#30 - What are you saying?

Do you ever have a hard time trying to get out of your mouth what is in your head (or heart)? Or, you know deep down what you wish to say, but before the words come out you’ve censored yourself so much that perhaps they’ve lost their intended meaning? I can remember when I was young, listening to myself in a recording my brothers and I had made (on cassette tape, remember those 😉), and cringed a bit when I listened. I was a kid, had self judgment already begun? Now, many years later, I have had many opportunities to listen to myself. One awareness that I have had listening to myself speak which is blatantly obvious yet sneakily overlooked is that the more comfortable with my human-ness I am, the less I cringe. There are many tracks of exploration one can go down within the subject of linguistics. This episode is simply filled with 3 baseline observations in how what we say can reveal what’s happening on the inside and within the dynamic of your relationships. Sometimes we use avoidance languaging, sometimes we come out fighting, and others we just simply freeze. The truth is, much of our language is habitual, and we can end up using it as a filler for uncomfortable moments, instead of pausing to consider that something more vulnerable wishes to be said. We would love for you to join Crystal and I as we lightheartedly share our curiosities and observations of what we are saying. With love, Dr. Deb Ayer