103. Forgiving What You Can't Forget (with Lysa TerKeurst)

Forgiveness is certainly not the easiest topic to cover for anyone, but what if the ultimate betrayal was laid at your feet. How would you react then? For Lysa TerKeurst it led to authoring a book all about using forgiveness to heal and grow after a terrible experience. 

Lysa found out several years ago that her husband was being unfaithful. Not just once or twice, but had been repeatedly unfaithful along with having a substance abuse problem. When she found out she was devastated. 

The pain was so terrible it would literally stop her in her tracks no matter where she was. She was having panic attacks and anxiety flare ups and she was just lost to the pain. So she made an appointment to see her counselor and from there she truly began to heal.

You see she had a very “little girl” view of how forgiveness works and it hadn’t grown up with her. Not that she thinks that simply forgiving her husband of his faults would have saved them any of the pain that they went through, but if her sense of forgiveness had matured, she may have saved herself from some of that pain. 

Listen as she shares her story and how it influenced her need to write her latest book, Forgiving What You Can’t Forget. She’s truly baring it all and sharing how we can use these tactics throughout the holiday season as well. Forgiveness is one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself. So stop holding yourself back from giving it.

In This Episode: 

[01:30] Welcome Lysa TerKeurst to the show and hear more about her and her family.

[03:43] Why she chose to write her most recent book.

[07:18] What caused her extreme sadness and anger and inability to forgive. 

[09:24] Learn what her therapist did to help her reach a point that she could forgive. 

[13:01] Why forgiveness is a gift that you can receive for yourself.

[14:56] What happens when you stuff pain down and refuse to acknowledge it. 

[17:22] Lysa’s first memories of forgiveness. 

[20:00] What did she do after acknowledging her pain? 

[26:13] Lysa’s advice for the woman who is living in their pain. 

[29:29] It doesn’t make you an unforgiving person to draw boundaries. 

[30:43] Where she is now after writing this book. 

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Forgiving What You Can’t Forget by Lysa TerKeurst

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