53. Stop Comparing Yourself to Other Gays

In previous episodes, we talked about how gay men may struggle with perfectionism as a means to validate themselves and overcome their gay shame. As a result, it’s easy to compare ourselves to others and compete against other gay men instead of lifting our community up.

In this episode, we’re talking about some of the reasons why gay men compete with one another, ways to stop comparing ourselves to others, and how we can better support our community instead of tearing each other down.

Additional Resources:

• Social Comparison Theory
• Sizing Up: When We Compete with Other Gay Men in Gay Communities
• How to Deal with Comparing Yourself to Another Gay?
• The Top 10 Reasons the Gay Community is so Competitive
• 32. Gay Men and Body Obsession
• 13. Perfectly Imperfect: Conquer Your Perfectionism
• 10 Reasons Gay Men are Hyper Competitive
• 42. Are You Emotionally Unavailable?
• Gay Men & Self-Perception Based on Grindr Use
• Couple Competition
• How to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others
• How To Stop Comparing Yourself To Others
• Matthew J. Dempsey on How Gay Men "Compare & Despair"

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