You Are Not Crazy

Jessica Knight
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You Are Not Crazy

You’re exhausted from over-functioning and managing everything to make it all seem okay. You feel very much alone. Your friends don’t understand. You feel you are the only one who understands you. I understand because I’ve been there. And sometimes the first step in healing is feeling validated and knowing that you are not crazy. I hope this podcast helps you normalize your reality and breakthrough Narcissistic and Emotional Abuse. www.emotionalabusecoach.com

  1. 14시간 전

    Why It Hurts So Much (Even After Everything)

    When you're breaking a trauma bond or coming to terms with the end of a manipulative relationship, it doesn’t just bruise you—it shatters something inside. This kind of grief defies logic. You’re not just mourning a relationship. You’re grieving the version of you who believed in it, the future you imagined, and the love you gave so fully. I walk through what this heartbreak really is—and what it isn’t. It’s not weakness. It’s not over-sensitivity. It’s a nervous system crash after prolonged emotional chaos. It’s what happens when your love was real, but the relationship was built on manipulation, betrayal, or broken promises. Inside this episode: Why grief after narcissistic abuse feels unbearableThe emotional rollercoaster of detaching from someone who hurt youHow shame, self-blame, and rumination keep you stuckWhy you still miss them, even when they treated you badlyA reminder that your pain is a reflection of your depth—not a flawSupport the show Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com {Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse {E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist {Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal {Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

    8분

  2. 6월 11일

    Why They Couldn’t Love You: Understanding Emotional Capacity in Toxic Relationships

    What happens when the person you fought so hard to love turns out to be incapable of loving you back? What do you do with the grief, the self-doubt, and the tidal wave of confusion that follows? In this raw and deeply personal episode, I unpack what it means to love someone with traits of Cluster B personality disorders—specifically, narcissistic and borderline features—and why walking away doesn’t bring immediate peace. I share the story of how my relationship ended, the impossible ultimatum I was given, and the unraveling that came after. We explore: Why you still miss them even though they hurt youThe reality of trauma bonding and emotional addictionWhat it means to be with someone who can imitate love but not sustain itThe devastation of being blamed for everything, including their own behaviorThe disorienting grief that follows when you're mourning the illusion, not the realityWhat healing actually looks like when you finally choose yourselfThis episode is for anyone who left a relationship and still doesn’t understand why it hurts so much. For the person who can’t stop blaming themselves. For the survivor who is starting to realize: it wasn’t you. It was never you. Support the show Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com {Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse {E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist {Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal {Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

    18분

  3. 6월 4일

    Understanding the Trauma Bond

    We dive into the Trauma Bond: how it forms, why it's so hard to leave, and what recovery really looks like. This isn't just about red flags or textbook definitions. This is about the lived experience—the confusion, the craving for relief, the grief that shows up even when you finally leave. I walk through the invisible hooks that keep survivors attached: intermittent reinforcement, emotional manipulation disguised as love, and the powerful conditioning that teaches us to find safety in what's familiar—even when it hurts. I also share pieces of my own story, including what it felt like to be silenced, blamed, and slowly erased in a relationship that mirrored old wounds I hadn’t yet healed. You’ll hear about: The difference between love and emotional captivityHow trauma bonds are wired into your nervous systemWhy you still miss them even after they hurt youWhat gaslighting does to your sense of selfHow to begin un-gaslighting yourself and rebuild your truthSupport the show Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com {Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse {E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist {Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal {Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

    36분

  4. 5월 28일

    The Outburst That Isn’t About You: Emotional Storms and BPD Traits

    What do you do when the person you love explodes—and it has nothing to do with you, but you’re the one absorbing the damage? In today’s episode, I’m talking about a very specific and disorienting experience: the emotional outbursts that often come from people with traits of Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). These episodes are not “just” arguments. They’re dysregulated storms—sudden, intense, and often terrifying—that leave you feeling blamed, spun, and emotionally shredded. I break down what’s actually happening in these moments, why they feel so confusing, and how to begin separating yourself from the chaos. We’ll explore: What BPD-patterned emotional storms really areWhy it feels like you’re being punished for something you didn’t doHow to recognize these moments as trauma responses, not mutual conflictWhat helped me stop spiraling when I was stuck in these cyclesThe difference between compassion and self-sacrificeWhy you’re not crazy for being overwhelmed, and why this isn’t your faultThis episode isn’t about diagnosing anyone. It’s about giving language to what survivors are living through—so you can stop blaming yourself, start validating your reality, and begin choosing peace over chaos. If this resonates, I invite you to check out my full Substack series on Cluster B abuse patterns: https://jessicaknightcoaching.substack.com/ Support the show Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com {Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse {E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist {Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal {Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

    12분

  5. 5월 22일

    They're Just Avoiding Accountability

    In this episode, I unpack how abusers flip the script by dredging up unrelated past events, twisting reality, and using guilt as a weapon to derail accountability. If you've ever found yourself defending a mistake from five years ago while trying to talk about how you're hurting now, this episode is for you. You’ll learn: The difference between naming a pattern and playing the blame gameHow false equivalency and DARVO keep survivors stuckWhat a healthy vs. abusive response to feedback actually sounds likeHow to stop wasting your energy defending yourself and start trusting what you knowWhether you're navigating emotional abuse, high-conflict divorce, or just trying to reclaim your clarity, this episode is a grounding reminder that your experiences are real—and you don’t need to explain your pain to someone determined to ignore it. Support the show Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com {Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse {E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist {Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal {Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

    10분

  6. 5월 14일

    The Cumulative Effect: Why It Wasn’t “Just One Thing”

    I explore one of the most disorienting realities of surviving an emotionally abusive relationship: the way each incident is treated like it exists in isolation—when in reality, it all added up. I share my personal experience of slowly realizing that what felt like “stress” was actually a sustained pattern of emotional harm.  I walk through the subtle signs—like anxiety, insomnia, self-doubt, and emotional shutdown—that build up over time and keep survivors stuck in cycles of self-blame and confusion. This episode offers validation for the exhaustion you feel, clarity on how abusers avoid accountability by isolating incidents, and a powerful reminder: if you’re starting to see the pattern, you already have everything you need to begin walking away from it. Support the show Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com {Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse {E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist {Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal {Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

    11분

  7. 5월 7일

    When Betrayal Breaks Your Sense of Self

    I share the story of a client—“Amanda”—who experienced a devastating betrayal that shattered not only her relationship but her trust in herself. What began as a hopeful, grounded connection turned into a traumatic discovery of infidelity and deception. Jessica walks through the emotional aftermath: the gaslighting, the physical symptoms of grief, the shame survivors often carry, and the slow, painful realization that you're not just grieving a person—you’re grieving the version of yourself who believed you were safe. This episode is for anyone who has asked: How did I not see it? Why do I still miss them? What happened to the future I thought I was building? Topics covered: How betrayal impacts your nervous systemThe grief of losing not just a partner, but your realityWhat trauma bonding really feels likeThe shame cycle survivors fall intoHow to begin rebuilding your trust in yourselfSupport the show Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com {Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse {E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist {Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal {Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

    13분

  8. 4월 30일

    Emotional Abuse Breakthrough Course: Why It Matters and How It Can Help

    I’m doing something a little different — I’m walking you through my Emotional Abuse Breakthrough Course: what it is, why it matters, and how it can help if you’re stuck questioning your reality. I share the story of how I realized I was in an emotionally abusive relationship, how confusing and stuck I felt inside the trauma bond, and the turning points that helped me start to break free. I also talk about why simply recognizing abuse isn’t enough — and how you need validation, boundaries, and clarity to start reclaiming your life. If you’re Googling things like "Is this abuse?" or "Why does nothing I do seem to work?" — this episode is for you. I’ll also talk about some of the tools that helped me, like Paul Colaianni’s M.E.A.N. Workbook, and how my course is designed to give you something I wish I had: a clear foundation, validation, and steps you can actually take — even if you’re still stuck inside the relationship. In this episode, you’ll learn: How emotional abuse rewires your realityWhy trauma bonds keep you stuck (even when you can see the harm)How to set boundaries for yourself — even when they won’t respect themHow to start validating your own experience (and stop feeling crazy)Resources Mentioned: Emotional Abuse Breakthrough CoursePaul Colaianni’s M.E.A.N. Workbook (link to workbook if available)Support the show Website: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.com Instagram: @emotionalabusecoach Email: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com {Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse {E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist {Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal {Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

    16분
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You’re exhausted from over-functioning and managing everything to make it all seem okay. You feel very much alone. Your friends don’t understand. You feel you are the only one who understands you. I understand because I’ve been there. And sometimes the first step in healing is feeling validated and knowing that you are not crazy. I hope this podcast helps you normalize your reality and breakthrough Narcissistic and Emotional Abuse. www.emotionalabusecoach.com

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    Jessica Knight
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    2022년 - 2025년
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