Any successful relationship starts with finding your center - the truth at the core of who you are. Only then can you develop the ability to truly connect with someone else.
Concentric is about aligning with people who share a common center.
This show gives you the tools and the skills to do just that through practical training, real-life stories and examples, and in-depth interviews with people who have taken this journey and come out the other side better for it.
Welcome to Concentric. We're glad you're here.
Ep13 Understanding at a Deeper Level
Welcome to Episode 13 of Concentric.
Today, Gary and I dig into the aspect of truly understanding another person, whether that's someone you're in a relationship with just someone you're kind of in conflict with and you're trying to come to that resolution.
The better you can understand them, the better that you'll be able to communicate your "side" and the better you're going to be able to develop what your "side" should be, in terms of what's really going on.
And there are several levels to this. This is a big, broad topic in terms of conflict resolution and having those critical conversations, as Gary calls them. We dig deep into this specific aspect of those critical conversations around understanding.
Gary of course has immense training and years of experience in deciphering certain physical characteristics, body posture, and all of those things that help him diagnose really quickly what's going on with someone.
But we all have that understanding. We all know, even if we can't quite put words to it, what someone is feeling or when something's a little "off". That sense will allow us to dig deeper with that person if we'll just have that intention.
And we take those few moments to think to ourselves, "Okay, let me stop the chatter going on in my brain for a little bit and truly take in what this other person is communicating both in words, body language, and energy."
So we explore the importance of this topic and then really get into some tactical how-tos to help us all when we're in that situation.
Ep12 Reality as a Construct
Today we're talking about reality as a construct.
Now, the context that we're talking about that today has to do, of course, with relationships and interacting with other folks, but very quickly gets into conflict resolution. And then taking a step into not just the understanding of, "Okay, I'm in control of this situation," or "I may not be interpreting the situation correctly." It certainly takes a belief switch to get there for some of us.
But more importantly, and maybe more difficultly, is when you're in the moment and something's going horribly wrong in your perspective, and it's causing an emotional trigger, whether that's with somebody else, or just something happening, to be able to stop at that moment and ask yourself, "Why am I reacting so negatively in this situation?"
One of the first indicators in the moment for when we should ask this is when your response seems like an overreaction. As Gary points out, we may have things coming at us that we can't control, but we can control our response to them to construct our world. Our reality.
So I hope that gives you some context around what we're talking about here with reality as a construct. Gary does an amazing job digging in and really giving us all some incredible, useful tools for moving forward in our life.
Ep11 Developing a Vision in Order to Influence
Welcome to Episode 11 of Concentric!
Today, Gary and Jason talk about developing your vision and the importance of that in order to lead and influence others.
You know, even for ourselves, we need a clear vision of where we're going and why we're doing something to really accomplish any kind of goal in life. And when it comes time to get folks on board that you need help from, you're 100 times more likely to influence them if you have that clearly defined vision.
And we sense that in others. We've seen those people who just believe so strongly in what they're doing, that we almost don't even hear the word, that they're saying to us. But we're on board.
And we've witnessed the opposite as well: the folks who are saying all the right things, but you're just not buying it. You don't know what it is, but something is off. Sometimes that feeling comes when someone is dishonest and they're trying to trick you into something. But often it's the fact that they're not confident in what they're telling you.
So, having the skills to not only develop a vision and follow through with it but to communicate that vision is very important.
So that's what we really dig into today: developing those skills of defining that vision in order to influence others. All right, let's jump in.
Ep10 Human Skills Business Performance
Welcome to Ep10 of Concentric.
Today we're talking about two of my favorite subjects: business and people, and more specifically the relationship between the two. Balancing the business/people dynamic is great and messy and hard and wonderful.
More and more, business leaders and the public at large are recognizing personal development and how it relates to business. There have been some people, though, who go out there and say, "Invest in personal development and you'll be successful tomorrow! That's all you need."
There are some other folks who are like, "That's all trash and nonsense. Focus on the business fundamentals. That's how you grow a business."
In reality, those are extremes and if any strong division occurs, it's from each "side" thinking the other side is that cut and dried.
What we dig into today is the messy middle. Of course, you don't just go read Think and Grow Rich and that's all you need to know to have a successful business. But at the same time, even though it's possible to grow and succeed in business: sell a widget and make a bunch of money with no focus on yourself - how are you in the process? Is there a level of fulfillment that you miss out on? And do you grow faster, develop a better team, or are you more successful in business when you focus on some of those aspects of personal development?
Gary and I certainly feel like the answer is yes. Everything that you do, business included, is just better when you consistently grow and improve as a person and learn how to relate to somebody, whether you're selling them something or you're managing a team.
If you are practicing self-leadership and developing those skills, it's just going to go smoother. It's going to be better. Everyone's going to enjoy the process more. So that's what we get into today.
So many insights. I think you're gonna love it.
Let's jump in.
Ep9 Self-leadership and Managing Mental and Emotional Triggers
Welcome to Ep9 of Concentric.
We really dive in on this concept of self-leadership quite a bit on this show already. Because it's so foundational to everything else that we teach and really just what we believe in this world. It's so important to take control over your own experience in life, rather than leaving it up to the rest of the world to dictate how you're going to feel or how you're going to operate.
And maybe it sounds simple. But it's actually tough when we do get triggered by things out in the world, and we react to that triggering event, rather than stopping and going, "Okay, why am I so upset about this?"
Gary dives into how important our mental and emotional states are to just being consistent and congruent and showing up in life, how we want to show up, and certainly when it comes to leading others. We can't possibly do that without leading ourselves first.
So this is an amazing foundational episode in which Gary gives us insights on how to do this because it's very difficult to course correct when you are being triggered by something, especially in the moment. It takes the foundational work beforehand so that in the moment you can call upon that decision that you've made, or insights that you've gained, in order to not have that same emotional response.
Make sure you check out the full episode and share it with someone you think needs to hear it!
Ep8 The Real Power of Personal Development
Have you heard this crazy idea that improving yourself improves over 97.861% of all relationships in your life?
In Ep8 of Concentric, Gary De Rodriguez and I are talking about the real power of personal development - making yourself better as you go through this life.
Gary gives us some real insight into not just how to do it, but how to think about it as you go through this process.
People often look at self-improvement and personal development in terms of "Let me get this handled, and then I'm good". But it's really this ongoing process (and I promise that I don't mean that in an overwhelming "things never get better" way).
Quite the opposite.
It's a constant improvement. It's not like you gain some of these skills and then you're instantly a phenomenal speaker, all your relationships are perfect, or you make a million dollars the next week.
And sure, nobody would say that that's what they're expecting. But there's a little part that does feel like "Let me solve this one thing. And then I'm off to the races."
And what actually happens is you get to that next level a little faster. You encounter the challenges that come into your life (or challenging people) and you react differently. You handle them differently, which makes your life different.
Those are the insights that we get into today. And how to approach this endeavor not to get it all figured out but to get on the right path and move in the right direction. And then as you get these distinctions for your life, they build on each other.