31. Who is Stealing My Underwear?

Monica talks about leaving Social Media for a few weeks.  She found she didn't miss anything.  Monica and Amanda both agree that too much scrolling and social media is really not that important, and is a waste of time.

Amanda asks Monica how she feels about those little white lies that people tell to get out of seeing friends.  Monica prefers the straight up approach, she has no issue with someone changing their mind if they don't want to go out or see her.  Some people have huge issues with you canceling plans, and in those cases to avoid the over dramatics a little white lie is necessary.  Amanda talks about a friend of hers who decided to not go to a family function and made up a covid lie.  We both agree that it's better to be straight up.

AITA for not wanting my wife’s nephew with us anymore after finding out he’s been taking my underwear?

I’m (29M) in this bizarre situation at the moment and need others input. My wife’s nephew (18) was having problems with my SIL - his mom- for a while. We don’t know the full details but considering how awful she is as a person we didn’t blame him for wanting out of that house. His dad’s not in the picture, rest of the family lives too far from where he’s going to school and his job. He asked if he could come live with us and we were more than happy to help him out.

Don’t know when exactly the situation started only that I began noticing over the last couple of months that my boxer briefs were going missing whenever it was time for me to do laundry. As in I’d only find a couple in my hamper when I’d try doing laundry. I thought it was weird but didn’t think anything of it. I keep it in the closet so figured maybe they fell out when I toss all my dirty clothes in there. But it started to get even more noticeable when I actually had to buy more because I had no idea why they were disappearing. My wife just thought I was losing them by not paying attention.

Then I went into the storage room/guest room where her nephew is staying. I was looking for some supplies we keep there in the closet and then I found a laundry bag in one of the drawers. All of my underwear were in there. A whole big pile were stuffed in there and I couldn’t believe it. I asked my wife first if she had any idea about this and she was just as surprised as I was. We had a sit down with him, didn’t bring up what I found but asked him directly if he knew why my dirty underwear was disappearing from my hamper. He tried playing dumb at first, he’s a horrible liar and then we told him what we found.

It was an awkward conversation. He kept refusing it was him who took them then when he did confess he didn’t wanna say why. Honestly I just felt grossly violated. He was looking through my hamper and taking out my underwear for god knows how long, keeping them hidden in his room for I don’t know what reasons an it was an uncomfortable thought. My wife fully supported when I told her I’m not comfortable with him staying with us anymore and we sent him back to his moms. Ofc her whole family is upset about it. My wife confided in her other sister what happened and she decided to inform the whole family.

They admit that’s kind of gross but it’s not like he was stealing money and we shouldn’t have thrown him out for only that reason. My wife is getting it the hardest because they’re her family and I feel bad for her being caught in this. However I’m just no longer comfortable having him here knowing what he was doing. AITA?