The Recalibration

Julie Holly
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Recalibration for high-capacity humans who’ve outgrown the version of themselves they created to succeed. You’ve built a life you once wanted… So why does it feel like it no longer fits? ✔️ You’re the one people count on.✔️ You’ve done the work — the therapy, the mindset shifts, the leadership courses.✔️ You’ve optimized your habits and checked all the boxes. From the outside, it looks like you’ve arrived.But on the inside, something’s misaligned.You can feel it — a quiet tension between who you’ve been and who you’re becoming. This show exists to name that tension — and navigate what comes next. Hosted by Julie Holly — speaker, guide, and creator of Identity-Level Recalibration— The Recalibration is more than a podcast. It’s a daily 5–10 minute space to pause, return to yourself, and realign your internal world before you lead your external one. Each episode blends faith, psychology, philosophy, neuroscience, and lived experience — guiding high-capacity humans back into identity alignment. You’ll recalibrate from the inside out, so you can move forward with:✔️ Clarity that comes from knowing who you are now✔️ Courage to let go of what no longer fits✔️ Momentum to become who you’re meant to be next This podcast is not: – Coaching – Therapy – Another self-help fix It’s not about doing more.It’s about becoming more you. Whether you're: – An executive or entrepreneur who’s lost the spark – A visionary founder or creative craving deeper congruence – The steady go-to person finally tending inward – A high-functioning parent or midlife leader in transition – Or someone who’s carried quiet courage for years, ready to rise… You’ve done the work. You’ve kept showing up.Now it’s time to get current with who you truly are. With over 600 podcast episodes behind her and decades of experience in education, entrepreneurship, and identity work, Julie Holly brings a rare blend of story, strategy, and soul. In a world full of noise, The Recalibration offers the signal. Tune in daily for:– Thought-provoking questions– Micro identity shifts– A safe place to realign before you re-engage Subscribe now and recalibrate your way forward.

  1. 6 GIỜ TRƯỚC

    #122 Why Money Never Feels Like Enough & What It’s Really Showing You

    You’ve saved, built, and achieved — yet money still doesn’t feel safe. In this episode, discover why provision mirrors your identity story, not your balance sheet, and how recalibration shifts the ache of “never enough." Money isn’t just math — it’s a mirror. And for high-capacity humans, that mirror often reflects a story of striving and scarcity that no amount of success seems to erase. In this episode of The Recalibration, Julie Holly unpacks why money never feels like enough — even when the numbers say you’re secure. Through personal reflection, nervous system insight, and the story of Daymond John (FUBU founder and Shark Tank investor), you’ll discover how early imprints, cultural scripts, and identity negotiations quietly shape the way you relate to provision. You’ll learn: The difference between scarcity, abundance, and the provisional mindset most leaders actually live inHow the striving zone disguises fear as productivity and keeps you from peaceWhy visualization and mindset tools can’t resolve identity misalignment at the rootHow recalibration rewires the nervous system so money stops being pressure and starts becoming peaceToday’s Micro Recalibration: “Where does money feel like a mirror right now? What is it revealing about who I believe I am?” If you’ve ever wondered why financial security still feels fragile, this episode will give you language for what you’ve been carrying — and show you why recalibration is the only shift that changes everything. If this episode gave you language you’ve been missing, please rate and review the show so more high-capacity humans can find it. Explore Identity-Level Recalibration → Follow Julie Holly on LinkedIn for more recalibration insights → Schedule a conversation with Julie to see if The Recalibration is a fit for you → Download the Misalignment Audit → Subscribe to the weekly newsletter → Join the waitlist for the next Recalibration cohort This isn’t therapy. This isn’t coaching. This is identity recalibration — and it changes everything.

    12 phút

  2. 1 NGÀY TRƯỚC

    #121 Why Identity, Not Strategy, Builds Intimacy That Lasts

    When marriage feels tired or transactional, it’s time to return to the Source. In this Sunday Recalibration, discover how identity alignment before God creates intimacy that lasts — even when life feels loud and connection feels distant. Most high-capacity couples didn’t enter marriage hoping to become roommates. You wanted real connection. Enduring intimacy. A shared rhythm that felt as grounded as it was loving. But over time — especially in the weight of parenting, leadership, and the constant pressure to do more — that intimacy can erode. Not always dramatically. Sometimes, it’s just a quiet drifting. And before you know it, you’re managing logistics more than connection… showing up out of duty instead of desire. This Sunday Recalibration invites you to remember what marriage was meant to be — not a performance, but a sacred covenant.  Not a contract of convenience, but a reflection of God’s relational nature. Drawing on Ephesians 5, Genesis 2, the wisdom of Tim Keller and Dan Allender, and her own personal story, Julie Holly shares how vertical identity alignment is the only foundation strong enough to hold a marriage — especially in seasons of weariness, role fatigue, or emotional distance. Inside today’s episode:  • Why deeper intimacy starts with God, not with marriage work  • How Identity-Level Recalibration supports both spiritual and relational repair  • Why performance and control block presence — and how to return to truth  • A 3-part Micro Recalibration to help you reconnect at the root This episode is for every couple craving restoration — and for the high performers quietly carrying relational fatigue behind closed doors.  Whether you’re faith-filled or simply curious, this is a space where sacred truth meets real-life application. Micro Recalibration: In what ways have I made marriage about performance or control — instead of covenant? Where do I need to return to God with my identity — so I can return to my spouse with grace? What would shift in our intimacy if I saw my spouse as a reflection of God's image — and myself the same? Linked Resources: Seven Principles to Making Marriage Work by John Gottman PhD and Nan Silver  The Deep-Rooted Marriage: Cultivating Intimacy, Healing, and Delight by Dr. Dan B. Allender  If this episode gave you language you’ve been missing, please rate and review the show so more high-capacity humans can find it. Explore Identity-Level Recalibration → Follow Julie Holly on LinkedIn for more recalibration insights → Schedule a conversation with Julie to see if The Recalibration is a fit for you → Download the Misalignment Audit → Subscribe to the weekly newsletter → Join the waitlist for the next Recalibration cohort This isn’t therapy. This isn’t coaching. This is identity recalibration — and it changes everything.

    9 phút

  3. 2 NGÀY TRƯỚC

    #120 Rebuilding Intimacy: Identity, Marriage & What Lasts

    When marriage breaks — through betrayal, burnout, or quiet distance — it’s not a tactic that restores intimacy. It’s identity. This episode invites you to rebuild from the root and rediscover what still wants to last. What if the intimacy you long for isn’t lost — it’s just buried beneath years of survival, performance, and quiet fractures no one taught you how to name? In this episode of The Recalibration, we’re speaking directly to the high-capacity human who’s been holding it all together — at home, at work, in leadership — while quietly wondering: Can this marriage really be healed? Whether you’ve weathered betrayal or are just living in the slow erosion of connection, today’s recalibration reveals the one shift that makes rebuilding intimacy possible. Not strategy. Not more effort. But identity. We’ll explore: Why intimacy can’t be rebuilt through communication tools alone How identity fragmentation shows up in relationships — and what to do about it The difference between fixing the marriage and becoming someone intimacy can reach Why high performers default to solutions that work everywhere else — but not here Real examples of restoration, from public figures to private lives And how faith, presence, and identity-level alignment till the soil for trust to grow again We also anchor this episode in the wisdom of Dan Allender, Phil Stutz, John & Stasi Eldredge, and Chip & Joanna Gaines — showing how intimacy isn’t about perfection, but transformation. Whether your marriage is “fine,” flailing, or on fire — this is your reminder that you were made for more. Not just a functional partnership. A sacred one. Today’s Micro Recalibration: What parts of myself did I abandon in this marriage — and why? What would rebuilding intimacy look like if I stopped trying to fix the marriage — and started showing up as the truest version of myself? For Couples: Where have we been trying to reconnect without doing the root work?Linked Resources: Seven Principles to Making Marriage Work by John Gottman PhD and Nan Silver  The Deep-Rooted Marriage: Cultivating Intimacy, Healing, and Delight by Dr. Dan B. Allender  If this episode gave you language you’ve been missing, please rate and review the show so more high-capacity humans can find it. Explore Identity-Level Recalibration → Follow Julie Holly on LinkedIn for more recalibration insights → Schedule a conversation with Julie to see if The Recalibration is a fit for you → Download the Misalignment Audit → Subscribe to the weekly newsletter → Join the waitlist for the next Recalibration cohort This isn’t therapy. This isn’t coaching. This is identity recalibration — and it changes everything.

    8 phút

  4. 3 NGÀY TRƯỚC

    #119 Why Performing in Marriage Backfires — and What to Do Instead

    Still performing in your relationship? This episode explores how performance sabotages intimacy — and how identity alignment unlocks real partnership, especially for high-capacity couples balancing kids, careers, and emotional overload. Still trying to be “easy,” agreeable, or impressive in your relationship — even when it’s costing you? In this episode of The Recalibration, we’re naming the hidden performance patterns high-capacity couples carry in marriage… and why they backfire. From emotionally over- functioning to masking true needs, many of us learned to survive by performing. But that performance — even when masked as “support” — sabotages true partnership. Especially in seasons of parenting, leadership, or high demand, the desire to avoid conflict or keep the peace often keeps couples emotionally distant, even when they’re physically present. We unpack the quiet difference between improving communication — and being truly seen. Because most marriage tools focus on behavior. ILR addresses the identity beneath the pattern. You’ll hear insights from Brendon Burchard, Brené Brown, and Michael Neill… along with the personal story Julie shares of how fear shaped her own performance in marriage — and how identity-level recalibration allowed her to stop striving and start receiving. If you’ve ever asked yourself: Why do I feel invisible in my own marriage? Why am I exhausted even when things “look fine”? What’s the difference between helping and performing? …this episode will give you language, clarity, and a next step. 🧠 Today’s Micro Recalibration: Where do I still feel like I need to earn love in my relationship? What would shift if I brought my full self — not my polished self? For Couples: What mask are we still wearing around each other — and what would it look like to lay it down? This recalibration is already in the show notes — ready for you or your spouse to revisit, reflect, or even bring to a therapist or mentor. You don’t have to carry this alone. This isn’t about improving communication. It’s about restoring identity — so that what you offer in your relationship isn’t a performance, but a presence. Let the recalibration begin. Linked Resources: Supercoach by Michael NeillSeven Principles to Making Marriage Work by John Gottman PhD and Nan Silver The Deep-Rooted Marriage: Cultivating Intimacy, Healing, and Delight by Dr. Dan B. AllenderIf this episode gave you language you’ve been missing, please rate and review the show so more high-capacity humans can find it. Explore Identity-Level Recalibration → Follow Julie Holly on LinkedIn for more recalibration insights → Schedule a conversation with Julie to see if The Recalibration is a fit for you → Download the Misalignment Audit → Subscribe to the weekly newsletter → Join the waitlist for the next Recalibration cohort This isn’t therapy. This isn’t coaching. This is identity recalibration — and it changes everything.

    11 phút

  5. 4 NGÀY TRƯỚC

    #118 How High-Capacity Couples Speak Hard Truth Without Losing Intimacy

    Learn how to tell the truth in your marriage without damaging trust. This episode helps high-capacity humans recalibrate identity so intimacy doesn’t require silence — or sharpness. Can you speak the truth in your marriage — without losing connection? For high-capacity humans who’ve mastered performance, truth-telling can feel like a trap: if you speak, it might rupture intimacy… but if you stay silent, the ache grows. This episode is your invitation to a different way. We’re talking about gentle truth — the kind that creates connection, not conflict. Because when identity is aligned, you don’t have to choose between honesty and intimacy. You can have both. Drawing from The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work (John Gottman & Nan Silver), Sacred Marriage (Gary Thomas), and The Deep-Rooted Marriage (Dan Allender), Julie Holly explores how truth becomes transformational when it’s spoken from alignment — not fear, not people-pleasing, and not self-protection. In this episode, you’ll learn: Why high-capacity couples default to silence or sharpness — and how to recalibrate The “Gottman Red Flags” — 4 patterns that signal misalignment A personal story from Julie about real-time identity awareness during conflict Why marriage will always surface new facets of you — and why that’s the gift How truth-telling dismantles inherited performance scripts Why no tool works if you’re still performing an outdated identity How ILR helps you speak from who you are — not who you’ve had to be This episode includes a Micro Recalibration you can revisit or share anytime — with your spouse, therapist, or mentor. Because sometimes the bravest thing isn’t knowing what to say… it’s believing you’re allowed to say it. Today’s Micro Recalibration: What truth am I holding back — and why? If I believed truth could create connection, how would I say this differently?  Bonus for couples: What haven’t we said — not because it’s not true, but because we’re afraid of what it might break? What if it could build us instead? This episode is for you if…You’ve been suppressing your needs for the sake of peace You fear that speaking up will make things worse You feel alone in carrying emotional weight in your marriage You want more connection, but not through performance You’re ready to recalibrate who you are — not just how you communicate Remember: Most marriage tools fix behavior. Identity-Level Recalibration gets underneath the pattern — so you can speak from who you really are. If this episode gave you language you’ve been missing, please rate and review the show so more high-capacity humans can find it. Explore Identity-Level Recalibration → Follow Julie Holly on LinkedIn for more recalibration insights → Schedule a conversation with Julie to see if The Recalibration is a fit for you → Download the Misalignment Audit → Subscribe to the weekly newsletter → Join the waitlist for the next Recalibration cohort This isn’t therapy. This isn’t coaching. This is identity recalibration — and it changes everything.

    11 phút

  6. 5 NGÀY TRƯỚC

    #117 Why Legacy Roles Sabotage Intimacy in Marriage

    You didn’t choose the roles you’re performing — but they’re shaping your marriage. This episode helps high-capacity humans break free from inherited scripts and rebuild intimacy through identity, not obligation. If your marriage feels more like a performance than a partnership — this episode will hit home. In Breaking Free from Legacy Roles, Julie Holly exposes the invisible scripts that quietly sabotage even the most well-intentioned relationships. These unspoken roles — often inherited through family, faith, or culture — sound virtuous but lead to disconnection, resentment, and exhaustion. Through story, Scripture, and the ILR lens, Julie invites high-capacity humans to confront the identities they’ve outgrown — and realign with the truth of who they are. You’ll discover: What “legacy roles” are — and how they form through family, faith, culture, and survivalWhy high-capacity humans often over-function in marriage without realizing itHow even healthy marriages suffer when partners unconsciously perform roles like The Fixer, The Provider, or The NurturerSpecific examples of how these scripts show up in real life — from emotional suppression to over-sacrifice How Julie’s personal journey through an abusive marriage shaped her understanding of identity, obedience, and spiritual alignmentWhy success-oriented couples often feel disconnected, even when they “do everything right”How Identity-Level Recalibration helps you dissolve the old roles without destroying what you’ve builtA practical Micro Recalibration to help you uncover and release your inherited rolesA question for couples to explore how they’ve co-authored unhealthy scripts — and what new roles are possibleThis episode is not about behavior management. It’s not about better communication techniques. It’s about recalibrating the root of who you are — so that love, intimacy, and connection can grow from alignment, not obligation. 🎯 Micro Recalibration: What role am I unconsciously performing in my relationship? Who told me I had to be that — and is that still true?🫶 For Couples:  What’s one expectation or role we’ve inherited that no longer fits who we’re becoming? Remember: you don’t have to keep performing the role. You get to live the truth. Linked Resources: The Road Back to You: An Enneagram Journey to Self-Discovery by Ian Morgan CronThe Four Agreements by Don Miguel RuizIf this episode gave you language you’ve been missing, please rate and review the show so more high-capacity humans can find it. Explore Identity-Level Recalibration → Follow Julie Holly on LinkedIn for more recalibration insights → Schedule a conversation with Julie to see if The Recalibration is a fit for you → Download the Misalignment Audit → Subscribe to the weekly newsletter → Join the waitlist for the next Recalibration cohort This isn’t therapy. This isn’t coaching. This is identity recalibration — and it changes everything.

    11 phút

  7. 6 NGÀY TRƯỚC

    #116 Why Success-Oriented Couples Struggle to Connect: Emotional Honesty in Marriage

    You can say all the right things and still miss each other. Discover why emotional honesty—not performance—is the gateway to real connection, and how to break the cycle of surface-level intimacy without sacrificing strength. What if the very thing that makes you successful is also what’s silently distancing you from your partner? In today’s episode of The Recalibration, we explore emotional honesty in marriage — and why it’s so hard for high-capacity humans to access it. You might be articulate, self-aware, and transparent… and still be emotionally unavailable. Julie Holly shares her own journey of emotional detachment disguised as leadership, revealing how high performers often substitute control and composure for true vulnerability — not out of malice, but out of protection. This episode blends real-world storywork, neuroscience, and relationship research from Dr. John Gottman to uncover the invisible gap between what we say and how we actually connect. It’s not about mastering conflict scripts or fixing communication. It’s about recalibrating identity — so your presence matches your power. You’ll hear: Why emotional honesty feels risky to high achievers How “transparency” can still be a mask What Gottman’s bids for connection reveal about nervous system safety How tiny missed moments create emotional shutdown Why ILR is not mindset work — it’s identity work that restores intimacy How to lead your marriage with presence, not performance Whether you're in a long-term relationship or simply desiring deeper emotional connection, this episode invites you to stop calculating and start connecting. Today’s Micro Recalibration: Where have I been withholding emotional honesty to protect an image? What truth — even a small one — could I share today that would build intimacy, not distance? For Couples (Recalibration Together): What’s one moment recently where you felt I turned toward you — or didn’t? This is the kind of clarity that recalibrates more than just your marriage — it shifts your whole life. Linked Resources: Seven Principles to Making Marriage Work by John Gottman PhD and Nan Silver  The Deep-Rooted Marriage: Cultivating Intimacy, Healing, and Delight by Dr. Dan B. Allender If this episode gave you language you’ve been missing, please rate and review the show so more high-capacity humans can find it. Explore Identity-Level Recalibration → Follow Julie Holly on LinkedIn for more recalibration insights → Schedule a conversation with Julie to see if The Recalibration is a fit for you → Download the Misalignment Audit → Subscribe to the weekly newsletter → Join the waitlist for the next Recalibration cohort This isn’t therapy. This isn’t coaching. This is identity recalibration — and it changes everything.

    10 phút

  8. 1 THG 9

    #115 Marriage Reveals Who You Really Are — Here’s What to Do

    Marriage isn’t just communication — it’s an identity mirror. Whether you’re married, divorced, or desiring deep intimacy, this episode shows how misalignment reveals itself in relationships and how to recalibrate at the root. If you’ve ever wondered why your marriage feels more draining than connective — even when both of you are trying — this episode will feel like a deep breath. In today’s episode, Julie opens up about her own marriage journey, offering a raw and redemptive look at how conflict, disappointment, and distance in our closest relationships aren’t failures — they’re invitations. Marriage doesn’t just reveal our partner’s flaws — it reflects our identity misalignments, outdated roles, and legacy patterns that no longer serve us. You’ll discover why marriage isn’t meant to complete you, but to confront you — lovingly, truthfully, and redemptively. Through personal story, neuroscience, and soul-level insight, this episode offers a new lens on intimacy and transformation. You’ll also hear why most marriage advice doesn’t work when identity is misaligned — and how Identity-Level Recalibration gives you the clarity and tools to rebuild connection from the inside out. Today’s Micro Recalibration: For Personal Reflection: What identity roles or survival patterns have you brought into your relationship? If you paused to see yourself the way your spouse sees you, what might you notice? For Couples (Use Together):  If you're in a relationship (you don't have to be married), sit with these questions individually — then come together for a rich, honest conversation: What story or identity role do you think I brought into our marriage? What’s one moment where you’ve felt most seen, safe, or loved by me? What part of your story do you wish I better understood? Whether you’re married, divorced, or dreaming of something more aligned — this is your invitation to stop performing, start healing, and recalibrate at the root. Linked Resources: Seven Principles to Making Marriage Work by John Gottman PhD and Nan Silver  The Deep-Rooted Marriage: Cultivating Intimacy, Healing, and Delight by Dr. Dan B. Allender If this episode gave you language you’ve been missing, please rate and review the show so more high-capacity humans can find it. Explore Identity-Level Recalibration → Follow Julie Holly on LinkedIn for more recalibration insights → Schedule a conversation with Julie to see if The Recalibration is a fit for you → Download the Misalignment Audit → Subscribe to the weekly newsletter → Join the waitlist for the next Recalibration cohort This isn’t therapy. This isn’t coaching. This is identity recalibration — and it changes everything.

    14 phút
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Recalibration for high-capacity humans who’ve outgrown the version of themselves they created to succeed. You’ve built a life you once wanted… So why does it feel like it no longer fits? ✔️ You’re the one people count on.✔️ You’ve done the work — the therapy, the mindset shifts, the leadership courses.✔️ You’ve optimized your habits and checked all the boxes. From the outside, it looks like you’ve arrived.But on the inside, something’s misaligned.You can feel it — a quiet tension between who you’ve been and who you’re becoming. This show exists to name that tension — and navigate what comes next. Hosted by Julie Holly — speaker, guide, and creator of Identity-Level Recalibration— The Recalibration is more than a podcast. It’s a daily 5–10 minute space to pause, return to yourself, and realign your internal world before you lead your external one. Each episode blends faith, psychology, philosophy, neuroscience, and lived experience — guiding high-capacity humans back into identity alignment. You’ll recalibrate from the inside out, so you can move forward with:✔️ Clarity that comes from knowing who you are now✔️ Courage to let go of what no longer fits✔️ Momentum to become who you’re meant to be next This podcast is not: – Coaching – Therapy – Another self-help fix It’s not about doing more.It’s about becoming more you. Whether you're: – An executive or entrepreneur who’s lost the spark – A visionary founder or creative craving deeper congruence – The steady go-to person finally tending inward – A high-functioning parent or midlife leader in transition – Or someone who’s carried quiet courage for years, ready to rise… You’ve done the work. You’ve kept showing up.Now it’s time to get current with who you truly are. With over 600 podcast episodes behind her and decades of experience in education, entrepreneurship, and identity work, Julie Holly brings a rare blend of story, strategy, and soul. In a world full of noise, The Recalibration offers the signal. Tune in daily for:– Thought-provoking questions– Micro identity shifts– A safe place to realign before you re-engage Subscribe now and recalibrate your way forward.

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