ALIVE with Tenji

Tenji Moyana

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ALIVE with Tenji

Life is a lot! I'm constantly growing, learning and maturing in my understanding of what it means to be alive and how to apply my lessons to have an easier, more fulfilling life. I'm Tenji Moyana :) Alive is a casual blog-style podcast where I'm sharing what I'm learning about what it means to be alive and make the most of our existence. If you're into leadership, I also host the Abundant Leaders Podcast.

12/19/2024

35. Codependency 2: Breaking unhealthy dating patterns & emotional avoidance

In today’s conversation I share the culmination of 5 years of discovering and beginning to overcome my unconscious emotional avoidance one failed relationship at a time. I explore the origins of emotional avoidance, including parentification, unhealed childhood wounds, good-girl conditioning and attachment styles. I discuss unravelling repeating dating patterns and mistakes, deciding enough was enough, and finally becoming willing to be seen and loved as an imperfect woman with healthy needs worth meeting and not as the impervious Florence Nightingale one-dimensional archetype that I people-pleased and parentified myself into in order to avoid punishment and rejection. Phew, that was a long-ass sentence! Let’s dive in. P.S. After recording this episode, I woke up at 2am compelled to research codependency and realised it encapsulates everything I was talking about in this episode! It also explains the relational fallout I discussed in the previous episode. Here’s an awesome article you can read to learn more about codependency. Themes: Childhood trauma, attachment styles, breaking unhealthy dating patterns, emotional avoidance, relational healing

56 min
12/19/2024

34. Codependency 1: Navigating conflict and platonic relationship endings

A little update on my life turned into a reflection on recent platonic relationship endings that have rocked my world and made my world the last few months. I achieved something I never would have been able to had I not stood for myself and found my voice in some of my closest relationships. But it took time for things to unwind and for me to accept the relationships had to end, so of course they were ripped out of my bloody hands when I finally reached my limit and said No. It’s ok for things to take time and we must allow our process to unwind in its own way without judgement. I also explore how my Human Design explains my conflict resolution style and has helped me to find deeper self-acceptance and work with my style to get aligned outcomes. It will also show you where you can look in your chart for yours. PS. After recording this episode, I woke up at 2am compelled to research codependency and realised it encapsulates much of what I was talking about in this episode! It also explains the romantic relationship lessons I discuss in the next episode. Here’s an awesome article you can read to learn more about codependency. Themes: Conflict resolution, relationship endings, human design

51 min
11/24/2024

33. Clawing your way back to joy after an impossible loss

How do you move on from the loss you never thought you could survive? How do you make sense of it? When your very foundation is obliterated, how do you find new ground? How do you believe that love is safe and become willing to let joy in again when it feels like it is that very love that caused you so much pain? Not having the answers to these questions and the fear that extreme loss will destroy us makes us try to avoid grief at all costs or bypass it by trying to process it as fast as possible. But this only keeps us small and blocks us from learning what it’s here to teach us and arriving at its greatest gift – pure love and expansive joy. Join me as I share my journey through the most devastating 4 years of my life (loss of my long term health, my father, 3 extremely close relationships from childhood, my career, financial security and my ability to work) and the lessons that led me, miraculously, to the other side. ** Here’s a link to an image of the Star Ancestor card by Kyle Gray that I share in the card reading at the end of the episode. Themes: Grief, death of a loved one, chronic illness, relationship endings, surrender, trust, abundance, clawing your way back after loss ** PS: As a spirit gift to you all I’m giving away a free 75-minute oracle card reading to 5 people. This is an amazing way to get guidance from your guides, learn 2024’s lessons, or call in something you are trying to manifest. DM me on IG or send me an email on www.tenjimoyana.com/book **

1h 11m
11/23/2024

32. Oracle cards aren’t evil! Here’s how to use them for clear guidance, support and inspiration

Say it with me: Oracle cards and tarot are not evil. Lol! For real though, when I was a Christian and for a long time after, I was convinced they were a tool of the Devil used to derail and cast spells of misfortune over my life! It was terrifying. I have since learned through research and my own experience that they are not – they are merely a tool for receiving guidance and wisdom from whatever deity/greater force you believe in. They are powered by the intention and energetic frequency of the user and will support and empower whatever they believe in. Plus, if you actually work with them, you see that most of them carry wonderfully high vibrational energy and card descriptions. If you’re feeling drawn to this tool, this episode is a powerhouse of information on: my story, how cards have helped me, how you can bring them into your practice, how to find and bond with your first deck, how to give yourself your first reading, example questions you can ask, how to interpret your cards and some pitfalls to avoid (e.g., predictions and manipulating others). Let’s dive in! ** PS: As a spirit gift to y’all I’m giving away a free 75-minute oracle card reading to 5 people. DM me on IG or send me an email on www.tenjimoyana.com/book ** Themes: Oracle cards, tarot, spiritual practice, spiritual tools, trusting intuition, spirit guides, self-stewardship

1h 20m
11/22/2024

31. Trusting life: What happened when I decided life loves me

Do you believe you live in a hostile universe or a benevolent one? Trusting life is so hard when you’ve experienced a lot of loss, pain, insecurity and disappointment. But I’ve discovered that repairing our life wound is essential in our spiritual and personal development journeys if we are to become who our souls came here to become, or if we finally want to experience peace and a holding, sense of security and aliveness unlike any we have ever known. The unexpected thing I’ve also learned as a result is that when we finally trust life, life trusts us back and it’s so beautiful. Stay tuned to the end for an unexpected channelled message to you from life ✨❤️ Themes: Trust, letting go, trauma, the spiritual path, past lives, personal development ** PS: I’m soft launching 75-minute oracle card readings. I’ve been doing them for friends for years and I feel led to offer them more widely. They’re at a very low fee right now and you can book one by DM’ing me on IG or sending me an email at www.tenjimoyana.com/book **

1h 9m
10/11/2024

30. It’s time to learn how to be happy

Guys, I’m a hun who has experienced a lot of pain in life. Death, sorrow, suicidality. Heartbreak, burnout, bullying as a teen. Chronic illness, financial loss, loss of purpose. SO many things. And it all made me generally run sad, pessimistic, and anxious. But I’ve done A LOT of healing work on myself and I feel capable of facing anything life throws my way. I feel secure in my heart and spirit. I feel big and expansive and open and trusting of life and the love I have found in my life. I think it’s time to let go of running sad and wearing my survival on the surface of my skin, and time to run happy and optimistic, or at the very least temperate. When you’ve been sad for most of your life, you have to deliberately choose and teach yourself how to be happy. I’m ready to start 😊. For anyone who’s also had tough times in life, this one is for you xx Themes: Complex PTSD, trauma, depression, healing, letting go, emotional regulation, nervous system regulation, mindset management

59 min
10/11/2024

29. What do you do when you’ve built the wrong life?

So, what do you do when you’ve built the wrong life? So much happens to us in life that changes who we are – we heal our hearts and past trauma, our values change, we settle into more of ourselves – truer versions of ourselves, we grow up, life happens to us and changes our priorities, and suddenly the life we built, that was once perfect, just no longer serves us anymore. And we suddenly feel stuck in a life – a career, job, lifestyle, friendships, a neighbourhood, financial obligations, a religion, a relationship, etc – that just doesn’t fit anymore. I have found myself here – 20 years since I left my parents’ house and started building a life of my own, and so much of it no longer feels right. How do we unstack and rebuild lives that feel truer to us, look more like who we’ve become and integrate the new parts of ourselves (without throwing away the good parts) so that we can feel free, abundant, and right again? Themes: career pivots, people-pleasing, parental expectations, balancing masculine and feminine energy, survival-mode, chronic illness, human design, purpose, self-acceptance

55 min
07/14/2024

28. Letting go: Forgiving ourselves, others, and life for not being perfect

I’ve had to learn to let go of the illusion of perfection that I spent my whole life chasing. Forgiving myself for not always getting it right and not being amazing. Forgiving life for not being amazing to me and what I always dreamed it would be. And forgiving other people for just being human and colliding into me in ways that really hurt me. We’re all doing our best and life is what it is. I just want to be more loving towards myself and people by not holding us to an impossible bar that we’ll never meet. We find more peace and room for connection when we can approach ourselves and others with this level of empathy and acceptance. Also, introducing rapid fire questions! In the style of the Abundant Leaders with Tenji Moyana Podcast, I’ve brought these fun questions across to ALIVE to help you get to know me better and maybe you can answer these questions yourself and get to know yourself better 😊. Plus I’d love to hear your answers to the rapid fire questions 😊 comment your answer below in the Instagram or Spotify comments: 1. What superpower do you wish you had? 2. What was your favourite escape as a child? Catch you next time 😊 P.S. Do you want to join me for an easy chat on the pod to discuss anything on your mind and or a topic I’ve covered? DM me on Instagram @tenjiwe Themes: Self-acceptance, forgiveness, realistic expectations, empathy, self-love, relationships

58 min

Life is a lot! I'm constantly growing, learning and maturing in my understanding of what it means to be alive and how to apply my lessons to have an easier, more fulfilling life. I'm Tenji Moyana :) Alive is a casual blog-style podcast where I'm sharing what I'm learning about what it means to be alive and make the most of our existence. If you're into leadership, I also host the Abundant Leaders Podcast.

Creator

Tenji Moyana
Years Active

2023 - 2024
Episodes

35
Rating

Explicit
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© Tenji Moyana
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