumps, morning pages, and the magic of clearing mental clutter. * [12:17] – Why coworking spaces shine during the quiet holiday season. * [14:00] – Letting workflows ebb and flow without panicking about momentum. * [18:34] – Existential overhead and how to escape its grip. * [22:34] – The 2-minute rule: stop overthinking small tasks and get them done. * [27:30] – Emily’s final thoughts on why real relaxation matters. Detailed Episode Breakdown: Surviving the Holiday HustleEmily calls out the stress cocktail of the holiday season: equal parts dread, guilt, and too many unspoken expectations. Her antidote? A mix of sunlight, mindfulness, and movement—because sometimes a walk in the cold is all it takes to clear the mental fog. Toxic Perfectionism: Why It’s Killing Your VibeBernie and Emily dive into the perfectionism trap—how it masquerades as self-care but drains you. Emily doesn’t pull punches: “All perfectionism is toxic; let’s be real.” The antidote? Acceptance, small wins, and learning to stop fighting battles you’ve already won. How to Stop Your Brain from Running Its TabEmily takes on existential overhead—the mental junk drawer where you store half-finished thoughts, to-dos, and that email you keep forgetting to send. Bernie’s solution? Please write it down, sort it out, and stop letting your brain play personal assistant. Bonus: learn why sticky notes and digital tools can make or break your sanity. The Loneliness Paradox of Community ManagersHave you ever felt weirdly lost during the holidays? Bernie shares his experience of going from helping everyone in the coworking space to suddenly being alone. Emily reframes this “essential wound” as a chance to sit with yourself, accept your imperfections, and recharge for the new year. Lightweight Rituals for Heavy SeasonsForget overhauling your life during the holidays. Emily’s take: pick three small things—drink water, take a walk, clear your inbox—and let those wins stack up. Bernie shares his plan to ease back into running after months off, focusing on steady progress instead of chasing past glory. Why Quiet Coworking Spaces Are a Hidden GemEmily reminds listeners that coworking spaces are perfect for quiet reflection and side projects during the holidays. Whether travelling or staying put, grab a coworking day pass and enjoy the calm while everyone else is in holiday chaos. Using Reflection to Jumpstart JanuaryBernie shares how the 12-week Year framework helps him reflect on past goals and plan for the future during the holiday slowdown. Emily adds her tip: use the downtime to clear existential clutter, set task reminders, and schedule your jumpstart day for January. Links & Resources: * Coworking Values Podcast on LinkedIn * Join The Coworking Community Builder Cohort Waitlist * Register for European Coworking Day, May 2025 * Get Your Pass for the Workspace Design Show London 2025 * Join the 8k Members in the LinkedIn Coworking Group * Connect with Bernie on LinkedIn * Connect with Emily on LinkedIn One more thing Coworking brings communities together, helping people find and share their voices.Each episode of the Coworking Values Podcast explores the core values driving coworking: Accessibility, Community, Openness, Collaboration, and Sustainability. These values aren’t just ideas—they shape the spaces where we gather, work, and grow. We hope this resonates with you.If it does, please rate, follow, and share the podcast.Your support amplifies our reach, helping others discover how coworking can enrich lives, build careers, and strengthen communities. Community is the key 🔑 Get full access to 🎙️Coworking Values Podcast at coworkingvaluespodcast.substack.com/subscribe