1 hr 4 min
134: Beyond Sex Education with Dr. Natalie Thornhill Your Parenting Mojo - Respectful, research-based parenting ideas to help kids thrive
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"Do you know what happens to your body when you get older?"
"Um...you get hairy in some places?"
"Yeah...other things happen too. We'll get you some books."
That was what I learned about sex education when I was seven - I was always grateful that I learned it from my parents (who were pretty terrified to talk about it, I think) rather than from the other kids at school. But then the topic wasn't mentioned again until I was about 18, with a vague reference to "being careful" with my first boyfriend, whom I wasn't even sleeping with yet.
Friends: we have to do more than this if we want our children to be able to show up in relationships as fulfilled human beings who understand what pleasure is, how to ask for it, and how to give it.
We need our children to know that sex does not have to equal intercourse, and that there are a whole host of ways to enjoy our (and each other's) bodies without doing this if we don't want to do it (when they're ready for it!).
And we need to help our children understand boundaries so they can protect themselves when they need to - without getting so caught up in the shame that pervades our thinking about sex. (Since the sex = shame narrative is deeply pervasive in our culture I don't think we can overcome it completely, but we can make a start...).
In this episode we build on our conversation with Charlotte Rose about sex for us parents to go (far) Beyond Sex Ed with sex educator Dr. Nadine Thornhill, whose direct, fun, engaging style will help you to see that you, too, can have conversations about sex and pleasure with your own children. You can find more information on Dr. Thornhill's work on her YouTube channel where she addresses topics from what happens if the kid walk in on parents having sex to whether first time sex always hurts, as well as on Instagram.
Parenting Membership
If parenting feels really hard, and it seems like you’ve read all the books and you’ve asked for advice in free communities and you’re tired of having to weed through all the stuff that isn’t aligned with your values to get to the few good nuggets, then the Parenting Membership will help you out.
Click the banner to learn more and sign up. Enrollment now open until May 15th, 2024!
Jump to highlights:
(00:01) Setting Loving and Effective Limits Workshop
(02:18) Where we’re at with our mini-series on issues related to sex
(03:34) Introducing our guest, Dr. Nadine Thornhill
(04:54) The importance of continuing the conversation about sex beyond the basic topics
(09:17) Figuring out what kinds of things I need to teach my...
"Do you know what happens to your body when you get older?"
"Um...you get hairy in some places?"
"Yeah...other things happen too. We'll get you some books."
That was what I learned about sex education when I was seven - I was always grateful that I learned it from my parents (who were pretty terrified to talk about it, I think) rather than from the other kids at school. But then the topic wasn't mentioned again until I was about 18, with a vague reference to "being careful" with my first boyfriend, whom I wasn't even sleeping with yet.
Friends: we have to do more than this if we want our children to be able to show up in relationships as fulfilled human beings who understand what pleasure is, how to ask for it, and how to give it.
We need our children to know that sex does not have to equal intercourse, and that there are a whole host of ways to enjoy our (and each other's) bodies without doing this if we don't want to do it (when they're ready for it!).
And we need to help our children understand boundaries so they can protect themselves when they need to - without getting so caught up in the shame that pervades our thinking about sex. (Since the sex = shame narrative is deeply pervasive in our culture I don't think we can overcome it completely, but we can make a start...).
In this episode we build on our conversation with Charlotte Rose about sex for us parents to go (far) Beyond Sex Ed with sex educator Dr. Nadine Thornhill, whose direct, fun, engaging style will help you to see that you, too, can have conversations about sex and pleasure with your own children. You can find more information on Dr. Thornhill's work on her YouTube channel where she addresses topics from what happens if the kid walk in on parents having sex to whether first time sex always hurts, as well as on Instagram.
Parenting Membership
If parenting feels really hard, and it seems like you’ve read all the books and you’ve asked for advice in free communities and you’re tired of having to weed through all the stuff that isn’t aligned with your values to get to the few good nuggets, then the Parenting Membership will help you out.
Click the banner to learn more and sign up. Enrollment now open until May 15th, 2024!
Jump to highlights:
(00:01) Setting Loving and Effective Limits Workshop
(02:18) Where we’re at with our mini-series on issues related to sex
(03:34) Introducing our guest, Dr. Nadine Thornhill
(04:54) The importance of continuing the conversation about sex beyond the basic topics
(09:17) Figuring out what kinds of things I need to teach my...
1 hr 4 min