Adoption Today

Carrie Wildes and Karyn Lear
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Adoption Today

Real talk on adoption, foster care and this journey we call parenting. We (Carrie and Karyn:-) are both adoptive parents and have a deep passion for sharing both our stories and many other stories of adoptees, foster parents, and resources out there to help people along their journey. You can also find us on Facebook and Instagram @adoptiontoday we would love to hear from you!

  1. Guest - Simone Knego: The Extraordinary UnOrdinary You

    01/05/2021

    Guest - Simone Knego: The Extraordinary UnOrdinary You

    On this episode we are fortunate enough to chat with author and adoptive parent Simone Knego.  Her book The Extraordinary UnOrdinary You is a great read anytime, but it is also something that really resonates with a new year and new opportunities. She has a way of reminding us that life happens in the little, everyday moments, like saying hi to your neighbor or waiting a beat to answering a personal question. The stories that come from those encounters, and from her life with her husband and six children, will make you think about the way you approach your own daily routine. Her witty perspective allows us a fun look at everyday life. We think you will also enjoy our conversation with her as much as we did.

    36 min
  2. Adoptionly Yours Greeting Card Founders

    07/31/2020

    Adoptionly Yours Greeting Card Founders

    Ever wish you could find the perfect card to celebrate an adoption or recognize a birth parent? So did we!  And then we found Adoptionly Yours, a local Tampa Bay-based greeting card business run by two moms. Stacy Clark and Jane Alfieri both have daughters through the gift of adoption, and met while working in the advertising industry. The writer and artist put their heads and hearts together and came up with the perfect words and illustrations to recognize the adoption journey. Their line of greeting cards includes cards and gifts to support and celebrate new parents, honor birth parents and more.   Hear their inspiring story on the podcast, and then check them out at adoptionlyyours.

    41 min
  3. Corona Kids Follow Up / episode 2of2

    05/14/2020

    Corona Kids Follow Up / episode 2of2

    (Hey all- we did this podcast as socially distant as possible, which means we were on three separate phone lines. So there is a little lag on some of the audio which can make it sound out of sync. Hopefully it's not too bothersome, because there is some good info here! Sorry about that!) Jennifer Street, a Certified Clinical Trauma Professional, is back on the podcast for another episode on taking a trauma-informed approach to mental health during this pandemic. We discuss what we hope will be some helpful reminders for parents and new resources as well. The trends across the country have shown indicators that people are becoming stressed and overwhelmed.  For this reason, as a caregiver, you have to take care of your needs first,  before you can be helpful to your children. Change your own expectations of your daily goals. See where your "pain points" are in your daily routine, and consider whether there is a different way to approach that time of day.   Give yourself permission to be "off" and do something fun. Nature is grounding and can help center you. Find time to take a walk outside, sit in the grass or even bring a meal or snack outdoors. Your child might be in psychological distress if he or she is acting irritable, unable to sit still or focus, or generally not acting like themselves. (Check in with your pediatrician if you're concerned.) Create space for children to share their feelings with a chart of different colored hearts, for example. Practice the application of coping skills (for instance, yoga or breath work) when your children aren't upset, so they can return to it when they are in need of regulation. Practicing it while they are calm is the key. Model the behavior of healthy coping skills. Talk to children without using shame or guilt to avoid pushing them away.   Communication cards to change communication: Teach for Love Remember that children are not little adults.  Connect, get on their eye-level and offer to help them do something, rather than asking or telling them to do something multiple times. When giving choices, make both acceptable outcomes for you. Woe, No Fun book Better Health -online counseling Faithful Counseling -online counseling

    42 min
  4. Coronavirus Pandemic and Children - Special Guest Jennifer Street

    05/07/2020

    Coronavirus Pandemic and Children - Special Guest Jennifer Street

    Children around the country are feeling the effects of the coronavirus quarantine. If your child is experiencing anxiety, grief, confusion over closings or frustration with their changing world, you’re not alone! Behavioral regression in children is a trauma response. Our guest is Jennifer Street who is a Certified Clinical Trauma Professional who specializes in trauma work to find the best ways we as parents can help children navigate these troubling times. (This is part one of what will be at least a two-part series on mental health. We- Carrie and Karyn- are not doctors, or mental health experts! But we felt a need to start a conversation about this.) Here are some takeaways from our discussion: ~Structure creates safety for children, and children require that - especially now.  ~Parenting is now completely different, whether you're working while at home, going into work as an essential worker (or easing back into it as the orders are lifted) or a stay at home parent. Be easy on yourself. Don't measure your current daily accomplishments to your former level of efficiency, or anyone else's.  ~Learning to regulate your own emotions as a parent is the first place to start so that you can teach your children to do the same.  ~Boundaries are crucial for working parents: Set up a workspace away from your children, if possible. Take shifts if you're able with a spouse or partner. Also, shift mentally into work/play mode during the day. ~Create a demobilizing ritual so you can shift from work to parenting duties: Three steps: Reflect, rest, reset. Set an intention for how you will show up to achieve quality time at your job and with your family. ~Have a daily routine and schedule of certain things that happen at certain times, even if it's not down to the hour.  ~Give kids choices and autonomy by allowing them to "shop" in your pantry with play money.  ~Brain breaks during the day help children focus on school work and helps break up the day. Cosmic Kids Yoga  ~Positive Parenting Solutions- web-based parenting online course: Attention bucket and Power bucket.  ~Generation Mindful - emotional regulation tools. Choose a time-in rather than a time-out to avoid power struggles. Create a Calming Corner, a time-in spot to go to process big feelings.   ~How We Love : Trauma-based book to figure out your love language.  ~Empowered to Connect : Great free resources on topics such as parenting aggressive behavior, managing stress and even fun topics like finding out your play personality (I found this especially interesting!). ~Big Life Journal : helps kids draw and write about their feelings ~Beyond Consequences

    41 min

  5. 05/23/2019

    Episode 27: Amy Williams / Custom Made Kid

    Amy Williams is the author of a beautiful children's book about adoption, called "Custom Made Kid." She and her husband have three daughters and live in Birmingham, Alabama. She shares her story with us about her very own custom made kid, who came to her family by way of adoption. If you've ever been frustrated by the waiting game of adoption or the cruelty of infertility, Amy's example is comforting and inspiring. You will appreciate her honesty when it comes to talking adoption, motherhood and God's divine timing in all things!

    49 min

  6. 05/08/2019

    Episode 26: Pregnancy Through Embryo Adoption

    There are so many ways to have a family, and embryo adoption is a path to parenthood that may not even be on your radar! We didn't know much about it either, so we found someone who does answer all our questions: Is it IVF? Adoption? A combination? Our guest, Leigh, shares her story of growing her family this way after several failed fertility treatments. Why she and her husband chose to adopt an embryo- and what that even means- will have you considering the many advantages for all involved. For more information on embryo adoption and how it works, check out Nightlight and click on Snowflake Embryo Adoptions.

    44 min
  7. Episode 25: Kelly Zarle: Foster Advocate and Chapter Head for Foster Florida

    04/24/2019

    Episode 25: Kelly Zarle: Foster Advocate and Chapter Head for Foster Florida

    Sometimes you meet someone who inspires you and amazes you with their spirit and drive. Our guest Kelly Zarle is one of those people! She fired up to help foster children in the state of Florida, and determined to raise awareness of the need for more foster families.   Kelly and her husband Aaron have three children, and are currently foster parents to two babies: a one-and-a-half year old and a newborn. They began their foster care journey a few years ago not knowing where exactly it would lead them. As she says, she just kept saying "yes" and her attitude has made a tremendous impact on many lives.  Kelly is also currently the local Chapter Advocate of a group called Foster Florida, a group that organizes volunteers to help foster families by providing babysitting, meals and prayer. If you would like to find out how to volunteer your time to help one of the families in your community, click here.  After hearing this podcast interview with Kelly, we guarantee it will motivate you as well.

    39 min
  8. Episode 24: Barbara Allen Part 2 Adopting from Korea

    04/11/2019

    Episode 24: Barbara Allen Part 2 Adopting from Korea

    In our last episode with Barbara from February 2019, we ended with their family waiting on final approval to go to Korea and meet their little girl!  In this episode we talk all about the journey that unfolded since then and how it all went down!

    34 min
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Real talk on adoption, foster care and this journey we call parenting. We (Carrie and Karyn:-) are both adoptive parents and have a deep passion for sharing both our stories and many other stories of adoptees, foster parents, and resources out there to help people along their journey. You can also find us on Facebook and Instagram @adoptiontoday we would love to hear from you!

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  • Creator
    Carrie Wildes and Karyn Lear
  • Years Active
    2018 - 2021
  • Episodes
    31
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © Carrie Wildes and Karyn Lear

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