Ambiguous Parenting

I am sure you all will agree with me when I say that parenthood is not easy.  We all face many situations of uncertainty and ambiguity and through it all we want to do the best for our children so that they may grow and have a bright future. In this episode my guest Trina Casey shares the current situation of uncertainty and ambiguity she is facing with her divorce and navigating what it means to be a parent to a child during this process.

Trina is an EQ coach, a certified cognitive behavioral therapy coach and family trauma professional. Trina teaches emotional intelligence through several avenues which are children’s books and she also teaches a class called mindful storytellers where she walks people through the process of writing a book in a collaborative way.

Join me and listen to Trina as she shares her experiences facing ambiguity and uncertainty and how she navigates parenthood through it all.

Key Highlights:

·  (01:16 -14:13) 

·  Her choice to give her son life experiences, through travel and education, through travel so that he can gain life experiences outside of America. chosen.

·  “I almost choose ambiguity because there’s only one constant in life and that's change and because I kind of thrive off of different experiences”.

·  The current situation of ambiguity and uncertainty she is currently facing with her divorce and how she navigates parenthood.

·  (14:38- 20:47) What it’s like engaging in spaces of ambiguity with a child that still needs to be cared for and be protected.

·  Accepting that children go through changes, so your parenting style and your approach has to change.

·  Allowing your child to explore and to fall down and how she navigates this process of letting go and allowing her child to learn from the experience.

·  (21:04 – 25:18) Trina’s advice for a parent or guardian seeking to understand how to better create balance in allowing their child the freedom to fall.

·  Looking at what the circumstances are and measuring the long- term harm with the short term when you decide to give your child the freedom to fall and apologize when you missed the mark.

(25:18 – 29:27) Wrapping Up!

·  Take the external with the internal and understand the motives of the external. Once you understand the motivation you will know how to navigate better in life.

Key quotes

“There's a freedom because ambiguity gives you the license or the permission to experiment with your life.” Trina

” We all grew up with our own traumas, and I always say that we're all just children walking around in adult suits, pretending we have it all figured out while we spread our trauma to everyone we meet, especially our children”

“Give your child the freedom to fall so that they can learn to get up because we are going to fail in life and we're gonna have to get back up.”

“The hard part about relationships is that we start to lose ourselves, or we start to measure ourselves against the other person's wills, wishes, wants, needs, and desires, and then we lose our who we are and that creates ambiguity.”

Let’s connect

You can connect with our guest, Trina Casey on Instagram @this_is_real_life_books. Listen to her

Podcast: EQ above IQ, parenting with emotional intelligence and healing the inner child.

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