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AZ Pregnancy Help is dedicated to assisting birth mothers in their adoption journey through Building Arizona Families Adoption Agency. Adoption matters!

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AZ Pregnancy Help is dedicated to assisting birth mothers in their adoption journey through Building Arizona Families Adoption Agency. Adoption matters!

    Birth Mother Matters in Adoption Ep. 44: Love & Loss in Adopt Reunification P.1

    Birth Mother Matters in Adoption Ep. 44: Love & Loss in Adopt Reunification P.1

    Birth Mother Matters in Adoption Episode #44: Love & Loss in Adopt Reunification Part One

    Believe it or not, I am an incredibly private person with what has become more and more a public persona.  This transition for me is still new and at times still takes my breath away.  I am beyond grateful to answer questions, share my story and open the door into the adoption world as well as into my own adoption backyard.  Sometimes its easier to stay on the surface when talking about adoption rather than diving deep.  I ask others who I speak with to dig deep, aim for the roots and I believe it is time for me to do the same.  Some of what we will be discussing today we have touched on before; the logistics, the events and thoughts and feelings- but today we will hold no punches and spare no emotions.

    During this process there are always highs and lows; things you find out that you never knew.  Facts that may not have been important to someone else but life-changing for you.  

    What I have learned and continue to learn as I walk through my own adoption journey:
    Its okay to do things in your own time.Don’t let others make you feel guilty; they haven’t walked your life journey (guy in airport condemned me for not telling my adoptive parents.)Learning your biological history doesn’t change the person you are, it only adds more layersAllow everyone to reach the acceptance stage in their own timeSome months you may have more contact than others and that’s okay and that doesn’t mean you aren’t as close or that something is wrong.
    Whether you are adopted, adopt, or place a child for adoption, your journey does not end when the adoption is finalized, in fact your journey is just beginning.

    • 26 min
    Birth Mother Matters in Adoption Episode 43: Working in the Adoption Field

    Birth Mother Matters in Adoption Episode 43: Working in the Adoption Field

    Birth Mother Matters in Adoption Episode 43: Working in the Adoption Field

    So often, everyone from family members, friends, clients, strangers or really anyone who catches wind that I work in the adoption field seems to be really curious as to what it is really like to work in the adoption world.

    My favorite- go-to answer is “It’s the best and worst job you will ever have.” 

    When an adoption case worker spends a significant amount of time with her birth mother client; often times a relationship on both sides develops.  The adoption caseworker has to maintain appropriate boundaries and be able to disconnect emotionally when decisions have to be made.  There is a fine line where you have to remain professional and yet personable.  In some instances, a case worker can become a significant person in a birth mother’s life; she may have come to the agency alone and the emotional support of a caseworker is imperative to her well being.  A birth mother may be going throw an incredibly difficult time in her life during her adoption journey and she bonds and attaches to her case worker.  In this situation, I have seen where a birth mother has a more difficult time saying “see you later” to the case worker than her newborn.  This is where an aftercare program is crucial to maintain a relationship with the adoption entity and provide the ability for a continued relationship with another avenue rather than becoming pregnant again.  Adoption case workers are human too, and have chosen the social service field for a reason; they too can become attached.  The longer you are in the adoption service field, the more you are able to prepare yourself, maintain boundaries and learn how to make the decisions that are in the best interest of your client, even when it is difficult.

    Pregnant and intersted in adoption?  Call 623-695-4112.

    • 18 min
    Birth Mother Matters in Adoption Episode 42: Birth Father Roles & Their Impact

    Birth Mother Matters in Adoption Episode 42: Birth Father Roles & Their Impact

     Birth Mother Matters in Adoption Episode 42: Birth Father Roles & Their Impact

    Many times birth fathers and birth mothers have broken up and are not longer together and without his support; emotional, physical, financial and mental- a birth mother decides adoption is in the best interest of both her and her unborn baby.  The birth mother may have realized that her relationship is incredibly unstable and wants stability and longevity for her child.  

    Other times, birth mothers may continue to be in a relationship with their unborn baby’s birth father and he is not in support of her adoption plan.  He will argue with her about her plan, and she sticks to her plan and they will break up and get back together and the focus becomes on him rather than her adoption plan.  In her mind, she has made her decision and her knees are locked.  This situation is very difficult on a birth mother and one way to assist her is to build up her support system.

    Sometimes a birth mother has multiple potential birth fathers.  They may have broken up and gotten back together and they don’t know which one is the actual birth father.  Other times there are situations where all of the birth fathers are very cooperative.

    Sometimes, in the best case scenarios; the birth father is very supportive of the birth mother, regardless of whether or not they are in a current relationship.  He attends all of the adoption meetings, helps choose the adoptive family, meets with them and develops his own relationship with them.  This situation is so positive for the birth mother, it not only establishes a support structure but gives her further assurance in her adoption choice.

    Adoption is a beautiful choice and studies have shown us that birth fathers can be a very valuable asset in their support of an adoption plan.

    • 17 min
    Birth Mother Matters in Adoption Episode 41: Abortion Education Part 2 Title X

    Birth Mother Matters in Adoption Episode 41: Abortion Education Part 2 Title X

    Birth Mother Matters in Adoption Episode 41: Abortion Education Part 2 Title X

    The "rule" requires "financial and physical separation" between facilities or programs that provide any kind of health service using Title X funds and those that provide abortions.  It also prohibits referrals for abortion as a method of “family planning." The rule does state that providers are allowed to give abortion referrals in cases of medical emergencies.

    We must acknowledge that Title X only takes abortion out of the umbrella of family planning.

    This so-called "gag" rule leaves Title X facilities that provide abortions as well as other health services in aquandry: Either they stop receiving the Title X Funding  or they stop providing information and services related to abortion.  This rule really just compartmentalizes what the Title X Funding is and what is has been designated for; which broad array of services that fall under the umbrella of family planning: contraceptive services, supplies, and information; breast and cervical cancer screenings; and STD prevention, testing, and treatment. 

    If you are ready to begin your adoption plan or just want to learn more about adoption- The best thing to do is to call our 24hour/7 day a week phone number at 623-695-4112 or our toll-free number, 1-800-340-9665. We will answer any additional questions you may have and then schedule an appointment with one of our case workers. We can provide transportation to our office located off the I-17 Access Road and Northern, where we can begin assisting you with your adoption plan.

    Building Arizona Families, AZ Pregnancy Help, The Donna K. Evans Foundation and the #YouBeforeMe Campaign care about adoption and want to spread the word.

    • 18 min
    Birth Mother Matters in Adoption Episode 40: Abortion Education Part 1

    Birth Mother Matters in Adoption Episode 40: Abortion Education Part 1

    Abortion News:
    The cost of an abortion in the state of Arizona appears to range from $560 to $2500, depending ont he provider, type of abortion and how far along you are in your pregnancy.States are not required to submit abortion data to the CDC, but the overwhelming majority do.The Planned Parenthood annual report, covering the 2017-2018 fiscal year, was published over the weekend of Jan. 19-20.The number of abortions performed by Planned Parenthood rose to 332,757, an increase of over three percent. Adoption referrals dropped by over 25 percent to 2,831. The abortion provider makes one adoption referral for every 117 abortions, according to their own data.37 states require parental involvement in a minor’s decision to have an abortion.Abortion medication to be available at California’s college health centers under new law.  A 2018 study published in the Journal of Adolescent Health estimated that 322 to 519 students at California’s public universities seek medical abortions each month.
    If you are ready to begin your adoption plan or just want to learn more about adoption- The best thing to do is to call our 24hour/7 day a week phone number at 623-695-4112 or our toll-free number, 1-800-340-9665. We will answer any additional questions you may have and then schedule an appointment with one of our case workers. We can provide transportation to our office located off the I-17 Access Road and Northern, where we can begin assisting you with your adoption plan.  Building Arizona Families is the adoption agency that cares about you and your bab.

    • 23 min
    Birth Mother Matters in Adoption Episode 39: Understanding Their Choice 1 & 2

    Birth Mother Matters in Adoption Episode 39: Understanding Their Choice 1 & 2

    Birth Mother Matters in Adoption Episode 39: Understanding Their Choice 1 & 2

    This is an intimate interview of a birth mother and birth father as they explain why they chose adoption for their unborn baby.  They candidly discuss their lives and life choices that led them to their adoption path.  Their lives are relatable to so many others and listenting to their story will not only answer questions you may have but educate you what life is really like in their shoes.  Dealing with life on the streets to incarceration to drug use to gang involvement is dicusssed openly and honestly.  

    For privacy purposes, the names of the individuals we interviewed are not listed or mentioned.

    Here, at Building Arizona Families Adoption Agency, we believe in emotional, financial, mental, and physical assistance for our clients during the adoption process. Our agency is unique in that we have a food pantry and a maternity closet accessible to our clients. We also assist our clients with locating and using state resources that are accessible to them. We understand all aspects of adoption as we have staff members who were adopted, have adopted, and have placed a child for adoption. We understand what it means to need financial help and the emotions that go along with placing a child for adoption you are not alone.  We are here to help you.  (623) 695-4112.  Make the call today.

    • 32 min

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