Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse

First time listening today. I’ve listened to hours and hours of Narcissistic abuse podcasts. The one I listened to today episode #63 gave specific examples like a pattern of the N continually critiquing how one does things like the laundry, shifting conversations with Red Herrings; never able to settle an issue. The topic of how one speaks to you-I’d like to hear more about this b/c I myself am working on to changing my tone of voice & being more respectful-not demeaning others’ viewpoints. If that was the model we grew up hearing as children, we may unknowingly be sarcastic. The more examples the better! Dr Henry Cloud, author of “Boundaries” calls one key to healthy relationships is “Mutually Agreed Upon Exceptions” which are often impossible with a Covert or Overt Narcissist.

Thank you for this podcast

I’m going through a break up w a woman that drained me of everything. My boundaries, my pride, my money. I became a person who I didn’t know and she made me think itge relationship problems were all me. Stuff I never heard from other partners. I was abusive. I was a narcissist. I had borderline personality disorder. I’ve never heard these things but her family members told me she did but I still thought I was the problem. This podcast is so good I feel they know her personally. lol. It was invaluable to my healing and leaving.

So informative. I enjoy the interviews and the dual hosts. Like the conversational format and the sharing of studies as well as personal experiences. I would enjoy hearing more about sibling relationships and family narcissism/emotional abuse/financial abuse/ inheritance issues. Thank goodness my life partner is not a toxic person. In my late 50s after my generous and loving father died, my family dynamic totally changed. Suddenly my little brother became a tyrant and his wife and my mother his enablers. At 58, desperate, and wondering “what is wrong with me, why can’t I get along with my family?” , I finally googled the question and thankfully found sites and experts on narcissistic abuse - both covert and overt. Wow. All the signs, the red flags, were there. Never too old to learn, though not a lesson I am thrilled about. I have gone no contact ish and am working to be healthy , still — coming from a culture that honors family , it is hard to speak about this with others or to come to terms with it myself. I keep wondering when my little brother decided he hated me. I just remember babysitting him and protecting him. To this day, despite his being horrible, I worry about him. He is not dead, but lost to me.