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Raising kids can be a bumpy, stressful, and uncertain process – which is why Dr. Lisa Damour is here to help. The New York Times Adolescence columnist and author of bestsellers Untangled and Under Pressure brings her sane, informed, and practical perspective to your timely and timeless parenting questions. Cohost Reena Ninan, a world-class journalist who has covered the White House while packing a breast pump, makes sure to get you the answers you need.

Ask Lisa: The Psychology of Parenting Dr. Lisa Damour/Good Trouble Productions

    • Kids & Family
    • 4.8 • 260 Ratings

Raising kids can be a bumpy, stressful, and uncertain process – which is why Dr. Lisa Damour is here to help. The New York Times Adolescence columnist and author of bestsellers Untangled and Under Pressure brings her sane, informed, and practical perspective to your timely and timeless parenting questions. Cohost Reena Ninan, a world-class journalist who has covered the White House while packing a breast pump, makes sure to get you the answers you need.

    43: What Should My Kids Do This Summer?

    43: What Should My Kids Do This Summer?

    Should we be pushing children and teens to make up for lost learning this summer? Or should we let them call the shots on how they spend their time? What really matters most? Dr. Lisa has advice that might seem counterintuitive for parents who feel ready to charge ahead. A mom writes in asking for advice on how to think about summer schedules for her three kids. Reena seeks guidance on managing social media and video games once school lets out. Dr. Lisa and Reena talk about what families should focus on when making summer plans. In this final episode of the season, Lisa and Reena also explain how to stay connected with the podcast this summer. Season Two starts August 24th.

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    Dr. Lisa’s Summer Resource List

    100 Summer Fun Ideas for Kids and Parents

    100+ Things for Teens to Do This Summer

    Lisa Damour's 6.1.21 New York Times column Why Teens Need a Break This Summer

    Email us your questions or topics you would like us to cover to asklisa@drlisadamour.com.

    • 31 min
    42: How Do I Talk to My Child About Racism? With Special Guest: Emmanuel Acho

    42: How Do I Talk to My Child About Racism? With Special Guest: Emmanuel Acho

    Lisa and Reena are joined by guest Emmanuel Acho, former NFL linebacker, current FoxSports analyst, host of the YouTube hit "Uncomfortable Conversations With a Black Man," and author of a book by the same name. Most recently, Emmanuel wrote the instant #1 New York Times Bestseller "Uncomfortable Conversations With a Black Boy." In a discussion both wide-ranging and deep, Emmanuel tackles how to talk with our kids about the n-word, what we can do to address systemic racism and prejudice, and what it really means for parents and their children to act as allies.

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    • 33 min
    41: How Do I Help My Kid Find Friends Again?

    41: How Do I Help My Kid Find Friends Again?

    The pandemic has disrupted our kids' social lives. What can parents do to help a child make new friends if they've withdrawn from their peers? How do we help kids who are reluctant to reach out, or who rub their classmates the wrong way? A mom emails about her twelve and a half-year-old daughter who was once an extrovert and now is not. Dr. Lisa explains the five categories that have been identified by research to describe kids' social profiles, and how knowing these categories helps us give children the right kind of support. Should parents try to engineer friendships? Lisa has a strong opinion on this topic while Reena asks how we can help kids find secure friendships as we emerge from Covid-19.

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    The Science of Making Friends: Helping Socially Challenged Teens and Young Adults; By Elizabeth A. Laugeson, Psy.D.

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    • 29 min
    40: My Kid’s Room Is a Hot Mess. What Should I Do?

    40: My Kid’s Room Is a Hot Mess. What Should I Do?

    Should you be concerned if your child has a messy, disorganized room? A mom emails asking for advice on how to handle a kid's room that feels out of control. Dr. Lisa introduces us to the term executive functioning, the mental processes that help with managing oneself and one's possessions. Reena asks if being disorganized as a child can lead to problems down the line. Lisa offers guidance on when it's time to step in and how to help your children organize themselves and their things.

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    Enter to win a copy of How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish.

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    • 25 min
    39: How Do I Get My Kids to Stop Fighting?

    39: How Do I Get My Kids to Stop Fighting?

    After more than a year of being stuck at home in a pandemic, it’s no surprise siblings are getting on each other's nerves. Should parents step in - or step back - when kids start fighting? Dr. Lisa tackles this question and also explains how parents' approach to conflict can influence how kids fight with their siblings. Reena asks how parents can keep their cool when heads are getting hot, and whether kids can really learn to manage their own conflicts. Dr. Lisa describes strategies that work having seen them in action during a unique summer job.

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    Send us your questions for our upcoming podcast on talking to kids about race with author Emmanuel Acho. Send questions to asklisa@drlisadamour.com.

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    • 29 min
    38: How Do I Teach My Kids About Consent?

    38: How Do I Teach My Kids About Consent?

    Talking to kids about their love lives can be uncomfortable, but discussing consent is one of the most important conversations to have with our children. Dr. Lisa explains why she feels that when we focus on consent, we are articulating the lowest possible bar for acceptable physical intimacy. She offers thoughts on how we might rethink and reframe the entire topic in order to be most helpful to our children. Reena asks: Can we change our collective mindset on consent? And how do you explain coercion and consent to children? The conversation includes a look at how pornography factors into teenagers' understanding of consensual relationships.

    BOOK GIVEAWAY:

    One copy each of Girls & Sex and Boys & Sex by Peggy Orenstein

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    OTHER RESOURCES:

    Lisa's articles from the NYT:
    Talking With Both Daughters and Sons About Sex (1/11/17)
    Getting ‘Consent’ for Sex Is Too Low a Bar (7/18/18)
    Why Teenagers Mix Drinking and Sex (11/14/18)

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I so look forward to Tuesday mornings where I get my Dr Lisa fix! This is the first podcast review I have ever left, and I work in the podcast industry! This podcast speaks to me and where we currently are with our 11 and 13 year old. She offers such practical advice and wonderful perspective on issues facing kids today; both pandemic and non-pandemic. Any chance she can come live with me and coach me through parenting!

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