Ask Uncut - Racoons or Architects, Boy's Trips, Cutting Ties & Empty Wishing Wells

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Are you the partner who packs the dishwasher like a Scandinavian architect or a racoon on meth? The dishwasher is causing some problems in households but maybe we are a bit guilty of weaponised incompetence too!
Britt is heading over to Romania tonight and Laura is hosting the Christmas Carols in Surfer's Paradise this weekend! Carols details here

Vibes for the week:
Britt Storyworth book 
Keeshia Netflix Our Little Secret 
Laura Netflix Killer Sally and Jumbled diaries

Then we get into your questions!

HUSBAND GOES ON LOTS OF BOYS TRIPS AND I'M RESENTFUL
My husband is part of a boys punting club where they put in $20 every week and then use the pool of money to go on an annual boys weekend away. He also has an annual interstate golf trip with a different group of dads. Both these trips are expensive and mean that I am left home with our 3 kids under 4. Am I right to feel resentful that he has these boys trips or are my expectations too high that he should give them up during this stage of life? All my friends are mums to young kids/babies so it’s a lot harder to organise a girls trip and I’d feel guilty to leave the kids for a few nights. Also I would rather spend the time and money on a family holiday or a trip with my husband. My dad never had boys trips, is this just the new normal for our generation?

PARTNER COMPLAINS ABOUT MY TOILET SKIDDIES
Bit of a gross one but I’m wondering if I’m in the wrong here my partner constantly complains that I leave skid marks in the toilet. I’m not going out of my way to leave them there but we have a VERY clingy one year old so going to the toilet in itself is a bit of a challenge at the moment, let alone scrubbing the toilet when I’m done. My partner gets genuinely upset about it and has even gone so far as to call me 'an animal' because of it. Again, I’m not going out of my way to do this and when he brings it up (it comes up a lot), my response is, “it’s a fucking toilet”. Like that’s where the shit is meant to go, right?! Is it really that bad if I leave the odd skid mark on the toilet bowl? 

BROKEN UP BUT CAN’T CUT TIES AND STILL HANGING OUT
My partner and I split up 3 weeks ago. We dated for 5 1/2 years and had a house, a dog and a cat. It was a mutual breakup and it really came down to wanting different things and a lack of communication. Closer to the end we got quite distant which helped me come to terms with making the decision. After we broke up we started spending time together and talking through things and like we’re dating again. We know we have to cut ties but we’re just enjoying each others company. What do I do? How do I just leave? I’ve moved back with my parents but I’m spending a lot of time at his house now (my old house) I just can’t break ties and he isn’t the one to call it.

NO CARD IN WISHING WELL. CAN I BRING THIS UP?
We got married about a month ago. Like most weddings we had a wishing well for cards and well wishes. After opening all the cards we noticed there was no card from a couple that attended the wedding (reception and ceremony). Whilst we do not expect a monetary gift we’re a bit taken aback by there not even being a card. It seems somewhat out of character for the couple so we’re wondering if had somehow gone missing. Is there any polite way of bringing this up with the couple or do we just leave it to avoid any awkwardness? I just can not fathom ever attending a wedding and not bringing a card let alone gift.

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