Birth Moms Real Talk

We are adoptive parents. We adopted our daughter when she was five days old. At three years old we told her she was adopted. Shared stories of people, friends she knew who were also adopted. Then, we did not know much about her birth mother. Only she was in her early 20’s, not in a place to care for herself or her baby. And that she loved her baby. Just could not take care of her. We have always spoken about her (birth mom) with the upmost respect. Our daughter was a healthy new born. And that, we always told our daughter, “was evidence she loved you so much. She placed you for adoption because she loved you so much.” You see, in our home, our daughter’s birth mother has always been revered as, “ a great woman.” She gave us that one piece of love we needed to be family. Our baby girl. We are in the process of trying to locate our daughter’s birth mother. We are hopeful there will be a reunion some day. Sooner rather than later. Our daughter is 17 years old. And truthfully, she has struggled with the “unknown” all of her life. It has not been easy. She told me, “mom, every day I look at myself I wonder where did I get this nose, my hands, was my birth father musical, which one is artistic…” Her gifts and talents are off the chart. We created an environment where she can learn, explore and foster those gifts and talent. We commit to helping her as this reunion will also help us as a family. She needs to know everything her birth mother is willing to share. And we have a lot to share as well! So, this podcast here, is moving us in the right direction with more comfort and ease as we work carefully and respectfully to discover, as a family, our daughter’s birth mother. We were told the birth father is unknown. Thank you, D. Evonne, thank you birth mothers.

As an adoptee, these stories help me understand how traumatic and painful it is to place your baby. Thank you for giving us some perspective to support the healing of the triad.

Listening to these stories has been extremely beneficial in helping to understand the situations that women, my mother one of them, found themselves in and what led to their babies being adopted. Learning from these stories has helped me process my own adoption. It has helped me ask better questions when talking with my mother. Thank you to all of the mothers who are telling their stories. You are helping us, too.

I am so thankful for so many women telling their stories. For so many years I have walked this birthmom journey in secret and felt with feelings by burying them. Reunion changed my life! It is an encouragement to hear all these different stories!