Between Us & Y’all: Conversations between a Mama & her young adult son.

Jaasmeen Hamed
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Between Us & Y’all: Conversations between a Mama & her young adult son.

Communication between Mamas and their young adult sons can be a challenge, but it doesn't have to be. Join Jaasmeen Hamed and her son Nafees Hassan, a favorite in the Mama son duo crew every Monday and Friday where good conversation takes place and tools to improve the mother-son bond are shared. If you are a mother of a young man between the ages 13-26 in search of; conversation topics that are both culturally and socially relevant, tools to break the ice on sensitive subjects, or have an interest in connecting with other mother-son duos in need of convo tips, then this podcast is for you.

  1. Episode 23: International & Interracial Relations: Maintaining your identity.

    09/04/2020

    Episode 23: International & Interracial Relations: Maintaining your identity.

    Happy Friday BU&Y Family! Episode 23 of the Between Us & Y’all Podcast is available for your listening pleasure. This is our FINAL EPISODE for Season 1!! This has been such an awesome journey. Nafees & I have learned so much from all of our guests and look forward to what’s to come in future Seasons. We thank you for your support, for listening in, and for being a part of our BU&Y family. We appreciate you! In this final episode, we are joined by one of our favorite Mama/son duos and dear friends Mama Adero & her son Nadir. We have been friends with them for close to ten years, with Nadir being one of Nafees’ first best friends, so it is only appropriate that we end Season 1 with this type of friend & guest just as our first guests to the podcast were also of this same friend type. Mama Adero ‘Nas’ as we affectionately call Nadir has always been an amazing resource to Nafees and I and so many others and we are grateful for having them in our lives. We learned so much from them in this episode as we discussed the topic of International & Interacial Relations, focusing on Maintaining your identity. As families of African centered, religious, and any other tight-knit community type within communities of African descent, we want to create space for our young people who come from these backgrounds and who need to be prepared to enter general society at some point. We want to arm our young people with the tools to communicate, do business, etc. with people who don’t look and think like them while also teaching them how to maintain their unique identities during those processes. Sometimes this process may involve a conversation about topics that are not comfortable for certain families who are not in favor of interracial or even international relationships/friendships of the same race or community type. Although it may be uncomfortable, creating space for this type of dialogue will allow our families to work through differences before they become things that cause communication blockages or other breakdowns in our family structures. When our young people are able to function successfully on the foundations set at home in the larger society, it is then that we can learn about the lessons we have instilled in them. -------------------------------------------------------------------------- It was awesome to hear Nafees & Nas dialogue on their experiences of entering into community & educational spaces that were drastically different from what they were used to and how they endured. It was also encouraging to learn how Mama Adero has supported Nas in this new path in life and how that process was very similar to my own. -------------------------------------------------------------------------- We give thanks for everything shared with us and our listeners on the topic and hope you will too.  About our guests: Mother, wife, Virtual Assistant at Kilombo Rising Senior Prescott College (Regenerative Ecological Design major), Musician Business advertised: Nzuri Drummers: thenzuridrummers.com On IG @nzuridrummers Shirts advertised in this episode:  Nzuri drummers Mama Shirt Family motto: “If you get, give, if you learn, teach.”-Maya Angelou

    1h 12m
  2. Ep: 22: Social Media: What is my brand? (image) & Making the best of social media.

    09/01/2020

    Ep: 22: Social Media: What is my brand? (image) & Making the best of social media.

    In this episode, we are joined by my beautiful and dear friend Mama Ayo & her dynamic daughter Noni. Mama Ayo is a community Mama who has assisted in both raising & educating so many children, including Nafees. Her example as a mother & friend is one that I’ve worked to model after, and am grateful for. Noni is amazing in so many ways, and we are so grateful for having her on the podcast as our second young adult female voice. We are discussing the topic of Social Media, focusing specifically on understanding your brand/image being virtually created, and how to make the best of one’s presence on any social media platform. ---------------------------------------------------------------------------- As parents, social media is something that we saw being created and evolved into a world of its own. It changed the way we communicate, how we do business and so many other aspects of life. We have made the changes necessary to create our own social media presence, but taking the time to understand this process for our young people whose lives have always included social media is very much necessary. Whether we are opening a dialogue about social media safety or what types of images/virtual brands we are all aiming to create, having an open mind and intentional space for this conversation in our family discussions can be an eye-opener in many ways. As Mama Ayo stated, “Social media branding is almost like a performance and it shows who we really are.” Understanding your young person’s social media brand, and allowing them to understand yours can really help our families understand who we are in the virtual and real world. ---------------------------------------------------------------------------- We give thanks for everything shared with us and our listeners on the topic and hope you will too. Listen to the full episode here: https://anchor.fm/betweenusandyall ---------------------------------------------------------------------------- About our guests: Ayo Nkita Mayala: Mother, wife, educator. Noni: Daughter & rising sophomore at Spelman College. Business highlighted Adinkra styles: Clothing line: IG @adinkrastyles (Shirts in episode: Sankofa t-shirts) Family motto: “Simba Simbe. Hold up that which holds you up.”

    51 min
  3. Ep: 21: Unbiased Topics: Appearance/Presentation & Work Ethic

    08/28/2020

    Ep: 21: Unbiased Topics: Appearance/Presentation & Work Ethic

    Happy Friday BU&Y Family! Episode 21 of the Between Us & Y’all Podcast is available for your listening pleasure. We are down to the first of our last three episodes in Season 1 !! In this episode, we are joined by a creative & powerful Mama son duo, Myriam Dondzina & her son Azariah Richardson. We are discussing the topic of Unbiased Topics, focusing on Appearance/Presentation & Work Ethic.  ---------------------------------------------------------------------------- As parents, many of us are sticklers of how all of our family members present ourselves to the public. Many of us believe that every member of the family is a representative, and with that we want every representation to be a good one. Some of us really take the saying, “Cut from the same cloth” to heart. We want our family members to match our clothing and character inside and out. This can all be very overwhelming and confusing for our young people when we don’t create space for open dialogue about the process. We also have to consider that our young people are seeking to be unique and nonconforming to societal norms. They want to stand out and make a statement that presents something new. Learning the intentions behind their style choices can start with fair and honest conversations void of judgment or negativity. ---------------------------------------------------------------------------- This conversation was so impactful. Nafees and I had a chance to explain our views on being African centered Muslims presenting ourselves to our community. We loved learning how that was received and shared in terms of core values for Myriam and Azariah. They blessed us with examples of ‘radiating your best self with your appearance’ and how that may or may not be a thing when looking for a mate. We also discussed our family’s approach to work ethic and how we work together inside and outside the home. We learned so much, and loved the playful and insightful dialogue shared! We give thanks for everything shared with us and our listeners on the topic and hope you will too.  ---------------------------------------------------------------------------- About our guests: Myriam: Wife, Mother, Professional, & Martial Artist. Azariah: Rising College Freshman, dancer, and overall creative cool Brotha. Business highlighted: Org co-founded by Myriam: Capoeira Angola: Martial Arts group: FB Grupo Nzinga de Capoeira Angola / Atlanta Family motto: “Don’t procrastinate, Celebrate” & “There’s a thousand ways to get things done, so just do it.”

    49 min
  4. Ep: 20 Community Contribution: Daily life & the impact of parent expectations on contribution.

    08/24/2020

    Ep: 20 Community Contribution: Daily life & the impact of parent expectations on contribution.

    In this episode, we are joined by an amazing Mama son duo, Reshelle & Amir Abdul Malik.   We are discussing the topic of Community Contribution, focusing on how this contribution has an effect on daily life and the extent that the expectations of one’s parents play into what or how a young person contributes to their communities.  ---------------------------------------------------------------------------- This topic is one that is often either overlooked or presented without instructions or insight. Although we as parents may have a strong desire or life goal to offer some type of community contribution, assuming our young people want to contribute in the same manner is not only unfair, but it is unrealistic. Including some form of dialogue on how giving back to the community has impacted our lives individually and collectively as families is helpful. It also allows our family members to understand the dynamics and purpose of why we give back at all. ---------------------------------------------------------------------------- We learned so much from both Reshelle & Amir in this episode. Reshelle is both an entrepreneur and Educator who along with her husband Tariq have been giving back to the community through their nonprofit and in a variety of other ways. Amir spoke with confidence on how he understands what standards his parents have put in place for him and his siblings to live up to. He also shared how his parents have been very strong supporters of his personal ventures and were the first to purchase items needed to start his own business designing shoes. So we are proud to say that this family is modeling what community contribution looks like at home first! We give thanks for everything shared with us and our listeners on the topic and hope you will too.  ---------------------------------------------------------------------------- About our guests: Reshelle: Wife, Mother, Educator, & owner of Makkah Institute. Makkah Institute is a nonprofit organization that offers services in community development, health & wellness, and education. Some services offered include Summer camp, childcare, & college tours. Contact: www.makkahinstitute (dot org), Email: info@makkah, FB: makkah.institute IG: makkah_institute Amir: 11th-grade high school student, painter, wrestler, customized shoemaker, & digital artist. Find Amir’s artwork on IG: @amirs.shoe.lab Business highlighted: Shahidah’s Organic BlendsWomb teas: Loose leaf teas Family motto: “Work first, then play.”

    28 min
  5. Ep 19: Money Management Part 2: Investment Ideas & Monetizing Hobbies

    08/21/2020

    Ep 19: Money Management Part 2: Investment Ideas & Monetizing Hobbies

    Happy Friday  BU&Y Family!  In this episode, we are joined by the amazing Mama Jana Johnson Davis and her two powerful young men Kobi & Khari.  We are continuing the conversation on the topic of Money Management, focusing specifically on Investment Ideas & Monetizing Hobbies. In our last episode, we were discussing ways to save our money, how to budget it, and bank account management. Once we have those important factors in place, we can benefit greatly from exploring the topics of investing and monetizing hobbies. We are living in a time where a simple idea or hobby can easily turn into a very lucrative business. Being open to a conversation about these topics allows our families to not only support each other but to also develop what could be a means to financial freedom for generations to come. ---------------------------------------------------------------------------- We were very grateful for the insight shared by Mama Jana on how she and her husband Mawuli have been very intentional about allowing their son’s creativity and personal visions to have the freedom to thrive. Oftentimes, children of two very public and influential parents are not given this type of freedom and are expected to mirror the lives of their parents with no room for even the slightest desire for change. Both Kobi & Khari are entrepreneurs along with being students, and they spoke freely, confidently, and affectionately about what it feels like to have discussed their investment ideas with their families and friends then saw their hobbies turn into goals achieved with monetary gains. How dope is THAT?! The relationship between Jana and her young men reminded us so much of our relationship. You can tell that the young men love their parents so much and seem to have a soft spot for their Mama & a sweet spot for their Baba. You can also tell this family has done their homework on both investment ideas and monetizing hobbies. We give thanks for everything shared with us and our listeners on the topic and hope you will too. Listen to the full episode here: https://anchor.fm/betweenusandyall ---------------------------------------------------------------------------- About our guests: Jana Johnson Davis: Mom, Educator, City of schools of Decatur board, Internship Director for Davis Bozeman Law Firm. Koby Davis: Howard graduate in Marketing, future GA State Law student. Khari: Rising junior at Howard, Film. Businesses highlighted: Kobi: Powermoves Only Management (PMO) Music company: IG @pmomanagement,  Email: pmomgmt@gmail.com Khari: Hari Creates: IG @airhari_ @haricreates (clothing & film services) Family motto: “Do what you love and everything will come after that.” “Just do the work and everything will fall into place.) “The will to win is nothing without the will to prepare.)

    43 min
  6. Ep 18: Money Management Part 1: Budgeting vs Spending Bank Account Management.

    08/17/2020

    Ep 18: Money Management Part 1: Budgeting vs Spending Bank Account Management.

    Happy Monday  BU&Y Family! Episode 18 of the Between Us & Y’all Podcast is available for your listening pleasure. In this episode, we are joined by my Dope Virgo Mama & friend, Isylah Haynes, and two of her young men Kaysean and Najee’. We are opening a conversation on the topic of Money Management, focusing specifically on Budgeting vs Spending and Bank Account Management. This is a topic that we all have to give dedicated attention to both being educated on and learning a variety of ways to manage the details. Learning to save your money as well as methods of effective spending are skills that are necessary for any career choice or life path. Having open and honest conversations early on with our young people about these topics ensures that they are not uneducated about any aspects associated with their family's fiscal matters. ---------------------------------------------------------------------------- This conversation was really cool because the entire family is made up of entrepreneurs. Any entrepreneur will tell you that money management is one of the most important tools for the success of any business. Being uneducated about what happens or is happening to your money can mean either the growth or stagnation of your business. Mama Isylah shared so many tips on how she manages her businesses as well as how she models healthy saving practices with her party of five. It was powerful to hear from both young men as they shared their visions, current works, and overall purpose for choosing the entrepreneur career path. One day they may become fathers who will have very lucky families to be recipients of their investments and knowledge on the subject of money management. ---------------------------------------------------------------------------- We enjoyed this episode very much, and hope you will too.  ---------------------------------------------------------------------------- About our guests & businesses highlighted: Isylah Haynes: Mama of 5,  Photographer: Hardknock Mamas (Media company), specializes in prenatal portraits, professional chefs: Homegirls catering, Doula program: Gentle spirited doula services, Partner in: Quest Life: Custom masks, culturally inspired pieces. Find on Isylah Ife on IG. Kaysean: Authentic Kloth: @authentickloth (IG/Facebook) authentickloths@gmail.com Najee’: Music artist (conscious/soul), publisher, audio recorder: smoovejee Twitter: 1smoovejee, Music: Itunes: @smoovejee Motto: “Love each other, be fair with one another, be understanding, stick together, combine your resources, and if no one else has your back...we do.”

    33 min
  7. Ep 17: Navigating into Adulthood Pt. 2: Making a name for yourself/legacy & Remaining connected to family.

    08/14/2020

    Ep 17: Navigating into Adulthood Pt. 2: Making a name for yourself/legacy & Remaining connected to family.

    Happy Friday  BU&Y Family! Episode 17 of the Between Us & Y’all Podcast is available for your listening pleasure.  In this episode, we are joined by my beloved friend Drea D'Nur and her beautiful daughter Sehrea to continue the conversation on Navigating Adulthood. We are focusing on making a name for yourself as it relates to your family’s legacy, and how to remain connected to your family after moving out.  ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Every family has a legacy, and every member of that family contributes to it. Aiding our young adults in the process to ensure they are both present and intentional about their contribution is very necessary. We can also be intentional collectively about what remaining connected looks like for our young people after they begin to spread their young adult wings, whatever that looks like.  This was our first time having a mother/daughter duo on the podcast! It was such a special moment, and the insight shared was powerful. It’s so very important to include the feminine perspective in a podcast like ours which aims to create safe spaces for mothers and sons to discuss important topics. ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- We aim to raise young men who are effective communicators in every way possible. Engaging our young women in these developmental conversations early on allows for well-rounded perspectives. We learned so much from Drea & Sehrea. They were open, honest, and full of so much love. We enjoyed this episode very much, and hope you will too.  *About our guests: Drea D’Nur: Mother, music artist, entrepreneur. Follow on all outlets (Drea D’Nur.) Sehrea: Music artist, writer, oldest of five, producer, and college student. Follow on IG: (sehreandayu) Business highlighted: Feed Buffalo @feedbuffalo owned by Drea D’Nur. This is Buffalo New York's first Halal food access resource center. Learn more at Feedbuffalo.org (IG, FB) Family motto: “What is our way? LOVE! 💜💚

    39 min
  8. Ep: 16 Navigating into Adulthood Pt. 1: Understanding bills & Moving out vs being kicked out.

    08/10/2020

    Ep: 16 Navigating into Adulthood Pt. 1: Understanding bills & Moving out vs being kicked out.

    Happy Monday BU&Y Family! Episode 16 of the Between Us & Y’all Podcast is available for your listening pleasure. It was truly a pleasure to have our Oakland family to join us for this episode. My little community cousin from the Bashir family joined us! Nafeesah is the daughter of Bro Jeffery Bashir, who I grew up believing was my birth uncle due to his closeness with my father and overall family. She has grown into a lovely mother, friend, and great person. Nafeesah & her son Ajai joined us to begin a very important conversation on the topic of Navigating Adulthood focusing on: Understanding bills & Moving out vs being kicked out. So many of us parents never had a chance to have a conversation with our parents or elders about this topic. We knew bills existed and we knew they needed to be paid in order to avoid some form of discomfort or even homelessness. When we take time to really go over how bills work discussing things like; what therms mean for the electric bill, or learning how many gallons of water your family uses on the average per month, or even if you are discussing how there is more than one gas service to choose from in one’s city...this really helps to prepare our young adults to be able to successfully pay bills one day on their own. There is also the important topic of moving out vs getting kicked out. There are many families who never really have a series of conversations about this. There is just an assumed date in time that our young adults will be ready to venture out on their own, or face the demise of being put out and left to fend for themselves. Neither of these strategies is effective. This conversation should start a long time before their exit day comes and should occur when your family is ready for it to occur. Allow your young adults to express their views, plans and we hope that you feel secure in the support you are able to offer them. This was such a great conversation. I’m so proud of Nafeesah and her young man for all of the beneficial information shared with us and our listeners on this episode. We hope that you enjoy it as much as we did! About our guests: Nafeesah Bashir: Oakland native, Mama & Wife. Ajai: Rising junior in high school & athlete. Family motto: “Anything worth having, you're going to have to work for it.” Business highlighted: Leslie Andrews photographer: https://www.leslieandrewsphotography (dot com) https://www.midtowncollectiveatlanta (dot com)

    57 min
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Communication between Mamas and their young adult sons can be a challenge, but it doesn't have to be. Join Jaasmeen Hamed and her son Nafees Hassan, a favorite in the Mama son duo crew every Monday and Friday where good conversation takes place and tools to improve the mother-son bond are shared. If you are a mother of a young man between the ages 13-26 in search of; conversation topics that are both culturally and socially relevant, tools to break the ice on sensitive subjects, or have an interest in connecting with other mother-son duos in need of convo tips, then this podcast is for you.

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