Midnight Esbat Vella Mour

Honestly, you're probably already using tarot as self-care​.

Using tarot in its most basic & modern purpose — drawing cards or spreads to find deeper meaning, connecting to intuition, or decoding spiritual messages — already exists as forms of self-care. All of this already counts because, usually, tarot is meant to help answer questions, solve problems, and uncover hidden secrets in our inner thoughts. And that is self-care, even if you didn't know it. ;)

But, there are ways to develop intentional techniques to use in your tarot practice to progress your sacred self-care journey.

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You have a Great Work, and it is calling to you.​

I believe that every human on Earth has a lifelong mission to complete. A gift to give the world. A Great Work, which is a phrase stolen from Deborah Castellano's book, Glamour Magick.

Great Work // That which I'm meant to offer the world. That gift I am meant to give away. How I help the world heal and grow.

Your Great Work is an ever evolving mission that you are on throughout our life. Sometimes it seems very mundane and specific: My Great Work is to become a nurse and help people. And other times, it's very vague and even seems unachievable: I will heal people's soul with my touch. But as your Great Work ebbs in and out of tangible action and flowery words, it is still there, underneath it all. I believe it is a direct response to your karmic, inner wound. The wound that cannot be healed. The wound that your Chiron sign represents and holds space for. 

Keep reading → https://vellamour.com/uncovering-your-great-work/

Are you ready to deepen your practice?​
Diving into the darkness of one's soul is some of the most complicated and integral parts of spirituality. Where you can meet the closeted shadow, the inner child, the suppressed dreamer, and the wild animal. All who lurk under the surface. Where suddenly, you're doing more than just battling and holding off demons. You're befriending and forgiving them. You're extending a hand to all the bits and pieces of yourself that have been forgotten, stifled, or protected. It's the process of unleashing the truth within you in favor of freedom and accessing the inner power that comes with being human by nature.
Continue Reading: https://vellamour.com/shadow-work-how-to-2/
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Taking time for ourselves during quarantine and social isolation.
COVID-19 is not easy to navigate right now
. I live in the United States, and the Center for Disease Control here has urged the country's citizens to isolate themselves in self-quarantine or to practice social distancing when we have no choice but to step out into the public. This, along with hand washing, keeping personal items sanitary, and avoiding touching the face have been really the only unanimous guidelines to follow during this pandemic. And yes, it is a pandemic.
Not only is the premise of social distancing and altogether isolation pretty daunting (except for us introverts, amirite?), but watching our current capitalistic system breakdown, our government show their true allegiance, and companies decide the fate of their employees also incredibly scary to witness.
But even in these dark times, it's important to practice regular and meaningful self-care. I break down an easy beauty ritual you can do to help you relax and release some tension in these trying times.
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Trigger Warning: We talk about mental health in this episode. I mention unhealthy behaviors based on bad shadow work or a lack of shadow work. I talk explicitly about depression and eating disorders. But if you are sensitive to suicide, self-harm, disordered eating, addiction, or other issues at all, please take care when encountering this episode.  
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Resources: It’s important to do shadow work to deepen your spiritual practice, but sometimes you just need straight up therapy. These resources are focused within the United States by the way, and most likely will need to be paid for via health insurance and out of pocket.  If you are experiencing crisis  (life-threatening emergency, in danger of hurting yourself or others, feeling suicidal, or even just overwhelmed), you need to get professional level help immediately over doing shadow work. Consider these options:  
- Go to the emergency room or call 911.
- Call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255 (TTY: 1-800-799-4TTY) or chat with someone online: www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org 
If you are not in a crisis, but do need professional help, consider these options:  
- Logging into your healthcare provider’s portal to see which therapists, psychiatrists, or counselors are available in your network. You also can see who has sliding scale pricing to help find someone you can afford. (P.S. Psychiatrists diagnose disorders/illness and prescribe medicine. Therapists/counselors don’t always have those capabilities, and usually have regular appointments to help you work through your demons with various forms of therapy. I personally prefer therapists/counselors over psychiatrists.)
- Signing up for a website like Talkspace.
- Setting an appointment with your general doctor to talk about your options for medication, out-patient or in-patient care, rehab, or just therapy. They can refer you to other doctors or programs.
- Looking at your local library, mental health facility, rec center, doctor’s office, etc for free group options like AA or others. 
You are very brave for considering and reaching out for professional help. You are worthy of being healed. You are wanted on this planet. Your existence is needed. Thank you for reaching out to professionals.
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"How do I stop being so lovey-dovey?" 
A few days ago a friend of mine, Alice, asked me how she could stop being so lovey-dovey. When I asked her what she meant, this is what she said:  
“Valentine’s Day is coming up. I love Valentine’s Day, but since this year I’m going to be alone, I don’t know how to channel my lovey-dovey energy. I don’t want to be sad for the holiday, so how do I stop being so lovey-dovey?”
So, I told her that instead of rejecting her natural “lovey-dovey” feelings, she should channel that energy and put it back inward to herself. But of course to that she asked me: “How?”
Continue Reading: https://vellamour.com/self-love-valentines-day-2020/
Sorry for the crappy editing. I just edited out my coughs and then BAM I posted it. xD

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