Christina Demetriades – Always Take Care Of Yourself First in Any Relationship

BIO: Christina Demetriades works as a personal leadership coach, trainer, and coach/mentor supervisor. Through her work, she empowers and motivates people to succeed in their goals and to enjoy a fulfilling, meaningful career and life consciously.

STORY: Christina suffered a severe back issue that left her bedridden and wholly dependent on others. When she got better, all she wanted was to live life. She met a man whom together they built an adventurous life. Christina got so immersed in the relationship that she lost herself. Her priority was her boyfriend. Everything was about him and not her. When they broke up, she was so empty after giving her all to him.

LEARNING: The most valuable relationship you have is with yourself. Be an independent person and bring value to your relationships.

“Imagine what you could do and what your life could be like if you were your best cheerleader.”

Christina Demetriades

Guest profile

Christina Demetriades works as a personal leadership coach, trainer, and coach/mentor supervisor. She works with individuals and groups alike globally. Through her work, she empowers and motivates people to succeed in their goals and to enjoy a fulfilling, meaningful career and life consciously. A firm believer in each person’s ability to lead themselves effectively in any context, she guides her clients in developing leadership skills towards personal and professional self-actualization. Her motto is ‘Lead your life. Lead your career. Lead your community.’

Worst investment ever

Christina was 27 years old when she suffered a severe back issue which kept her in bed and immobile for about three months. As a result, she was bedridden and wholly dependent on her family and friends. Eventually, she was able to avoid extensive surgery, and she was able to regain mobility.

Coming out of these circumstances, Christina was so enthusiastic about life. She was now all about living, going out, socializing, and exploring. During this time, she happened to meet an old acquaintance. They started chatting, and the night just flew by.

The two got together and went on to date for one and a half years. That one and a half years were full and adventurous. Christina was having the time of her life, and slowly she started losing herself in this relationship.

Christina invested herself so much in this relationship. She took all her partner’s issues and made them her own. She prioritized all the problems he was facing on a very personal and familial level. Even with things that were none of her business, she was still invested in helping him fix and solve problems, some of which he wasn’t ready to resolve.

Because of investing herself so much in the relationship, Christina forgot to love and take care of herself. So when the relationship ended, she came out empty and had to relearn how to love herself.

Lessons learned

• The most valuable relationship we have is with ourselves.
• Being friends with ourselves is central to finding happiness.
• Give to yourself what you would give to a best friend or a loved one.
• Everything we experience in life, through our relationships with those around us, loved ones or not, carries a wealth of opportunities for us to learn, grow, become wiser, and evolve.

Andrew’s takeaways

• Every relationship has one thing in common; you are in it. And so, you need to bring more to each relationship that you have.
• Be an independent person and bring value to your relationships.

Actionable advice

Be your own best friend, give yourself whatever you need. Listen to yourself, support yourself, even laugh with yourself and cry with yourself. It’s fine.

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