2. Our Agreement About Conflict

It’s essential that we really slow down and take the time to care for the impact that we're having with each other, and care for the impact that people have on us. In this episode, we discuss how we practice abundant repair and share tools that help us fully resolve conflicts. 

In our relationship, we can count on each other that repair is going to happen when a rupture occurs. We describe what it’s like to feel held and supported while we work through periods of disconnection, and explain why these difficult moments are actually an opportunity to get closer. 

We break down the resources that we have found useful in getting us back to a place of connection, relaxation, and enjoyment. We give examples of how to actually address this agreement with people in your life and illustrate how it’s played out in moments of conflict. We also highlight how we’ve taken this concept into our work environment and talk about the profound effect that it’s had on our team. 

Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Google Podcasts, or on your favorite podcast platform. 

Topics Covered:

• Why mutual agreements should be the foundation of any relationship 
• What happens when you don’t fully repair after a conflict 
• Long-term effects of growing up in a home where there was very little repair between family members 
• Gentle entry into a conversation that doesn't feel blaming or shaming when you feel disconnected from your partner
• Tips to get out of a dysregulated or triggered cycle 

Get in Touch: 

• Krista’s Website
• Integrative Psychiatry Institute
• Krista’s Instagram
• Will’s Instagram
• Art of We Instagram

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