How to Lose the 'WAIT'

Holly Toscanini
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How to Lose the 'WAIT'

Welcome to How to Lose the ‘Wait’ – Stop Waiting. Start Living. (Formerly the Say, “When!” podcast) If you’ve ever felt stuck, waiting for the “perfect” body, job, or love, this podcast is for you. It’s not just about ditching diet culture—it’s about shedding the emotional weight that’s kept you from living fully and embracing your true self. Join me as I help women like you break free from perfectionism, self-doubt, and limiting beliefs. We’ll explore how to trust yourself, reconnect with your intuition, and reclaim your power in a world that profits from your insecurities. Each episode invites you to step into your authentic self, build self-confidence, and find joy in living intuitively—without waiting for permission. This isn’t just a podcast—it’s a movement for women ready to stop waiting for their lives to begin and start embracing who they truly are.

Episodes

  1. 2 DAYS AGO

    Episode 57: Living Without the Wait—How to Fully Step into Your Power

    In this empowering episode of How to Lose the ‘WAIT’, Holly Toscanini dives deep into the invisible weight many midlife women carry—emotional baggage, self-doubt, limiting beliefs, and the fear of being too much or not enough. Holly challenges the myth that weight loss equals confidence, offering actionable steps to shed the emotional burdens holding you back and reclaim your power. With warmth, wit, and practical advice, Holly helps you see that confidence comes from within, not from a number on the scale. You’ll learn how to rewrite your inner narrative, embrace your worth as it is, and step boldly into the life you’ve been waiting for. Key Takeaways Confidence isn’t about weight loss; it’s about changing your mindset. Learn how to identify and challenge limiting beliefs that tie self-worth to body size. Emotional baggage doesn’t define you. From regret to fear, uncover how these invisible weights hold you back—and how to let them go. Practical steps to reclaim your power. Discover tools like affirmations, visualization, mirror work, and gratitude journaling to shift your mindset and embrace your magnificence. Ready to take the first step in your transformation? Visit hollytoscanini.com to explore The Intuitive Woman Blueprint and start your journey toward living fully and unapologetically. Don’t forget to tag Holly on Instagram and share your biggest takeaway from the episode! Share Post Share

    17 min

  2. 12/23/2024

    56. Stop Waiting for Permission: How to Build Unconditional Self-Confidence

    Have you ever felt like you’re waiting for permission to finally feel confident—whether it’s permission to speak up, take up space, or chase a dream? In this empowering episode of How to Lose the ‘WAIT’, host Holly Toscanini dives deep into what it takes to build unconditional self-confidence—the kind that doesn’t rely on external validation, a perfect body, or checking off society’s endless to-do list. Holly breaks down the myths about confidence, explains why trusting yourself is the foundation for lasting self-worth, and shares three actionable steps to help you start building radical confidence today. Whether you’ve spent years struggling with perfectionism, self-doubt, or the pressure to shrink yourself—physically and emotionally—this episode is your wake-up call to stop waiting and start living fully. Plus, don’t miss Holly’s free e-book, Activate Your Intuition: 3 Steps to Reclaiming Inner Wisdom, available now to help you trust yourself and step into your power. Listen in to learn: * How diet culture, patriarchy, and perfectionism have eroded your ability to trust yourself—and why reclaiming that trust is an act of rebellion. * Why confidence isn’t about perfection but about practicing self-trust, even when life feels messy. * The 3 simple steps you can take today to start rewriting the rules, practicing micro-bravery, and creating rituals that anchor your confidence. Key Takeaways: * Self-confidence isn’t something you earn—it’s something you build. True confidence comes from trusting yourself, not from achieving perfection or meeting external expectations. * Trusting yourself is the foundation of confidence. Rebuilding self-trust requires unlearning the damaging messages of diet culture, patriarchy, and ageism—and reclaiming your inner voice. * Small, intentional steps create big shifts. Rewrite the unspoken rules that have held you back, take daily actions that push you outside your comfort zone, and establish confidence rituals to anchor your progress. Resources Mentioned in This Episode: * Free E-Book: Activate Your Intuition: 3 Steps to Reclaiming Inner Wisdom – Download it here. * Holly’s Coaching Programs and Workshops – Learn more at www.hollytoscanini.com. Rate, Review, and Follow! If this episode spoke to you, please leave a review and hit subscribe. Your support helps spread this message and inspires more women to step into their confidence and power. Next Episode Teaser: Tune in next week for Living Without the Weight: How to Fully Step into Your Power. This transformational episode will show you how to shed the emotional and physical weight that’s been holding you back—and step boldly into the life you were meant to live. Share Post Share

    30 min

  3. 12/07/2024

    55. Why People Comment on Your Body (and How to Shut It Down)

    In this empowering episode of How to Lose the ‘WAIT’, Holly Toscanini dives into why people feel compelled to comment on your body and how you can respond with confidence, dignity, and grace. Learn actionable strategies to set boundaries, protect your peace, and shut down unsolicited advice, whether it’s at family gatherings, in the workplace, or online. Perfect for women over 40 ready to reclaim their power and embrace their worth beyond societal judgments. Key Takeaways  Unsolicited comments are rooted in societal norms, not your worth.People often comment on bodies due to cultural conditioning, personal insecurities, or misguided intentions. Understanding this can help you separate their words from your self-esteem. You have the power to set boundaries and protect your peace.Clear, confident responses—whether verbal, humorous, or silent—allow you to reclaim control of the conversation and reinforce that your body is not up for discussion. Managing emotional aftermath is essential for self-care.Dealing with unsolicited comments can be emotionally taxing. Practicing self-compassion, leaning on a support system, and reframing the experience help you heal and maintain your confidence. Journals and Workbooks Download your Free E-Book Activate Your Intuition: 3 Steps to Reclaiming Inner Wisdom Share Post Share

    18 min

  4. 11/24/2024

    54. Reclaiming Our Sacred Connection with Food

    In this powerful episode of How to Lose the ‘WAIT’, host Holly Toscanini invites listeners to explore food as far more than fuel. Together, we’ll dive into food’s sacred role in culture, tradition, and self-care, breaking free from diet culture’s restrictive narratives. Holly discusses how reclaiming our relationship with food can nourish our spirits, connect us to our heritage, and help us tune into our body’s own wisdom. This is an invitation to reframe food as an ally, honoring both our bodies and our cultural roots. Get ready to feel inspired to connect with food in a way that enriches your life beyond the plate. Key Takeaways: Food as a Cultural Connector: Food connects us to our roots and brings us closer to others. From shared family recipes to cultural traditions, food can be a powerful bridge across generations and communities. Reclaiming Intuitive Eating: Intuitive eating isn’t a new fad; it’s a practice rooted in listening to our body’s cues, honoring hunger and fullness, and embracing food as joy. This approach allows us to reconnect with our cultural foods without the influence of diet culture. Mindful Eating as Spiritual Practice: By eating mindfully, we engage in an act of self-respect and gratitude, transforming food from mere sustenance into a sacred ritual. Mindful eating can reduce stress, enhance our well-being, and deepen our self-connection. Tune in to discover how honoring food as part of our heritage and intuitive wisdom can empower you to nourish both body and soul.  Journals and Workbooks Download your Free E-Book Activate Your Intuition: 3 Steps to Reclaiming Inner Wisdom Manifesto- How to Lose the “Wait” and Reclaim Body Sovereignty Share Post Share

    20 min

  5. 11/17/2024

    Part 3- Reclaiming Every Part

    In this 3rd and final installment, we move from understanding and challenging societal standards to fully embracing body sovereignty and reclaiming every part of ourselves. This episode is all about practical, soul-affirming steps that guide us to live aligned with our own values, letting go of self-judgment, and celebrating the body we inhabit right now. We’ll learn daily practices that reinforce self-love and resilience, and discover the power of not conforming to anyone’s standards but our own. Together, we embrace the freedom, strength, and wisdom that come with growing older. Key Takeaways: Body sovereignty is a daily practice of making choices that honor and respect our bodies on our terms. Self-empowering practices like body gratitude, compassionate self-talk, and mindful movement help strengthen self-acceptance. Living as the sum of our parts means embracing age, wisdom, and the freedom to define our lives beyond anyone else’s expectations. Manifesto- How to Lose the “Wait” and Reclaim Body Sovereignty Journals and Workbooks Download your Free E-Book Activate Your Intuition: 3 Steps to Reclaiming Inner Wisdom Share Post Share

    16 min

  6. 11/17/2024

    Part 2- Breaking Free from the Age Cage, Embracing Mid-Life Power and Wisdom

    In Part 2, Breaking Free from the Age Cage, Embracing Mid-Life Power and Wisdom, Holly exposes the pressure surrounding aging in a society that glorifies youth and equates it with worth. This episode unpacks the impossible standards that mid-life and older women face, from the pressures to stay wrinkle-free and toned to feeling invisible in workplaces and social circles. By tuning into our intuition, we learn to redefine relevance, set boundaries with ageist expectations, and embrace the resilience, wisdom, and strength that come with age. This episode is about freeing ourselves from outdated standards and celebrating aging on our own terms. Key Takeaways: Ageism perpetuates the harmful myth that youth equals worth, leading many women to feel invisible or undervalued as they age. Intuition is a powerful tool that helps us redefine our own standards, setting boundaries with societal pressures. Embracing aging allows us to appreciate our unique power, resilience, and wisdom, and to live unapologetically. Manifesto- How to Lose the “Wait” and Reclaim Body Sovereignty Download your free e-book Activate Your Intuition: 3 Steps to Reclaiming Inner Wisdom Journals and Workbooks Share Post Share

    17 min

  7. 11/17/2024

    Part 1-Uncovering the Roots: Why Our Bodies Were Never the Problem

    In Part 1 of the Sum of Our Parts, “Uncovering the Roots, Why Our Bodies Were Never the Problem”, we explore where body insecurity begins and how societal standards, family dynamics, and media shape our perceptions from an early age. We trace the origins of body shame and insecurities that affect us throughout life, reinforcing the message that these are not flaws within us but external pressures imposed on us. By understanding these roots, we take the first step toward reclaiming compassion for ourselves and challenging the beliefs that keep us feeling “not enough.” Key Takeaways: Body insecurity is often rooted in societal standards and external influences, not personal flaws. Generational expectations add another layer to body shame, often passed down through family beliefs and cultural norms. Practicing self-compassion helps to release self-blame and enables you to embrace a healthier relationship with your body. Manifesto- How to Lose the “Wait” and Reclaim Body Sovereignty Journals and Workbooks Download your free e-book Activate your Intuition: 3 Steps to Reclaiming Inner Wisdom Share Post Share

    15 min

  8. 11/17/2024

    53. The Sum of Our Parts"- Age, Wisdom, and the Power of Not Giving a Sh*t

    In this 3-part series, The Sum of Our Parts, Holly peels back the layers of body-related insecurity, revealing where it comes from, how it holds us back, and how we can finally break free.  Inspired by her personal philosophy, The Manifesto for Reclaiming Body Sovereignty, and rooted in the principles of How to Lose the ‘WAIT’ this series goes beyond traditional body positivity; it’s about reconnecting with the parts of ourselves we may have hidden, ignored, or wished were different. Expect deep insights and practical takeaways designed to help you start living in your body on your own terms. Download the Free e-book 3 Activate Your Intuition: 3 Steps to Reclaiming Inner Wisdom Click the Links to Listen! Part 1-Uncovering the Roots: Why Our Bodies Were Never the Problem Part 2: Breaking Free from the Age Cage – Embracing Mid-Life Power and Wisdom Part 3: Reclaiming Every Part   Share Post Share

    4 min

  9. 10/27/2024

    52. Why We’re Losing the 'WAIT': A New Beginning for Your Journey to Empowerment

    The Say,’ When!’ podcast is now “How to Lose the ‘WAIT’ Stop Waiting. Start Living. Tell me, what kind of life do you really want?  Do you feel like you’ve been waiting forever for your ‘real life’ to start? Maybe you’ve been holding out for the perfect body, the perfect job, or the perfect relationship, all the while feeling stuck in place. The constant feeling of not being enough—it’s exhausting. What if I told you that the reason you feel this way isn’t because you’re not trying hard enough? The truth is, we’ve been conditioned by a culture that profits from making us feel inadequate. But here’s the good news: you can break free from that story. Imagine what it would feel like to stop waiting and start living, to trust yourself completely, and to embrace who you are, right now. You don’t need to lose weight, get a promotion, or find the ‘perfect’ love to feel worthy.  You already are. And your body, your intuition, and your soul are here to guide you. If you’ve ever felt like your life is on hold—waiting for the perfect body, job, or love to come along—this podcast is for you. How to Lose the ‘Wait’ is about more than just ditching diet culture. It’s about releasing the emotional weight that’s kept you from living fully and embracing your true self, right now. Intuitive Woman Blueprint: Discover Your Empowered Living Action Plan A Personalized Assessment to Discover Where You Are on Your Journey to Living Fully. Are you ready to trust yourself and live life without waiting for the perfect moment? The Intuitive Woman Blueprint is your personalized guide to uncovering the limiting beliefs that have held you back and revealing the strengths that will help you step into your full potential as an intuitive, empowered, and confident woman. This assessment is designed to illuminate where you currently stand on your journey to self-trust, unconditional body confidence, and empowered living. You’ll gain a deeper understanding of how external pressures have influenced your mindset, body image, and intuition—and more importantly, how to break free from those limitations to live authentically and confidently in every area of your life. What You’ll Discover: Uncover Limiting Beliefs: Clear the Path to Self-Trust This section helps you identify the thought patterns and beliefs that have kept you from fully trusting yourself. You’ll learn how societal pressures and perfectionism have shaped your mindset—and how to replace them with empowering beliefs that support intuitive, confident living. Build Unconditional Body Confidence: Embrace Your Worth Move beyond self-doubt and body insecurity. In this section, you’ll explore how to shift from body shame to unconditional body confidence, learning to see your body as a source of strength, wisdom, and vitality—no matter its shape or size. This is the key to living fully, free from comparison and judgment. Reconnect with Your Intuition: Trust Your Inner Wisdom Your intuition is your most powerful guide. This part of the blueprint is designed to help you rediscover and strengthen your connection to your inner voice. Whether it’s in your relationship with food, your body, or your daily decisions, trusting your intuition is the foundation for living authentically. Nourish Your Body Feed Your Soul: Live in Harmony with Your Body This section is all about Intuitive Eating and will help you understand how to nourish yourself by listening to your body’s signals—letting go of restrictive diet rules and embracing a more intuitive, balanced relationship with food. Your Empowered Living Action Plan Once you complete the Intuitive Woman Blueprint,

    21 min

  10. 10/19/2024

    51. Breaking Free from Beauty Myths: Embracing Radical Self-Love and Body Acceptance

    In this episode, we unpack the powerful themes of body acceptance and radical self-love, drawing inspiration from two iconic works: The Beauty Myth by Naomi Wolf and The Body Is Not An Apology by Sonya Renee Taylor. Key Takeaways: * The Beauty Myth: We explored how societal beauty standards have historically oppressed women, shifting our focus from our potential to our appearance, and discussed the importance of rejecting these harmful narratives. * Radical Self-Love: Building on Sonya Renee Taylor’s work, we dove into the transformative idea of loving and embracing our bodies as they are—without conditions. A practical exercise and affirmations were shared to help you start this journey. * Overcoming Obstacles: We addressed both internal (negative self-talk) and external (societal pressure) barriers to body acceptance, sharing strategies for overcoming these challenges, including a powerful testimonial from a listener named Rachel. * Celebrating Your Body: Creative practices like the Body Gratitude Collage and joyful movement were highlighted as ways to foster body appreciation and self-expression. * Community Support: We emphasized the importance of surrounding yourself with a supportive community and offered tips on how to find or build one that uplifts your body acceptance journey. The Beauty Myth by Naomi Wolf The Body Is Not An Apology by Sonia Renee Taylor Non-Diet Manifesto: My Philosophy for Reclaiming Body Sovereignty The Intuitive Woman Blueprint: Discover Your Empowered Living Action Plan A Personalized Assessment to Discover Where You Are on Your Journey to Living Fully. Are you ready to trust yourself and live life without waiting for the perfect moment? The Intuitive Woman Blueprint is your personalized guide to uncovering the limiting beliefs that have held you back and revealing the strengths that will help you step into your full potential as an intuitive, empowered, and confident woman. Free Resources Free Quiz: What’s Your Dieting Personality?  Free Quiz: Is Your Diet Causing More Harm Than Good?  Journals and Workbooks by Holly Toscanini Share Post Share

    30 min

  11. 12/02/2023

    29. "Say 'When!' to Unwanted Advice: Handling Body Comments with Grace"

    In this enlightening episode, host Holly Toscanini delves into the pervasive issue of unwanted body comments and provides actionable strategies for setting boundaries, maintaining self-respect, and reclaiming your narrative. Embark on a journey to reclaim your body, your narrative, and your inherent worth. By the end of this episode, you'll be empowered with the tools and confidence to tackle unwanted body comments head-on and foster a deeper sense of body acceptance. So go ahead and say 'When!' to reclaiming your life, one conversation at a time.What’s your dieting personality quiz? (https://hollytoscanini.com/whats-your-dieting-personality/)Click here to schedule your free coaching call. (https://bit.ly/39khvZg)Key Takeaways1. The Problem: Unsolicited comments about weight and appearance are all too common and can seriously impact self-esteem and body image.2. Why People Comment: Social norms, misguided intentions, and lack of awareness often fuel these intrusive remarks.3. Setting Boundaries: Learn to say 'When!' to unwanted advice—a powerful, boundary-setting term that aligns with Holly Toscanini's coaching philosophy focused on intuitive eating, Health At Every Size, and body acceptance.4. Strategies for Handling Comments: Techniques include polite deflection, assertive yet respectful responses, and self-care tips for emotional well-being post-encounter.

    15 min
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Welcome to How to Lose the ‘Wait’ – Stop Waiting. Start Living. (Formerly the Say, “When!” podcast) If you’ve ever felt stuck, waiting for the “perfect” body, job, or love, this podcast is for you. It’s not just about ditching diet culture—it’s about shedding the emotional weight that’s kept you from living fully and embracing your true self. Join me as I help women like you break free from perfectionism, self-doubt, and limiting beliefs. We’ll explore how to trust yourself, reconnect with your intuition, and reclaim your power in a world that profits from your insecurities. Each episode invites you to step into your authentic self, build self-confidence, and find joy in living intuitively—without waiting for permission. This isn’t just a podcast—it’s a movement for women ready to stop waiting for their lives to begin and start embracing who they truly are.

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  • Creator
    Holly Toscanini
  • Years Active
    2022 - 2025
  • Episodes
    11
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Copyright Holly Toscanini 2024
  • Show Website
    How to Lose the 'WAIT'

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