179: How To MAKE REAL FRIENDSHIPS As An Adult (and KEEP them!) with Anna Goldfarb

It's the mystery that eludes so many of us: How do you make friends as an adult — REAL-DEAL friends – and how do you nurture these valued connections?

Today's guest has been called "The New York Times Friendship Correspondent" and is here with us to dig into the #1 asked question throughout all of WANT's 10 year history: how do I find my people?

Author Anna Goldfarb's reporting has appeared in The New York Times, The Atlantic, Washington Post, Vox, Vice, and more. Her book MODERN FRIENDSHIP (out TODAY, June 4th 2024), explores the nuances of navigating adult friendships.

IN THIS EPISODE WE TALK ABOUT...

• The HUGE yet shockingly simple factor keeping us from making and maintaining friendships, especially as we get older
• Why making friends is more of a challenge now than it ever was for our parents or grandparents
• How to categorize friends in a way that doesn't feel icky and actually HELPS you nurture friendships sans guilt or obligation
• Men and friendship, plus different gender expectations as we get older 
• Making friends as an introvert or someone who has trust issues
• and SO MUCH MORE!!!!!

ABOUT ANNA:

Anna Goldfarb is a friendship journalist who has reported for outlets including the New York Times, the Atlantic, Time magazine, Vice, The Cut, Vox, and the Washington Post. Called “the New York Times friendship correspondent” by Tim Herrera, the editor of the New York Times Smarter Living section, she’s written hundreds of articles that explore the nuances of friendships, relationships, and pop psychology. She lives in Philadelphia. Her first book, MODERN FRIENDSHIP: How to Nurture Our Most Valued Connections, is out today and available wherever books are sold.

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SHOW NOTES:

Modern Friendship

Anna's website

Anna on IG

Anna's Substack

Anna in the NYT

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