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Connected Families Podcast Connected Families

    • Kids & Family
    • 4.9 • 314 Ratings

Parent with confidence. Lead with grace.

    Coaching Your Kids to “Make It Right”

    Coaching Your Kids to “Make It Right”

    Do you sometimes struggle to think of an appropriate consequence for your child’s misbehavior?  Or dole out punishment only to have your child refuse to accept the punishment? Sigh. 







    Offering consistent and effective discipline can feel like an ongoing and overwhelming challenge. 















    In today’s episode, Chad Hayenga (Connected Families Director of Education & Equipping), and Katie Wetsell (Connected Families Certified Parent Coach) join Stacy Bellward (podcast host) to discuss what effective discipline can look like. (It IS possible!) The conversation explores the messages we send through discipline and how to coach children to be responsible for their actions.







    In this podcast you’ll discover:







    * 3 key questions to ask in any discipline situation* how to work with your child as a team for more effective discipline* the opportunity in discipline to offer and receive God’s grace and forgiveness* how to help your child see the natural impacts of their behavior* how to guide your child to “make it right” * how “paused privileges” can help motivate a child 







    We hope that you have been encouraged by today’s podcast, and we look forward to getting to know you. Please check out our website, and don’t forget to reach out if you need help. It is a joy to be able to walk with you as you parent your kids in God’s grace and truth!







    Mentioned in this podcast:







    * Discipline That Connects With Your Child’s Heart online course registration * Connected Families Parent Coach Certification* Connected Families Parent Coaching* Connected Families Podcast* Galatians 6:7 







    Guest Bio: 







    Katie Wetsell is our Discipline That Connects online course moderator. She is also a Connected Families Certified Parent Coach, pediatric nurse, and mom of four through birth and adoption. She is passionate about encouraging and empowering parents to love their families with confidence and connection. Building on her bedside experience, she has also been trained in SPACE treatment (Supportive Parenting for Anxious Childhood Emotions) to help parents support their children in overcoming anxiety. Her website is www.parentwithhope.org.







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    • 49 min
    Why "Calm Down!" Doesn't Work

    Why "Calm Down!" Doesn't Work

    In today’s episode, Corrie and Alan Thetford (founders of Building Wise Families and Connected Families Certified Parent Coaches) join Stacy Bellward (podcast host) to discuss how to help our children want to calm down when they are experiencing big emotions. The conversation explores what’s going on in us as parents when we try to make our child calm down, the role of empathy in supporting our child’s big emotions, and what’s going on beneath the surface of our child’s big outburst.  















    In this podcast, you’ll discover:







    * what’s happening in your child’s brain and body that makes them not want to calm down* how your good intentions to make your child stop or take a break during a meltdown can actually escalate emotions* empathy’s role in helping your child feel understood and able to move through big emotions so they want to calm* why something small is often the trigger for your child’s cascade of emotion







    We hope that you have been encouraged by today’s podcast, and we look forward to getting to know you. Please check out our website, and don’t forget to reach out if you need help. It is a joy to be able to walk with you as you parent your kids in God’s grace and truth!







    Mentioned in this podcast:







    * Discipline That Connects With Your Child’s Heart online course  * Connected Families Parent Coaching* Connected Families Coaching Certification program* Corrie & Alan Thetford’s Podcast – Building Wise Families







    Guest Bio: 







    Alan and Corrie have four children and are Connected Families Certified Parent Coaches as well as instructors for CF coaches-in-training. They are passionate about multiplying the gospel by helping families transform power struggles and conflicts into opportunities for gospel messages.  















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    .stk-71fc858 .stk-block-heading__text{color:#FFFFFF !important}@media screen and (max-width:767px){.stk-71fc858 .stk-block-heading__text{font-size:23px !important}}Parent with confidence. Discipline with love.







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    • 32 min
    Calming Yourself Before Going Into Discipline

    Calming Yourself Before Going Into Discipline

    “Why are you so mad all the time?” Do you ever hear this from your child? You probably don’t intend to look mad. You may not even be aware of your furrowed brow or irritated expression. And it’s especially hard to keep your cool in the heat of the moment when your child pushes your buttons.







    But what message does your expression send to your child? Sure, you could try to put on a happy face and force a polite smile, but it’s not the most effective or long-term solution. So what can you do to keep things truly calm?















    In today’s podcast, Jim and Lynne Jackson (Co-Founders of Connected Families) join Stacy Bellward (podcast host) to dig deep into an important principle of the Connected Families Framework. At the foundation level of the framework, you learn to move from “fast, large, and loud” to “slow, low, and listen.” This helps kids feel safe during discipline.







    Often, parents leverage fear and intensity to “change” kids’ behavior. But kids read facial expressions more than anything else. Have you ever noticed your child looking at your face and listening to the tone of your voice to discern if they are truly safe?







    So how do you show up safe for your kids?







    At Connected Families, we start with the question, “What’s going on in me?” and “What does my child see on my face in times of discipline?” When you are able to do this inner work, your calm demeanor toward your kids can be a true reflection of a peaceful heart, not just a contrived calm. Then you can have the emotional capacity to help your struggling child. This will help guide them toward wisdom, connection, and grace, with true compassion. 







    In this podcast, you’ll learn:







    * how to work toward becoming truly calm on the inside, not just on the outside* practical tools for the heat of the moment to help you regulate your nervous system (and then help your child regulate too!)* the science of creating brain pathways that can help you respond better in future discipline situations* the transforming power of the principles in the Discipline That Connects With Your Child’s Heart online course, and the beautiful testimony of one mom’s parenting journey through the course







    We hope that you have been helped by today’s podcast, and we look forward to getting to know you. Please check out our website, and don’t forget to reach out if you need help. It is a joy to be able to walk with you as you parent your kids in God’s grace and truth! 







    Mentioned in this podcast:







    * Discipline That Connects With Your Child’s Heart online course* Framework magnet* Connected Families Framework* Michael McKnight* Do-overs* Bible verses: 2 Corinthians 10:5, a href="https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?

    • 42 min
    Kids and Misbehavior: Sin? Or Something Else?

    Kids and Misbehavior: Sin? Or Something Else?

    Is it sin when my child misbehaves? Or is there something else going on under the surface? What is gentle parenting? What is biblical parenting? This topic is definitely making the rounds right now on social media, in churches, and in our homes. It can be overwhelming and confusing. What is true? What does the Bible really say about all of this? If you are struggling with all the controversy around this topic, you are in good company with so many other parents, and you will not want to miss this episode!















    In today’s podcast, Stacy Bellward is joined by Lynne Jackson (Occupational Therapist and Connected Families Co-Founder) and Amanda Erickson (Co-Founder of Flourishing Homes and Families) to sift through and decipher the many messages we get as parents about the topic of sin and misbehavior. They discuss the importance of understanding underlying issues, being able to connect with your child, and seeing the opportunity to set your child up for success in the moment and for the future.           







    Our best parenting leaves our kids eager to receive the guidance and conviction of the Holy Spirit, as we model the grace and reconciliation we all receive from Jesus. When you prioritize this kind of connection, you equip your child to grow in wisdom and in their God-given purpose.







    In this podcast, you’ll learn about:







    * teaching the beauty of repentance without the shame, celebrating the growing process, and leaving the job of conviction to the Holy Spirit             * Ancient Hebrew culture, and how their understanding of childhood can bring context to the biblical wisdom that informs your parenting* how aspects of brain science align with biblical parenting, and how it can bring a tender perspective to your parenting as you disciple your growing child* practical and biblical ways you can respond with love in misbehavior to help calm and guide your child toward wisdom and connection







    Has this podcast been helpful to you today? If so, would you mind taking a minute to share it with other parents who need some encouragement too? You can also subscribe to this podcast. We want to share God’s grace and truth with more parents just like you. Have questions? Please reach out, we are here to help!







    Mentioned in this podcast:







    * 7 Practical Calming Strategies for Kids: The FREE Online Course* Flourishing Homes and Families* Perspectives on Spanking FREE ebook * Doctrine of Grace in Parenting podcast Ep.96* Dr. John Taylor* Connected Families Framework* Connected Families FREE Resources* Discipline That Connects With Your Child’s Heart Online Course* Scripture verses: a...

    • 41 min
    The Gospel in Our Parenting

    The Gospel in Our Parenting

    What difference does the gospel make in our lives? In our parenting? 







    The message of God’s love communicates the unconditional truth that each of us has been made in the image of God. Our connection with Jesus brings hope and transformation to every area of our lives. 







    The love and grace of God is the source of everything we do at Connected Families. One of the things that sets us apart is that we work to make scripture practical for parents. The Bible is our sure foundation and the first resource we consider in our teaching.















    Today’s podcast is the first of two podcasts about how the gospel informs the Connected Families Framework. Stacy Bellward (podcast host) is joined by Connected Families Co-Founders Jim and Lynne Jackson to discuss how being a new creation in Christ can bring change into every part of our lives–including the everyday trials of parenting! 







    We can live rooted and grounded in Jesus and put our trust in Him instead of the outcomes we’re looking for with our children. We can build our identity as redeemed children of God, bestowed with every spiritual blessing and created for God’s purpose and design. This abundant life in Christ then pours out and blesses those around us, especially our children!    







    In this podcast:







    In today’s podcast, you will discover how the gospel is infused into the first three levels of our Framework:







    * “You are SAFE with me.” Jesus is there to help you when you feel anxious or overwhelmed. He can help you explore, “What’s going on in me?” In Christ, you have the ability to be ok, even when your kids are not ok, because your identity is in Jesus. * “You are LOVED no matter what.” Neither you nor your child has to do something or change before Jesus loves you. Misbehavior is the golden opportunity to show unconditional love to your kids.* “You are CALLED and CAPABLE.” The deeper you are able to receive God’s grace and truth for yourself, the more peace and confidence you can embrace as you coach your kids. God will partner with you as you help them grow in His purpose for their life. 







    Stay tuned for the second part of this podcast, “Kids and Misbehavior: Is it sin? Or something else?” as we continue the conversation about the gospel and the Connected Families Framework. You won’t want to miss the eye-opening discussion about the last level of the Framework, “You are RESPONSIBLE for your actions.” In the meantime check out our FREE resources!







    Helpful resources mentioned in this podcast:







    * 7 Practical Calming Strategies for Kids: The FREE Online Course* Discipline That Connects With Your Child’s Heart Online Course* Connected Families Framework* Scripture verses: 2 Corinthians 5:17, a href="https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?

    • 40 min
    My Child Freaks Out Easily | Ep. 106

    My Child Freaks Out Easily | Ep. 106

    “These clothes are itchy!” “I can’t eat this, it’s mushy!” Meltdowns at bedtime. High energy at mealtime. Lots of big feelings about everything! There is usually at least one child like this in every family! If your child freaks out easily and you can relate, it is very possible that you are parenting a sensitive and intense child.







    What do we mean by sensitive and intense? It’s not an official medical term or a diagnosis. It’s simply a descriptive way to guide how we look at the kiddos that become easily overwhelmed with everyday life. These kids are more sensitive to the world around them and struggle to become calm and regulated. They often think more deeply, react more loudly, and probably consume a lot of your energy as a parent!















    On today’s podcast, Stacy Bellward is joined by Lynne Jackson (Co-Founder of Connected Families and Occupational Therapist) and Lydia Rex (RN and Connected Families Parent Coach) to bring you compelling information that will transform how you see your sensitive and intense kids. You will feel equipped to care for your child by approaching their challenges through the lens of their nervous system, and not just from a behavioral standpoint. 







    When you meet the sensory needs of your child, it enables you to focus on forming deep bonds of connection instead of just striving for conflict management. Parenting a sensitive and intense child is actually an amazing gift when we see their potential and build their identity around God’s grace and truth in their lives.







    In this podcast, you’ll discover:







    * what sensory challenges may look like in your child, and how to look beneath the surface of their misbehavior* the brain science: What is happening in your child’s brain and body when they struggle with sensory overload?* how to cultivate a mindset of connection as you meet your child’s sensory needs* practical strategies (from years of experience!) to help your child regulate their nervous system and feel more calm







    Do you have a sensitive and intense child? You are not alone and God’s grace abounds for you and your family. If you need further help we offer Parent Coaching and would love to work with you as you seek to parent in God’s grace and truth.







    Mentioned in this podcast:







    * 7 Practical Calming Strategies for Kids: The Free Online Course* Episode 89: A Powerful New Perspective for Parenting* Episode 93: Help! Homeschooling is Overwhelming* Ephesians 2:10* Isaiah 40:11* Connected Families Framework







    Guest bio:







    Lydia Rex is a registered nurse, wife, and mother of two and has worked with families in many capacities throughout her career and personal life.

    • 33 min

Customer Reviews

4.9 out of 5
314 Ratings

314 Ratings

Hobbs in NA ,

Attachment Episode

So so so good! So grateful for encouragement in diving deeper into what the Word says about this!

fightforjoy ,

The Best Parenting Podcast!

So much grace comes through the people who do this podcast. They seek to reflect the gentle and lowly Christ while being super practical to start shifting your parenting from behavior modification to instilling wisdom so that your kids see the glory of God.

Also, the role plays are not only fun and great to imitate, they have the ability to be a mirror with how our parenting can be so ugly, but able to change so quickly with a heart shift and a willingness to ask a thoughtful question.

Love these people. :)

whateverislovely89 ,

Bad theology

Love the positive connected families idea….but some of what they say is not true theology. Always make sure to check that anything you listen to lines up with scripture and what the actual Bible says.

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