140 episodes
Chaos to Connected - Helping Parents Navigate Challenging Behavior with Connection; motherhood, toddler tantrum, behavior, co Kaili Zeiher
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- Kids & Family
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5.0 • 21 Ratings
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Are you tired of struggling to figure out what to do about your child’s behavior? Do you feel exhausted and frustrated trying to manage your own triggers while at the same time trying to calm your child down and feel like nothing is working? Do you feel guilty after losing your cool 15 minutes into a tantrum and wonder if you’re doing this whole motherhood thing right? Are you wishing there was something that would just work consistently to get your child to listen?
Hi, I’m Kaili, pediatric occupational therapist and momma to 2 energetic boys and I’m so grateful you are here! I remember what it felt like to struggle with my son’s aggressive behavior. I felt alone. I felt like no one else I knew was going through the same things or could understand what I was going through. And I had no idea what to do. I tried everything I could think of but nothing really seemed to work or that stuck anyway.
Feeling completely overwhelmed and exhausted, like I was at the end of my rope, I found Hand in Hand parenting and I completely fell in love with the approach. It was everything I had ever dreamed motherhood would be about; training my child in a way that actually felt good and didn’t require rewards and punishments to obey and respect my authority. Plus, it focused on what the child’s behavior actually meant! Resolving things at a root cause level. What could be better than that??
Needless to say, I was hooked and after implementing the different connection focused strategies I saw more transformation than I ever thought possible. But not just in my son’s behavior, in my ability to remain calm through it all and my confidence in the approach I had chosen. No more comparison or worry of judgment. I knew this was the right path.
I wanted to make sure other moms out there who were struggling just like I was, had access to this information so I completed a professionals intensive training in Hand in Hand parenting and started sharing it.
Inside this podcast you will find tips, strategies, and perspective shifts to manage your child’s behavior as well as your triggers, and a constant shove outside the mainstream recommendations to utilize manipulation to change your child’s behavior. We are going to dive deep into how to implement CONNECTION, a vital necessity that the world wants to make us believe our children don’t actually need.
This is the game-changing, missing link and I’m going to give you tangible steps on how to incorporate it into your daily routines and in those extra challenging moments so your home doesn’t feel like a stressful and chaotic place but rather one where feelings are welcomed, behavior is understood as communication, and joy abounds.
So get comfy, I know you need a minute to take a rest after all you’ve been doing today, and join me as we jump into managing behaviors through connection!
XO Kaili
Connect with me: kjzeiher@gmail.com
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/?hl=en
Free special time e-book: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/60b1c137e49f36620e6bc925
Behavior Blueprint 1:1 coaching: https://view.flodesk.com/emails/62c479aee3f481bcc48af99d
Chaos to Calm course waitlist: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/621850e5a41d78f73c5012d8
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5 Ways You Are More Like Your Child Than Unlike Him/Her
It can be really easy, especially when you are parenting a child who is struggling with behavior or lots of strong emotions, to forget that your child is just a mini version of you. While life experience and higher level executive functioning skills aren't the same, the way the brain processes and responds to hurts is.
It can be easy to forget this when you are triggered from behavior so today, I want to share how parents/caregivers are more like their child than not.
Ep on Apologizing: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-helping-parents-navigate-challenging/id1609008872?i=1000613660033
Tame Your Triggers Masterclass: https://chaostoconnected.myflodesk.com/mju18pgf63
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or kjzeiher@gmail.com.
XO
Kaili
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Is your child's aggressive behavior due to a sensory processing issue?
One of the most common questions I get asked is what types of deep input activities I would recommend for a child who acts or plays aggressively (hitting, kicking, throwing, etc). Previously, I would go into detail on how to incorporate into a sensory diet, but now, through additional training and experience I recognize that this alone isn't the answer.
Today, I share how sensory processing works and how to bridge the gap effectively AND efficiently between the behaviors you are seeing and improved regulation!
*If you have any questions as to if your child has a true sensory processing disorder, email me or seek out a local OT for assessment.
Tame Your Triggers Masterclass: https://chaostoconnected.myflodesk.com/mju18pgf63
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or kjzeiher@gmail.com.
XO
Kaili
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Birthday Envy: What to do when one child is jealous of a sibling's birthday + presents
If you're a mom to more than one child you've probably experienced one child's excitement over a birthday while another child was less than happy about it. Having to wait for all of the attention and presents can be a big challenge for kids and it does matter how you handle it.
If you are someone that gets the other child a present too or you wonder if that's the "right" thing to do, I wanted to shed some connection focused perspective light on the situation!
Tame Your Triggers Masterclass: https://chaostoconnected.myflodesk.com/mju18pgf63
Do you want help managing your triggers in the heat of the moment: https://chaostoconnected.myflodesk.com/r49k9ws9dp
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or kjzeiher@gmail.com.
XO
Kaili
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Do you want to shift the attitudes and behaviors in your home?? Here's how!
Do you ever feel like the attitudes, the whining, and the fighting sometimes just really over take your entire home?
That's how I felt 2 weeks ago. I decided something needed to change and I discovered ONE thing that makes all the difference.
We moved from constant sibling fighting, frequent whining, hitting/kicking/pinching to try and solve problems, and me feeling a lot of annoyance, anger, and frequently triggered to so much peace, more self control and regulation, and best of all more fun and enjoyment just being together!
Today I dive into what changed and how you can replicate it in your home too!
Do you want help managing your triggers in the heat of the moment: https://chaostoconnected.myflodesk.com/r49k9ws9dp
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or kjzeiher@gmail.com.
XO
Kaili
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Do you ever feel overwhelmed or exhausted and then struggle to approach behavior with connection?
Last week, I asked what was the hardest thing about connection focused parenting; one of the responses I received was that when feeling exhausted it was especially hard to try to respond to behaviors positively or with connection.
I. Hear. That.!!!
Today, I wanted to share what to do if you're finding yourself in this same situation...and you might be surprised by my recommendation!
If this episode, or any episode you've previously listened to you has blessed or helped you, would you be willing to go and leave a rating and review on Apple Podcasts? I know mommas all over the world are searching for tangible, simple strategies to help improve behavior without using punishments, rewards, and manipulation to achieve it. Your willingness to take a minute to share will help other mommas find this information easier!
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or kjzeiher@gmail.com.
XO
Kaili
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Do your kids struggle to get along? 3 keys to approaching sibling conflict!
Do your kids struggle to get along? It can be really disheartening, patience testing, and frustrating when your kids just can't seem to figure out how to play together for 5 minutes!
But the good news?! You can help! Today, I dive into 3 keys to approaching sibling conflict in a connection focused way that will help model and reinforce this approach for them in future scenarios that involve disagreements!
If you have found this episode, or any episode, helpful, I'd love if you'd be willing to take just 1 minute and go leave a rating or review!
Connect with me here: https://www.instagram.com/kailijozeiher/ or kjzeiher@gmail.com.
XO
Kaili
Customer Reviews
Excellent parenting podcast
I’ve learned so incredibly much about parenting through Kaili’s weekly episodes. Having a weekly episode helps keep the parenting tools I want to use in the forefront of my mind to help me practice throughout the week. Her expertise is very insightful and offers a great perspective on how importance connection is, not with just children but to everyone in our lives.
Best Podcast for OTR’s!
As an OTR navigating my first year as a clinician, I couldn’t be more grateful to have stumbled upon the Chaos to Connected podcast. This will no doubt be my new go-to podcast for daily commutes! Between the clinical knowledge and the personal experiences that Kaili shares, this is a great resource for both parents and providers alike. I can’t wait to share this podcast not only with my colleagues but also with families searching for ways to promote regulation and connection. For any new or even experienced clinician interested in learning more to better serve the children and families you work with, this podcast is 100% worth the listen!!
Always worth the time
Haven’t met an episode that want worth my time and focus! I always feel a step towards more empowered, connection centered parenting after listening with tangible ideas and principles. Grateful for Kaili’s expertise and knowledge 😍