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Is Mom Guilt Good?
Mom guilt is real and it feels so heavy. Moms, do you ever find your thoughts spiraling through these statements?
“I’m such a mess!” “I can’t get it together and my kids don’t like me!” “I’m a bad mom” Stress, feeling overwhelmed, and lack of sleep can intensify all these feelings. It’s important to know you are not alone in the struggle with guilt and shame. And you don’t have to stay stuck in it. There is always hope!
In today’s podcast, Katie Wetsell (pediatric nurse and Connected Families Certified Parent Coach ) joins Stacy Bellward (podcast host) to share her own personal story of how she worked through difficult feelings of mom guilt. Katie shares with us the steps she took to embrace the truth of Jesus’ deep love and grace, and some surprising truths about looking at guilt through the filter of faith.
When viewed through the filter of God’s redemptive love and purpose, guilt can actually provide an opportunity for transformation within the safety of God’s gentleness and grace. And when we receive that gentleness and grace from God, we can in turn pour it out and model it to our children. You don’t have to live in the discouragement of Mom guilt!
In this podcast, you’ll discover:
* the difference between guilt and shame and why it matters* why moms often feel intense guilt about their parenting (and how you can navigate this in a healthy way!)* the importance of the first level, Foundation, in the Connected Families Framework ”What’s going on in me?”–to break the cycle of shame* how you can be set free from the lies that keep you stuck in mom guilt through the redemptive and powerful love of Jesus
Mentioned in this podcast:
* Connected Families website* Connected Families Framework* Connected Families resources* Bible verses: 2 Corinthians 5:17, Ephesians 6:10-20, 2 Corinthians 12:9, Psalm 139, Hebrews 4:16, 1 John 2:1
About Katie Wetsell: Katie has always had a calling on her heart to care for children. She is a pediatric oncology nurse and pediatric nurse practitioner. After experiencing the benefits of parent coaching through Connected Families herself, Katie later resigned from nursing and became a certified parent coach as well. She and her husband have 4 children (3 boys and a girl) through birth and adoption. Katie is also trained in SPACE treatment to help parents learn how to support their children struggling with anxiety and ...
How Can I Get My Child to Obey? | Ep. 78
Does God require your kids to obey immediately? Immediate obedience is probably a familiar concept to you. And, to be quite honest, it’s a hot-button topic! If you’ve ever asked yourself, “How do I get my child to obey?” then this is the podcast for you!
Or maybe you feel like your demands for first-time obedience seem to bring more tension and discouragement for both you and your child? If so, this podcast will bring you clarity and encouragement as you seek to be a more connected parent!
How DO I get my child to obey?
Here at Connected Families, we approach this topic with a unique perspective. In today’s podcast, we dissect and unpack this important and sometimes misunderstood issue. Stacy Bellward (podcast host) is joined by Jim and Lynne Jackson (co-founders of Connected Families) as we continue our series about our Connected Families “special sauce”–what makes us unique!
Obedience is absolutely important to God and to you as a parent. We encourage you view the bigger picture of how God inspires obedience in His children. Control and fear-based parenting can create a toxic relationship, but a deeper and more connected relationship with your child will lead them toward wisdom. The context for obedience is a deep love relationship overflowing with the fullness of God’s grace.
In today’s podcast you’ll learn:
* why immediate obedience can be a set-up for frustration for both you and children* what the Bible and the life of Jesus tell us about immediate obedience* the importance of examining your own motives as a parent in order to bring the fullness of God’s love to your kids* the difference between obedience and compliance– and why it matters!* how to let go of demands in order to build wisdom and thoughtful responses in your child’s heart
You will not want to miss this conversation! It may forever change how you connect with your child as you seek to leave a legacy of wisdom and grace for your family. We would love to connect with you about this, or any other questions you may have! We invite you to contact us.
Mentioned in this podcast:
* Discipline That Connects online course* Connected Families Clubhouse Community* The Prodigal God by Tim Keller* Bible verses mentioned in this podcast: John 14:23-24, 1 John 5:3, Isaiah 64:6, Matthew 23:25, a href="https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?
The Key to Unlocking Wisdom and Responsibility in Kids | Ep. 77
Your child is misbehaving and you just want it to, “Stop!” You want to bring some control to the situation. Emotions escalate. The key to unlocking a Christ-like identity, wisdom, and responsibility in your kids is not a method or a formula. It’s connection.
How to Be Safe for Your Kids | Ep. 76
It’s normal to feel stuck in the frustration of trying to “fix” your child’s behavior. Despite exploring numerous parenting resources and methods, does your heart still feel unsettled? Like you, many other parents feel the same way. Patterns of control, yelling, blaming, and shaming only seem to bring greater disconnection in your relationship with your child. You want things to be different. You want to be safe for your kids, but the patterns seem too ingrained.How can you find a better way to discipline; making sure you are safe for your kids while remaining firm?
Today’s podcast gets right to the heart of the Connected Families’ unique and profound biblical Framework for parenting. Stacy Bellward (podcast host) is joined by Jim Jackson (co-founder of Connected Families) and Lydia Rex (Connected Families Parent Coach). Together they discuss the deep and lasting impact of the Connected Families Framework in their own families and in the families of those they work with every day.
In this podcast, you’ll learn:
* the vital shift from “fix my child” to “fix myself” as you seek to build an environment of emotional safety * how to approach parenting with curious questions instead of judgment as you build safety and wisdom * the toxic thoughts and lies that can keep you stuck in shame as a parent, and how you can identify them and replace them with God’s grace and truth * why humility is the “currency” of connection in discipline
The Connected Families “Secret Sauce” to genuine, heart-level change in parents and children occurs in communicating the most important messages that our kids long to hear: “You are safe with me” and “You are loved no matter what.” In Jesus’ love, you can show up with safety and connection and be the parent YOU long to be. Your own inner work will overflow to your child as you move past shame and despair to love and grace.
Parenting resources mentioned in this podcast:
* Connected Families Framework* Connected Families Framework Magnet* Discipline That Connects Fall 2021 Online Course* Discipline That Connects With Your Child’s Heart (book)* Join us on Connected Families Clubhouse Community!* Bible verses mentioned: Matthew 12:34, Psalm 139, Philippians 1:6, Romans 6:17,18, James 1:19
About Lydia Rex:
Lydia Rex is a registered nurse, wife, and mother of two and has worked with families in many capacities throughout h...
Why It’s Better to Parent in Community | Ep. 75
Ever feel alone or isolated as a parent? Between navigating your kids’ misbehavior in public, enduring other judgmental parents, and the demands of daily life, staying isolated can often feel easier than attempting social connection and events. Yet parenting without a solid community can bring feelings of anxiety, depression, and loneliness. Just like our kids, we as parents need to feel safety and connection in community too. That comes when we parent in community.
What holds us back from parenting in community? And what’s the way forward to more safe, connected, and meaningful parenting relationships?
Join us and our guest Heather MacFadyen, founder of Don’t Mom Alone, to hear how she worked through some rough seasons of isolation, and how she learned to build a life-giving parenting community around her. Heather joins Stacy Bellward (podcast host) and Jim Jackson (co-founder of Connected Families) to discuss her inner healing journey, and several life-changing truths that offered her hope and a new perspective.
Your child’s choices and behavior don’t define you. When you explore what is going on inside of you as a parent in the safety of God’s grace, you can find hope and a new perspective too. You can dispel the shame and fear that keeps you isolated from parenting in community.
In this podcast, you’ll discover:
* “Isolating ideas” that keep you from interacting with other parents and forming meaningful connection with them* The profound importance of starting with the Foundation of “What’s going on in me?”* How shame can keep us isolated from connecting with other parents* The Connected Families Framework that helps you embrace with grace the humanity of both you and your child
We are here for you in your parenting journey. Do you have a parenting testimony to share or have a parenting concern? If so please reach out to us! We hope you have learned life-giving tips today to help you parent with peace and connection.
About Heather MacFadyen:
Married and a mom to four sons, Heather struggled with the challenges of raising four young boys. She isolated herself from community, fearing embarrassment, rejection, and failure. Slowly she began to reach out to friends again and started to parent in community. Through prayer with friends, God healed wrong identities Heather was holding onto. She started a podcast called “God-Centered Mom” (now Don’t Mom Alone), a show that has been downloaded over 7 million times.
Resources mentioned in this podcast:
Heather MacFadyen’s website: https://dontmomalone.com/
Don’t Mom Alone: Growing the Relationships You Need to be the Mom You Want to Be by Heather MacFadyen
The Soul of Shame: Retelling the Stories We Believe About Ourselves by Curt Thompson
How to Raise a Responsible Student (Who Has a Social Life) | Ep. 74
If you’re like most parents, you want your child to be a responsible student. But you also want them to use their time wisely to they can have an active social life. (Aaaannnnd, it would be great if they were good at athletics, debate, excited about youth group every Wednesday night, AND could get their chores done without complaining. 😊)
Whatever your child’s strengths and challenges are, each school year brings a new set of hopes and dreams. You want your child to be a responsible student, but you also want them to learn life skills that will set them up for success outside of school.
Want a responsible student?
In this podcast, Stacy Bellward (podcast host) is joined by Bonnie Williams and Corrie Thetford (Connected Families Parent Coaches). This conversation will bring you incredibly practical and thoughtful strategies to guide your child toward responsibility in their schoolwork and beyond.
Coaching your child to be responsible can be an opportunity to build wisdom and connection. Find out how you can create a foundation of safety today that will open your child’s heart to work as a team with you, as you tackle all that life brings this year.
In this episode, you’ll hear:
* Ways to come alongside with support and encouragement while still holding your child responsible for their schoolwork * How certain expectations, beliefs, and demands can negatively impact your efforts to help your child* Lighthearted curious questions you can ask your child to build wisdom and set them up for success* The importance of discerning what’s under the surface causing anxiety and lack of motivation in your child’s schoolwork battles
Have you found yourself trying to figure out how to raise a responsible student? What strategies have helped you and your child navigate homework challenges? Is there something you would love to hear more about in our podcasts? We’d love to hear from you!
Resources mentioned in this podcast:
* Connected Families Framework* 4 Messages Every Child Longs to Hear (FREE ebook)* The “Just Right Challenge”* Connect with us and join our Clubhouse community!
About our guests on today’s podcast:
Bonnie Williams has a Master of Education in Special Education. She is a wife and the mother of 3 teenagers. She has supported students with learning and behavior challenges for over 25 years, specializing in working with parents with children ages 3 to 15. Helping families apply the Connected Families Framework is what Bonnie is passionate about. By doing this they can learn new strategies to grow in wisdom and help lead them in having peaceful, grace-filled homes. You can reach her by email at email@example.com.
Corrie Thetford has a Master of Arts in Marriage and Family Counseling. At some point she and her husband realized that the way they disciplined was driving a wedge between them and their kids. Because of this they sought coaching through Connected Families. Now, as Connected Families Certified Coaches, they work with other families to experience that same c...
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Connected Families is my number one resource for parenting. My husband and I have grown so much from this ministry and all of the resources they provide. The book, online classes, one on one coaching and this podcast have given us the tools we need to parent with love, grace and consistency. Having the framework to filter every situation through has been an absolute game changer. Not only has it helped us get on the same page with parenting but it has equipped us to disciple our three boys and encourage them in their character and faith. We are a closer family because of Jim and Lynn. This podcast is such a helpful way to continue on our path and gives us the reminders and nudges we need to thrive in parenting through the teen years. We are so very grateful for connected families!