#230 Pleasure-Centred Sex Education and Self-Pleasure Experimentation (with Danielle Bezalel)

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Danielle Bezalel, MPH, aka DB (she/her/hers). Danielle is the Creator, Executive Producer, and Host of the ⁠Sex Ed with DB⁠ podcast, a feminist podcast bringing you all the sex ed you never got, centering LGBTQ+ and BIPOC experts. Danielle earned a Master of Public Health with expertise in sexuality, sexual, and reproductive health from Columbia University. Danielle lives in Oakland, CA. Go to⁠ www.sexedwithdb.com⁠ to learn more about the podcast and get discounts on DB’s faves ⁠here⁠. You can listen to the podcast on ⁠Apple Podcasts⁠,⁠ Spotify⁠, ⁠Soundcloud⁠, or wherever you get your podcasts. Follow Sex Ed with DB on⁠ TikTok⁠,⁠ Instagram⁠,⁠ Twitter⁠, and ⁠YouTube⁠.

Key points:

Introductions and background

Danielle introduces herself as a sex educator and podcast host, sharing her passion for providing medically accurate, pleasure-centered sex education. Cam shares that his wife is also a musician and has done work related to birth and postpartum.

Defining pleasure-centered sex education

Danielle and Cam discuss what it means to have a "pleasure-centered" approach to sex education, focusing on topics like birth control, STIs, LGBTQIA+ health, consent, and the physical and emotional aspects of sex. They emphasize the importance of using scientifically-backed, non-judgmental, and inclusive language.

Danielle's "Magic Wand" self-pleasure experiment

Danielle shares details about a self-experiment she conducted using a Magic Wand vibrator, tracking the impact on her health, mood, and sexual experience over three weeks. The results showed decreased stress and anxiety, more positive moods, and increased libido when using the Magic Wand daily.

Navigating public discussions about and intimacy

Cam and Danielle discuss the challenges of having public conversations about sex, particularly for men. They explore the differences in how men and women are typically portrayed when discussing their masturbation habits, and the importance of creating safe spaces for open, non-judgmental dialogue.

Closing thoughts and resources

Danielle shares some final wisdom about the importance of self-love and appreciation, and provides information about how to connect with her through her podcast, social media, and an upcoming workshop on building a profitable online education business.